Good or Bad or in between

8 Sep 2006

Right i've seen a few threads recently about non replys to PM's and chat greetings also in the signs thread post by my self included talking about being civil and "nice"
Now this is in response in my instance anyway to the single guys who are not so nice on here ie directing, whispering sending unsolicited PM's ect.
I'ts just planted in my head the question "can you be too nice/polite or civil" on here confused

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ie: is this the other extreme and does it show another form of shag at any price or desperation like being bad mannered does.

8 Sep 2006

Hiya goose wave

Ive swung as a single female and now as half of a cpl,and i dont think you can be too civil or polite ever. I have never overlooked anyone for being too polite but have knocked loads of the list for rudness or being all i would be looking for any swinging experience to be one of respect.I personaly also look for some expresion of passion and manliness too lol
The only downside i can see is if your too polite/civil it may take awhile for someone to work out that yes you are intrested in them,unless you come out and say it. Or have PM'd them in response to a advert.
:thumbup: for politness,passion and manliness
Nicky

8 Sep 2006

I was once told, on here, that I'd get laid more often if I dropped the "nice guy image"
:shock:

8 Sep 2006

Same here Nicky :thumbup:
I don't think you can be TOO polite unless it stops hinders your progress with someone. You have to find the balance between building a rapport with someone and actually making your move. Somewhere in all that, you should get a response either way from the other person.
Not sure that made sense when reading it back but it sounded good in my head :giggle:

8 Sep 2006

Quote by dambuster

I was once told, on here, that I'd get laid more often if I dropped the "nice guy image"
:shock:

Think i heard you say that. Question is where is the line confused

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I feel again there is no answer but can't wait to see more on this.

:thumbup: for politness,passion and manliness

Hi Swing thats what i try to do.

8 Sep 2006

I personally think that being too polite/civil should not be confused with somebody who doesn't have a strong criteria about who they would like to play with. (Which of course is their right!).
Goose I many be wrong here and I apologise if I am overstepping the mark, but are you concerned that because you are such a nice and polite chap, we may be thinking that you want to get in our knickers? (I only include myself because I'm female!).
I really don't know how to pin-point it exactly but I find it very easy to tell the difference between somebody who is creeping and somebody who is just a nice person. The person who is only polite because they are after something usually lets their mask slip sooner or later.
If what somebody says is genuine then it can never be too nice IMHO. Manners cost nothing but they can tell you a lot.

8 Sep 2006

Or you could look at it this way... does it really matter unless you are after something lol

8 Sep 2006

Quote by DeviousLiasons
Hiya goose
Ive swung as a single female and now as half of a cpl,and i dont think yo :giggle: :giggle: u can be too civil or polite ever. I have never overlooked anyone for being too polite but have knocked loads of the list for rudness or being all i would be looking for any swinging experience to be one of respect.I personaly also look for some expresion of passion and manliness too lol
The only downside i can see is if your too polite/civil it may take awhile for someone to work out that yes you are intrested in them,unless you come out and say it. Or have PM'd them in response to a advert.
:thumbup: for politness,passion and manliness
Nicky

Is it rude to fall asleep on the sofa at a party then?
redface

I wasnt asleep, id knocked my self out on the fookin patio doors rotflmao

:giggle: :giggle: :giggle:

8 Sep 2006

Quote by Kiss
Goose I many be wrong here and I apologise if I am overstepping the mark, but are you concerned that because you are such a nice and polite chap, we may be thinking that you want to get in our knickers? (I only include myself because I'm female!).

No not concerned its just a few threads / posts i've seen recently have mad me question. I'm not talking going from one extreme to another just wanted thoughts. I was bought up to be polite and well mannered and will allways be. Just sometimes you wonder as in the non swinging world the good folks get shat on for want of a better expression not thats happened to me on here it's just what i see.

Quote by Kiss
If what somebody says is genuine then it can never be too nice IMHO. Manners cost nothing but they can tell you a lot.

Exactly

8 Sep 2006

Quote by dambuster

I was once told, on here, that I'd get laid more often if I dropped the "nice guy image"
:shock:

But has it worked?
bolt

8 Sep 2006

Not sure that the nice guy thing works, full stop! Well, never does seem to for me... sad

I guess that politeness in here is good since who would want to meet seomeone rude? However, there's nothing wrong with being flirtatious and maybe even a little dirty if it's done in the right manner. At least I hope that's the case... wink

8 Sep 2006

Quote by minotaur
Not sure that the nice guy thing works, full stop! Well, never does seem to for me...
I guess that politeness in here is good since who would want to meet seomeone rude? However, there's nothing wrong with being flirtatious and maybe even a little dirty if it's done in the right manner. At least I hope that's the case...

That'd work for me :wink:

8 Sep 2006

Quote by madchick
I want polite, well mannered and (for want of a better word) nice when chatting or just meeting.....
Then give me a BAD boy when it comes to sex....
Don't want much do I !!!

I think youve hit the nail on the head there for a lot of us!
A polite, charming guy who can flick the switch at just the right moment, throw you over the table & call you a slut whilst he rogers you senseless!

8 Sep 2006

Quote by Sassy-Seren
Not sure that the nice guy thing works, full stop! Well, never does seem to for me...
I guess that politeness in here is good since who would want to meet seomeone rude? However, there's nothing wrong with being flirtatious and maybe even a little dirty if it's done in the right manner. At least I hope that's the case...

That'd work for me :wink:
Oooo, don't say things like that - makes me go all tingly!
:shock:

8 Sep 2006

Quote by minotaur
Not sure that the nice guy thing works, full stop! Well, never does seem to for me...
I guess that politeness in here is good since who would want to meet seomeone rude? However, there's nothing wrong with being flirtatious and maybe even a little dirty if it's done in the right manner. At least I hope that's the case...

That'd work for me :wink:
Oooo, don't say things like that - makes me go all tingly!
:shock:
Yup, I still got it :smug:

8 Sep 2006

I was once told, on here, that I'd get laid more often if I dropped the "nice guy image"

Funny you should say that Dambuster.....
I myself was also brought up to be polite and well mannered...... in fact I won't send 'dirty messages' til I'm asked to....lol
On here I have no problem just being myself.... and I treat people that 'aren't in my zone' (is everyone stealing that expression now?) just the same as the people that I'd love to play with!
BUT - In the real world .... I have one of those 'Bad Guy' looks about me .....not my fault I just look like someone you wouldn't argue with :cry:
However - I've found that with females that I've met up with who didn't get to know me first ----- it's that 'bad guy' image that appealed to them ------ to the point where I honestly believe they felt a little 'Let Down' at the fact that I then treat them as an equal and a human being etc........ I'm not sure how they expected me to act ... maybe we should find some non-nice blokes to ask how to treat these ladies......????
Either way ---- it's far easier being me than trying to be some one I'm not .....so I ain't changing!
Even writing grammatically incorect sentences seems difficult never mind insulting a lady with some ---- I wanna stick my *****
No sorry ...can't finish that line .... in case it offended a reader
But then maybe it's just the way my mum brought me up...... cos I don't even like repeating some of the 'dirty jokes' I've heard to a female?
rolleyes

8 Sep 2006

Quote by winchwench
A polite, charming guy who can flick the switch at just the right moment, throw you over the table & call you a slut whilst he rogers you senseless!

:rascal: :rascal: :rascal: :rascal:
mind if i use the basis of that quote as my new signature..........????????
or do you need some confirmation first that it applies to me??
:rascal: :rascal: :rascal: hump

:hump: :hump: :hump: :hump:

:smackbottom:

8 Sep 2006

Quote by Atlantis
However - I've found that with females that I've met up with who didn't get to know me first ----- it's that 'bad guy' image that appealed to them ------ to the point where I honestly believe they felt a little 'Let Down' at the fact that I then treat them as an equal and a human being etc........ I'm not sure how they expected me to act ...

I would guess that pretty much sums it up for me too. I look mad

but I act

well, kinda...

8 Sep 2006

Quote by Atlantis
I don't even like repeating some of the 'dirty jokes' I've heard to a female?

It's ok, I've probably heard them all :giggle:

8 Sep 2006

Where is HP14?

8 Sep 2006

Quote by Sassy-Seren
Yup, I still got it :smug:

Did the cream and antibiotics not clear it up then? dunno

8 Sep 2006

Quote by PoloLady
Where is HP14?

Sunny South Bucks... biggrin

8 Sep 2006

I have to reveal that I've been called a gentleman on here twice this week!
That's me fucked then! wink

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8 Sep 2006

Quote by minotaur
Where is HP14?

Sunny South Bucks... biggrin

hhmmmm

8 Sep 2006

Quote by goose35
I'ts just planted in my head the question "can you be too nice/polite or civil" on here :

I don't think that people can be too polite, but in trying to be polite they can actually be thoughtless.
We've gone on to enjoy playing with a few couples after social meets, but there was one couple that loved us socially, but just didn't connect with us sexually. This is ok and we never mind people telling us politely, people also thank us when we are respectful enough to say this to them. The couple in question, however, continued to enjoy regular friendly chats with us online under false pretences. We thought that they wanted another meet, but they just liked talking to us and hadn't said so because they didn't want to say anything so rude (they thought). rolleyes

Online friendships are great, as long as you all know what they are! cool

Holly
x

8 Sep 2006

Quote by loveh4s

I'ts just planted in my head the question "can you be too nice/polite or civil" on here :

I don't think that people can be too polite, but in trying to be polite they can actually be thoughtless.
We've gone on to enjoy playing with a few couples after social meets, but there was one couple that loved us socially, but just didn't connect with us sexually. This is ok and we never mind people telling us politely, people also thank us when we are respectful enough to say this to them. The couple in question, however, continued to enjoy regular friendly chats with us online under false pretences. We thought that they wanted another meet, but they just liked talking to us and hadn't said so because they didn't want to say anything so rude (they thought). rolleyes

Online friendships are great, as long as you all know what they are! cool

Holly
x
Thanx holly thats helped.

8 Sep 2006

Quote by goose35

I was once told, on here, that I'd get laid more often if I dropped the "nice guy image"
:shock:

Think i heard you say that.
Question is where is the line confused

:
Ah - that's easily answered.
Unlike some lines, this one isn't fine at all. It's feckin huge, and about a mile and a half wide. Only those without any semblance of respect, courtesy or manners can't/won't see it.

Quote by winchwench
But has it worked?

Occasionally :twisted:

Quote by winchwench
A polite, charming guy who can flick the switch at just the right moment, throw you over the table & call you a slut whilst he rogers you senseless!

and

Quote by Atlantis
Funny you should say that Dambuster.....
I myself was also brought up to be polite and well mannered......

Now don't all go misunderstanding the "niceness" of "good ol' dammy" . . . . .
When we're doing the chair-fuck, and we get to the "rattle and slam" (which I'm nearly well enough to do again :grin: ) nice is possibly not the best word to describe me :twisted:
And I havebeen practising the art of takingher whether she's horned up or not 8)
But seriously . . . .
I don't see politeness and manners as something one does. It's something you are.
When push comes to shove, we can only be ourselves wink

We should be orselves, and we should be straight.

8 Sep 2006

With you there Dammie........right up until this bit:

We should be orselves, and we should be straight.

to that!!!!!!!!

8 Sep 2006

Quote by winchwench
With you there Dammie........right up until this bit:
We should be orselves, and we should be straight.

to that!!!!!!!!
Amen :smug:

9 Sep 2006

Quote by dambuster
I don't see politeness and manners as something one does. It's something you are.
When push comes to shove, we can only be ourselves
We should be orselves, and we should be straight.

Thats it ta Dammy :thumbup: