Quote by Phoenix
I have kids so i cannot accomadate, and very very few guys can accomate either
Dare I say it.... No..... Yes .....No... Oh the turmoil... I can accomodate
:lol2:
well fancy that:wink:
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Sex God
Thought the kids were at school and you worked nights so your daytimes are (relatively) free. would have thought it was better to arrange to meet someone you had at least some confidence in of meeting your needs, than someone you'd never even spoken to who's only looking to satisfy themselves.
i understand the risks of home meets, at yours or theirs, which is why the neutral ground first meet is is good idea. you seem like a fairly intelligent woman (yes, i did just say that) and would have thought you'd have the experience to spot the fakes, time wasters and dodgy blokes. just seems like your club visits are more beneficial to the guys than yourself
i understand the risks of home meets, at yours or theirs, which is why the neutral ground first meet is is good idea. you seem like a fairly intelligent woman (yes, i did just say that) and would have thought you'd have the experience to spot the fakes, time wasters and dodgy blokes. just seems like your club visits are more beneficial to the guys than yourself
Quote by meat2pleaseu
Thought the kids were at school and you worked nights so your daytimes are (relatively) free. would have thought it was better to arrange to meet someone you had at least some confidence in of meeting your needs, than someone you'd never even spoken to who's only looking to satisfy themselves.
i understand the risks of home meets, at yours or theirs, which is why the neutral ground first meet is is good idea. you seem like a fairly intelligent woman (yes, i did just say that) and would have thought you'd have the experience to spot the fakes, time wasters and dodgy blokes. just seems like your club visits are more beneficial to the guys than yourself
well Uncle Meaty (mind if i just squidge on your knee a min while we have a chat
)To be honest day time meets is not something that has ever really interested me, don't know why me personally would rather get dressed up, go out for a drink and a chat then go back to whereever for a bit of fun :wink: rather than someone turning up at my house with me in my jeans and slipper have a coffee then a 'so do you fancy it then or what' kinda thing
and b4 you say it no i'm not getting dressed up to sit at home and have a cuppa with someone 
i have done the odd few day time home meets with guys i know from muches etc but i just feel they're to rushed and i was forever looking at the clock to see if it was time to pick the nipper up :lol: As for spotting fakes i think i am quite good at that, i can sniff a guy posing as a women from a 100 yards lol however we can't be right all the time and i have met some really dodgy people off here that have seemed ok at the time or arranging, its just a case of a balancing act and sorting out whats going to work best for you, if i knew personally more local people who didn't have to travel hours to get here thus leaving very little time b4 i had to pick nipper up i would be happy to entertain at home during the day more, but sadly i do not
Hope this is all ok with you :wink:
Quote by meat2pleaseu
you seem like a fairly intelligent woman (yes, i did just say that)
see i told you ya liked me really :lol2:
Sex God
Quote by naughtynymphos1
Thought the kids were at school and you worked nights so your daytimes are (relatively) free. would have thought it was better to arrange to meet someone you had at least some confidence in of meeting your needs, than someone you'd never even spoken to who's only looking to satisfy themselves.
i understand the risks of home meets, at yours or theirs, which is why the neutral ground first meet is is good idea. you seem like a fairly intelligent woman (yes, i did just say that) and would have thought you'd have the experience to spot the fakes, time wasters and dodgy blokes. just seems like your club visits are more beneficial to the guys than yourself
well Uncle Meaty (mind if i just squidge on your knee a min while we have a chat
)To be honest day time meets is not something that has ever really interested me, don't know why me personally would rather get dressed up, go out for a drink and a chat then go back to whereever for a bit of fun :wink: rather than someone turning up at my house with me in my jeans and slipper have a coffee then a 'so do you fancy it then or what' kinda thing
and b4 you say it no i'm not getting dressed up to sit at home and have a cuppa with someone i have done the odd few day time home meets with guys i know from muches etc but i just feel they're to rushed and i was forever looking at the clock to see if it was time to pick the nipper up :lol: As for spotting fakes i think i am quite good at that, i can sniff a guy posing as a women from a 100 yards lol however we can't be right all the time and i have met some really dodgy people off here that have seemed ok at the time or arranging, its just a case of a balancing act and sorting out whats going to work best for you, if i knew personally more local people who didn't have to travel hours to get here thus leaving very little time b4 i had to pick nipper up i would be happy to entertain at home during the day more, but sadly i do not
Hope this is all ok with you :wink:
Quote by meat2pleaseu
you seem like a fairly intelligent woman (yes, i did just say that)
see i told you ya liked me really :lol2:
I'm Local and free daytimes :rascal:
Sex God
Quote by naughtynymphos1
Interesting thread.
The title is "good at sex", which I always thought was a joint venture, and yet EVERY post (except one by meaty which was completely ignored) is purely about females' pleasure.
Might I suggest that your man might be more inclined to make more of an effort if you were to think about what HE wants once in a while? Staring motionless at the ceiling and then complaining about HIS performance doesn't cut it I'm afraid.
:shock: :shock: :shock: :shock:
now hang on a min here
thats fighting talk
i have lost count of the amount of time i have met guys and all they have wanted is a bj and soon as they have cum thats it they off, or the guys who lay there and have a bj and b4 you have even done they have the condom open in hand ready to put on and start shagging :roll:
And I've lost count of women who just lie there expecting me to do everything and give nothing back. There are men who are crap in bed and hey, guess what, there are women who are crap in bed too, but precious few women will accept their share of the responsibility, as this thread proves.
P.S does that fact that its mainly on about what women do and done get out of it tell you we have more to moan about
No, it just tells me most women are self-centred.
well guess i must just be judging all women on my standards then :wink:
I don't know about that, but you do seem to be judging all men on the assumption that good sex is their sole responsibility and that bad sex is their sole fault.
As I said in my first post, I always thought sex was a joint activity where people try to please each other, but from the majority of responses from women in this thread, it would appear they don't agree.
Quote by Ice Pie
Interesting thread.
The title is "good at sex", which I always thought was a joint venture, and yet EVERY post (except one by meaty which was completely ignored) is purely about females' pleasure.
Might I suggest that your man might be more inclined to make more of an effort if you were to think about what HE wants once in a while? Staring motionless at the ceiling and then complaining about HIS performance doesn't cut it I'm afraid.
:shock: :shock: :shock: :shock:
now hang on a min here
thats fighting talk
i have lost count of the amount of time i have met guys and all they have wanted is a bj and soon as they have cum thats it they off, or the guys who lay there and have a bj and b4 you have even done they have the condom open in hand ready to put on and start shagging :roll:
And I've lost count of women who just lie there expecting me to do everything and give nothing back. There are men who are crap in bed and hey, guess what, there are women who are crap in bed too, but precious few women will accept their share of the responsibility, as this thread proves.
P.S does that fact that its mainly on about what women do and done get out of it tell you we have more to moan about
No, it just tells me most women are self-centred.
well guess i must just be judging all women on my standards then :wink:
I don't know about that, but you do seem to be judging all men on the assumption that good sex is their sole responsibility and that bad sex is their sole fault.
I hate all men
aww lighten up nobody ever take me serious lol
I say everything on here with a pinch of salt, i can only speak from my experiences and i'm sorry but in the swinging scene i have found quite a lot of guys who are only into for themselves, i cannot speak from a male point of view about how women are and i am female (be it not a very good one i'll grant you that :lol2
but of course theres going to be women who are just in it for themselves too but i was speaking of my experiences :wink: Sex God
Quote by naughtynymphos1
I'm Local and free daytimes :rascal:
yeah but are you brave enough to come to.....drum roll......tipton :shock:
as long as i can get a security guard to watch the car :giggle:
Sex God
Quote by naughtynymphos1
I hate all men
aww lighten up nobody ever take me serious lol
I say everything on here with a pinch of salt, i can only speak from my experiences and i'm sorry but in the swinging scene i have found quite a lot of guys who are only into for themselves, i cannot speak from a male point of view about how women are and i am female (be it not a very good one i'll grant you that :lol2
I was just bringing a little balance to the thread in pointing out that women are just as crap in bed as men. ;)
Quote by Ice Pie
I hate all men
aww lighten up nobody ever take me serious lol
I say everything on here with a pinch of salt, i can only speak from my experiences and i'm sorry but in the swinging scene i have found quite a lot of guys who are only into for themselves, i cannot speak from a male point of view about how women are and i am female (be it not a very good one i'll grant you that :lol2
I was just bringing a little balance to the thread in pointing out that women are just as crap in bed as men. ;)
i know i get told all the time :shock:
Sex God
Quote by naughtynymphos1
I'm Local and free daytimes :rascal:
yeah but are you brave enough to come to.....drum roll......tipton :shock:
as long as i can get a security guard to watch the car :giggle:
right 10am monday morning, my place get the train
thanks for the offer, but im working. and some scrote has stolen tipton station :giggle:
Quote by meat2pleaseu
I'm Local and free daytimes :rascal:
yeah but are you brave enough to come to.....drum roll......tipton :shock:
as long as i can get a security guard to watch the car :giggle:
right 10am monday morning, my place get the train
thanks for the offer, but im working. and some scrote has stolen tipton station :giggle:
no its ok i made the kids take it back
Quote by Ice Pie
I hate all men
aww lighten up nobody ever take me serious lol
I say everything on here with a pinch of salt, i can only speak from my experiences and i'm sorry but in the swinging scene i have found quite a lot of guys who are only into for themselves, i cannot speak from a male point of view about how women are and i am female (be it not a very good one i'll grant you that :lol2
I was just bringing a little balance to the thread in pointing out that women are just as crap in bed as men. ;)
Are we ? :smoke:
Quote by blonde
I hate all men
aww lighten up nobody ever take me serious lol
I say everything on here with a pinch of salt, i can only speak from my experiences and i'm sorry but in the swinging scene i have found quite a lot of guys who are only into for themselves, i cannot speak from a male point of view about how women are and i am female (be it not a very good one i'll grant you that :lol2
I was just bringing a little balance to the thread in pointing out that women are just as crap in bed as men. ;)
Are we ? :smoke:
well of course he didn't mean you blonde my sexy little chicken :wink:
Quote by Ice Pie
Interesting thread.
The title is "good at sex", which I always thought was a joint venture, and yet EVERY post (except one by meaty which was completely ignored) is purely about females' pleasure.
Might I suggest that your man might be more inclined to make more of an effort if you were to think about what HE wants once in a while? Staring motionless at the ceiling and then complaining about HIS performance doesn't cut it I'm afraid.
It's quite difficult to write anything on the subject without either putting in gender based pronouns or sounding very, very odd, but what I wrote was intended to apply equally to all genders/ combinations of genders. I think Communication, Confidence, Compatibility and attraction to Shape are important for both parties, and in all situations if the sex is going to be particularly good.
oooops I didn't want to start a fight 
Seems to me that, even in this modern age of liberation and experimentation, this is still quite a touchy subject.
Seems from your answers that sex, in the party swinging scene, is purely about receiving physical pleasure and nothing more.
In the one on one situation, then it does seem to be more of a mutual pleasure situation - and the individuals personalities do have a role to play. Bit of role playing anyone????? :silly:
I know its an age old cliche, but for me a sense of humour is hugely important - someone who can make me laugh and visa versa (note that IcePie) is already half way there to pushing my buttons.
Thanks you guys and gals for your comments.
Seems to me that, even in this modern age of liberation and experimentation, this is still quite a touchy subject.
Seems from your answers that sex, in the party swinging scene, is purely about receiving physical pleasure and nothing more.
In the one on one situation, then it does seem to be more of a mutual pleasure situation - and the individuals personalities do have a role to play. Bit of role playing anyone????? :silly:
I know its an age old cliche, but for me a sense of humour is hugely important - someone who can make me laugh and visa versa (note that IcePie) is already half way there to pushing my buttons.
Thanks you guys and gals for your comments.
Quote by princess pussy
Seems from your answers that sex, in the party swinging scene, is purely about receiving physical pleasure and nothing more.
OK, I'm confused here. Speaking as a guy, if I was only interested in my own pleasure, why wouldn't I just visit a prostitute? It would probably turn out cheaper than going to most swinging clubs as a single guy.
Even in a swinging environment I'd want to know the people I'm with are enjoying themselves too. Otherwise what's the point?
Casanova
Quote by meat2pleaseu
a bit of effort goes a long way. had a one nighter with a girl i met in a club (back when i was a yoof) gave her a good hours worth of tongue lashings before the main event and she just lay there waiting for me to do all the work. got bored by this point, faked it and went to sleep.
found out a few months later that a couple of friends had also met this same girl elsewhere and had the same results so i'm guessing she just had no confidence or something, so ladies you put the effort in i'll put mine in :rascal:
Yep know what that like you do all the work and she cant be bothered to join in! Not that she didnt enjoy it she just lay back and thought of england or somthing between the moaning.
The lady using her imagination get me going. its all about trying to please your partner/s putting the effort in and in return hope that they try to do the same for you
Master of Sex
Very thought provoking thread this one.
Naughty, your comments on guys in clubs made me wonder - is it possible that a single fella, having paid £50-£100 annual membership and about £25 entrance fee thinks to himself " i've paid all that money, women and couples in here have only paid a fraction of that amount, so i'm gonna get what I can out of it and so long as i enjoy myself, who cares" ??? If single guys have that attitude in a club (and i'm sure lots do) it would explain why ladies are sometimes left disappointed?
Not speaking from experience by the way, i've only been to chams as part of a couple.
And i'm NOT labelling all guys as the same, just wondering if some have that attitude?
Naughty, your comments on guys in clubs made me wonder - is it possible that a single fella, having paid £50-£100 annual membership and about £25 entrance fee thinks to himself " i've paid all that money, women and couples in here have only paid a fraction of that amount, so i'm gonna get what I can out of it and so long as i enjoy myself, who cares" ??? If single guys have that attitude in a club (and i'm sure lots do) it would explain why ladies are sometimes left disappointed?
Not speaking from experience by the way, i've only been to chams as part of a couple.
And i'm NOT labelling all guys as the same, just wondering if some have that attitude?
I reckon I'm pretty good at sex. For me the greatest pleasure is how pleased I am with myself when I make a girl cum.
The best is when you know someone enough to know what they like. Last night I had sex with an ex from a few years ago who is now a close friend. We know pretty much everything about each other. What we have come to realise more recently is how dominant I like to be and how submissive she likes to be. You have to have real trust to abuse or be abused in the way we like it. Anyway, we were basically at it all night last night until she could hardly move, she was just kind of shaking and twitching, I still hadn't cum by this point and she wasn't in a position to give me a BJ or anything so I didn't cum until after I'd slept and she'd gone. Got a text off her today saying that last night was the best sex she'd had in years, if not ever. That text gave me real deep sexual satisfaction.
The best is when you know someone enough to know what they like. Last night I had sex with an ex from a few years ago who is now a close friend. We know pretty much everything about each other. What we have come to realise more recently is how dominant I like to be and how submissive she likes to be. You have to have real trust to abuse or be abused in the way we like it. Anyway, we were basically at it all night last night until she could hardly move, she was just kind of shaking and twitching, I still hadn't cum by this point and she wasn't in a position to give me a BJ or anything so I didn't cum until after I'd slept and she'd gone. Got a text off her today saying that last night was the best sex she'd had in years, if not ever. That text gave me real deep sexual satisfaction.
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I reckon I'm pretty good at sex. For me the greatest pleasure is how pleased I am with myself when I make a girl cum.
The best is when you know someone enough to know what they like. Last night I had sex with an ex from a few years ago who is now a close friend. We know pretty much everything about each other. What we have come to realise more recently is how dominant I like to be and how submissive she likes to be. You have to have real trust to abuse or be abused in the way we like it. Anyway, we were basically at it all night last night until she could hardly move, she was just kind of shaking and twitching, I still hadn't cum by this point and she wasn't in a position to give me a BJ or anything so I didn't cum until after I'd slept and she'd gone. Got a text off her today saying that last night was the best sex she'd had in years, if not ever. That text gave me real deep sexual satisfaction.
oooooooo get you, what you doing later
Going back to what Bazza64 said i think i tend to agree with you here, we was at a club a cpl years ago and some guy tryed to have sex with the woman i was playing with and this point her partner jumped in and said something alone the lines of...excuse me m8 if you want to join in you can at least ask and you don't have sex with her without a condom anyway....fair comment i suppose, to this the single guy replyed...i don't have to ask i have payed my money to get in i have the rights to shag who i like :shock:
