graphic pics..........is there a double standard?

26 Feb 2007

staggy.....
I am not into personal attacks and i am not about to start now..... you have a pm sitting in your inbox .. but I did just wanted to take out something you said in the original post....

Quote by wild rose and the stag
not going to give my personal opinion on whether i like to see them or not as im just one of many on here, what difference would telling you make anyway?

well I personally for one would like to hear it or I wouldn't have posed the original question in the first place..... as and I am sure that others would as well...
The world is made of various different positions.. heck if everyone had the same opinions then the world would be a boring place.....
me personally.... I like something more "erotic" than "pornographic" but that is just me, one lone person.... i am sure that others feel the same.... i am sure that others will feel differently...
I am not trying to get them stopped
I am not trying to get them banned....
all I was asking was if there was a double standard in the way they were looked at and/or perceived....
sean xxxxxxxxx

26 Feb 2007

fabio did i say you were trying to get anything stopped or banned , why are you suggesting im picking up on your comments, im not the one making this personal i never quoted you, just because you start a thread it doesnt make every reply on it specific to yourself, only when you quote or adress someone imho does it do that....
now why on earth do you want to know my personal opinion on if i like fanny, cock etc shots??, if you care to read other posts ive made on here, this thread, after i defended graphic pics on profiles, you will possibly be able to work out my opinion... it aint a big deal i just think its irelevant and would confuse the point i was making, hence leaving it out...
now finally why on earth tell me ive got a pm, i know ive got a pm, ive been here long enough to know what new mail means or are you telling everyone else ive got a pm?
you may have a reply then again you may not, only you need to know really. As its a PM.
staggy

26 Feb 2007

Quote by wild rose and the stag
No double standards here!
I don't like close up genital shots - male or female.

:thumbup:
That pretty much sums it up for me
but would you stop them appearing on the site?
Absolutely not. I said I don't particularly like them - I never said nobody else should wink

Yes this is a swinging site and people are here to have sex, but I'm not generally aroused by justkebab shots or justcock pics.
To me swinging is all about meeting sexy people, not just about jumping up and down on something erect - if it was I'd just stick to a vibrator lol

If a profile has a selection of pics such as, body shots in sexy underwear, breasts, Smiling sexy faces, I'd be much more turned on by it.

26 Feb 2007

Quote by wild rose and the stag
why not just change the title of the site to DATING HEAVEN,
surely if we cut the swinging side out there would be less to concern ourselves with, maybe even lower the age of members then, we would of course have to close the cam rooms and stop the overtly sexual behaviour that goes on in there, .....
or we could live and let live , expect to see cocks and tits and bums and fannies cos its a swinging site, where sex and sexual organs are generally of some importance compared to other non sexual sites...
the "offending" pictures come up as thumbnails, dont enlarge them, i know that doesnt stop you seeing them but perhaps not as graphicaly , i get the impression there are one or two mary whitehouses on here that just have to check out profiles to see what they can find offensive, and im not refering to anyone that has posted on this thread before this gets personal, if you want to be offended by that remark thats your doing not mine.
not going to give my personal opinion on whether i like to see them or not as im just one of many on here, what difference would telling you make anyway?
if people are swingers they will choose what they think is appropriate to sell themselves to other swingers, if folk are exhibitionists they will do the same through the profile system on here, and if people are here for just a natter then im sure they will put up whatever they feel apropriate if anything at all, just let folk get on with it or where the hell does it end??? This is A SEX SITE IS IT NOT, WELL SEX IS THE BASE OF MOST DISCUSSIONS ON HERE ALTHOUGH SOMETIMES WE HAVE TO WONDER WHERE THE SITE IS GOING
my apologies to any under age people reading this site or people who find cocks offensive, tits annoying , fannies disgusting and asses to in your face....perhaps sewing heaven might be more your site.
staggy

we couldn't agree more
we joined this site because we want to swing so fully expected to see explicit photos.
if things continue the way they are it will become more of a dating/social site.
everyone is different and has different opinions but they shouldn't be forced onto anybody else and other opinions should be respected

26 Feb 2007

Quote by fabio
we have in the past talking about seeing just cock pics in profiles and how people feel about that

I've highlighted a word from Fabio's original post as I think a few people have missed the point.
The question was related to whether we view female & male genital shots in the same way, but I think a few people missed the word I've highlighted.
Nobody has suggested that genitalia should be banned (although I understand where Staggy's coming from on the forum related issue to which I agree).
Suggesting that because some people don't want to JUSTsee genital shots, means we're on a slippery slope to vanilla is a tad extreme. :shock:
I'd be interested to know what kind of pics people like to see from other before you arrange a meet. dunno

For instance, would you arrange to meet after:
a) seeing only genital shots?
b) Do you like to see face pics first?
c) Do you like to cam first?
d) Do you meet socially for the 1st meet

26 Feb 2007

point taken HLB
staggy

26 Feb 2007

Quote by wild rose and the stag
No double standards here!
I don't like close up genital shots - male or female.

:thumbup:
That pretty much sums it up for me
but would you stop them appearing on the site?
I certainly wouldn't and never suggested otherwise. :shock:
Merely stating my personal perference at what floats my boat and what doesn't.

26 Feb 2007

I like a bit of intrigue but that's just my personal taste. I think it changes for me when I get to know someone and then I quite like seeing one or two naughty pics! :rascal:
I have no issue in seeing them in profiles or ads, it's a swinging site after all, hardly unexpected! lol

However, I'd be much more likely to reply to a PM that had a few witty lines than a picture of someone's bits, hard or soft!! :giggle:

27 Feb 2007

Thought I better do some perving of the gallery last night for the sake of this thread and have concluded I like seeing the vast majority of the pussy shots, but erect cocks on their own I dislike. But I am a bloke! biggrin

27 Feb 2007

At the beginning of this thread I didn't read it as genital shots being "offensive" at all, I believe Fabio was simply asking if there was a double standard with male and female shots and whether there were preferences amongst us which there clearly is.
Staggy and Jaymar, you are perfectly correct this is an adult swinging site catering for people who want to have recreational sex and genital shots have their place (quite rightly) and if folk are offended then surely this lifestyle isn't for them. Plain as.
However the word preference is the key to this thread I believe, we all have preferences slim/larger tall/short dark/blonde pierced/non pierced...I could go on.
As MikeC says genital shots have views in their thousands so they are clearly popular as one would expect on a swinging site. I certainly click on a few that intrigue me although I rarely view the gallery, more profiles.
My personal opinion is that I prefer to see sensual erotic shots. I must admit to being put off (not offended though) by a profile full of genital shots and nothing else. A genital shot amongst other body shots is fine, it's just not a focus for me (prefer to inspect them myself wink

) I am turned on to profiles with well written, humorous comments that show a little character and nice pics that at least show a little about their stature and way they present themselves.
I know I'm going off the point a bit, but to summarise it's about preferences and 'each to their own' and respecting everyone here is different and no one person's view is the correct one.
pink x

27 Feb 2007

if i am in pervy moad, its chatroom or videos for me, if i come across any intresting people on chat i will then perv at there profile..... :twisted:
the videos i just perv.... redface

In addition, i do if i have met someone that i havent played with and i am intrested in, i will more often than not go and have a perv at their pics,
Mike

27 Feb 2007

Quote by blueandpink
At the beginning of this thread I didn't read it as genital shots being "offensive" at all, I believe Fabio was simply asking if there was a double standard with male and female shots and whether there were preferences amongst us which there clearly is.
Staggy and Jaymar, you are perfectly correct this is an adult swinging site catering for people who want to have recreational sex and genital shots have their place (quite rightly) and if folk are offended then surely this lifestyle isn't for them. Plain as.
However the word preference is the key to this thread I believe, we all have preferences slim/larger tall/short dark/blonde pierced/non pierced...I could go on.
As MikeC says genital shots have views in their thousands so they are clearly popular as one would expect on a swinging site. I certainly click on a few that intrigue me although I rarely view the gallery, more profiles.
My personal opinion is that I prefer to see sensual erotic shots. I must admit to being put off (not offended though) by a profile full of genital shots and nothing else. A genital shot amongst other body shots is fine, it's just not a focus for me (prefer to inspect them myself ) I am turned on to profiles with well written, humorous comments that show a little character and nice pics that at least show a little about their stature and way they present themselves.
I know I'm going off the point a bit, but to summarise it's about preferences and 'each to their own' and respecting everyone here is different and no one person's view is the correct one.
pink x

great post pink, i totally agree...... ive been away for the night and i planned on penning a response to this thread when i got back today - thanks for saving me the typing! lol

28 Feb 2007

Dont think there is a double standard you either like close ups or you dont,we personally get our camera out as part of our fun taking hrs to get ready and enjoying a few drinks adds to a great sexy evening,others may just like to capture the real close up shot so what everyone to there own i suppose,as said earlier in the thread body shots do help you have a small insight to the people your viewing were as close ups leave no clues,happy snapping to all,xxxx

28 Feb 2007

Personally, I find both sexes' genitals attractive in themselves; I especially love the vulval area. But I also like erotic display too, darn it, I just like sex. If you only see genitals you don't get a particularly clear idea of the person involved other than that they are comfortable in displaying their genitals ( a plus point!)
I accept that some people get bored by the sight but have always been heartened by the number of women who say they enjoy seeing cocks. I helps to validate me in some way. I think it is because men's cocks are seen as disgusting, obscene, frightening, illegal or contemptible out there in the everyday world. That sort of thing gets to you after a while.