we have in the past talking about seeing just cock pics in profiles and how people feel about that.. and i hope that opened eyes to the people who do it...
but can i ask if it is the same attitude to pics with regards to women...
or is there a double standard going on......
just been going thru some ads and all i see are genital pics or close up action shots it got just me thinking?
sean xxxxxx
Unless a person has very 'photogenic' genitals, IMO they are far better in real life than frozen in a 'sterile / cold' 2D pic.
I dislike seeing erect cock pics on profiles, and I suspect many women feel the same.
genital and action shots do nothing for me at all. I like watching some porn, but that's not a still image. I'd rather see a seductive, have a look at what might be under the wrapping type pic than a here it is what do you think of it blatant everything hanging out pic any day
There's something incredible erotic about almost seeing but not quite....
And yes that does apply for both sexes
I too prefer not to see just genital shots. It's nice to see a more carfeully crafted image or even one when you can actually see a face, although I can understand why a lot of people wouldn't want to show theirs.
We dont think there is a double standard at all.
What you see all too clearly, and all too often displayed, is a shockingly low standard of "self-erotica".
The continual use of close up genital shots is not a turn on for either us or as far as we know any of our swinging friends (- we did the usual very unscientific straw poll to ascertain this amazing result).
We all enjoy "self-erotica" and we all enjoy a wide range of "self-erotica", but almost to a man (or woman) the "self-erotica" that is enjoyed most by all, is that which contains the 'nearly shot'.
- That is to say the almost fully revealed, the almost exposed, and those piccys which merely hint at the sexual explosion that might (or might not) be going on just under the surface.
Now, we dont critisize those that require a more 'closer to the bone' type of erotica - each to there own - and we have to say that a tastefully done cock shot has its merit, but it does become monotonous, and off putting after a very short while.
Lingerie, and a bit of thought about camera angles, lighting, and pose goes a long way to helping achieve that provocative and suggestive pose which inspires the mind and imagination, stimulating your most important sexual organ - YOUR BRAIN!!
We've done the best we can with our piccys (yeah we know they aint perfect by a long way but then we never claimed to be professional erotica merchants) and we do hope it shows, without showing if you know what we mean.
Anyway enough of me meanderings - I'm sure this was covered in another post somewhere but it is certainly a topic that could do with a regular airing.
When i first joined i did have a couple of naughty pictures up, because even though i didnt really want them to be there i thought it was the norm. Just from browsing profiles i did see a lot of genital shots from men and women. Even though it doesnt really bother me whether theyre there or not i definately wont be having any on mine. I do think its a bit more exciting when there is a little left to the imagination. But then again i do go into perving mode sometimes and have a sneaky peek but i just dont like my bits and bobs on show for all to see.
louise xx
As someone who's never had a pic on here - how do you know if it's theirs anyway? I know most are but there must be a few fakes too!
A picture of my cock bless it would look like any other guys, it's an ok reasonable sized normal cock!
However I don't object to pictures of them or of women close up, it's all what you see if you do do something with people though so much more to it than that of course.
Also not everyone can show their face!
why not just change the title of the site to DATING HEAVEN,
surely if we cut the swinging side out there would be less to concern ourselves with, maybe even lower the age of members then, we would of course have to close the cam rooms and stop the overtly sexual behaviour that goes on in there, .....
or we could live and let live , expect to see cocks and tits and bums and fannies cos its a swinging site, where sex and sexual organs are generally of some importance compared to other non sexual sites...
the "offending" pictures come up as thumbnails, dont enlarge them, i know that doesnt stop you seeing them but perhaps not as graphicaly , i get the impression there are one or two mary whitehouses on here that just have to check out profiles to see what they can find offensive, and im not refering to anyone that has posted on this thread before this gets personal, if you want to be offended by that remark thats your doing not mine.
not going to give my personal opinion on whether i like to see them or not as im just one of many on here, what difference would telling you make anyway?
if people are swingers they will choose what they think is appropriate to sell themselves to other swingers, if folk are exhibitionists they will do the same through the profile system on here, and if people are here for just a natter then im sure they will put up whatever they feel apropriate if anything at all, just let folk get on with it or where the hell does it end??? This is A SEX SITE IS IT NOT, WELL SEX IS THE BASE OF MOST DISCUSSIONS ON HERE ALTHOUGH SOMETIMES WE HAVE TO WONDER WHERE THE SITE IS GOING
my apologies to any under age people reading this site or people who find cocks offensive, tits annoying , fannies disgusting and asses to in your face....perhaps sewing heaven might be more your site.
staggy
wild rose and the stag,
Going by your post, I was expecting your profile to be filled with cocks and gaping fannies everywhere, but no, you have the 'erotic type' pics that so many enjoy, myself included.
I personally like teasing photos, ones where not just a cock in a fanny is on show....
i prefer lengree (cant be arsed to spell it properly)
I have norty naked pics of me but they are in my pvt gallery, and I am sure people have seen me naked anyway, I have a topless one and me dressed in a suit availble to general public...
if people want a perv my PM box is open for requests.... :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
Mike
What I will say is that receiving a profile with or without genital shots doesn't have any bearing on a decision to meet or not... its about the time taken to write out profiles and how we get on that matters not the presentation of the bits in question in a photo! 
I'm not going down that road again, I didn't draw attention to your post as I wasn't drawing attention to you directly just the quote.. but you did actually say...
less is so often more, and you do look like you are enjoying the expereince, shame you live so far away... 
:D 
dont wanna offend, or should that be "want to" who actually who gives a shit cos its irelevant to the point isnt it :lol: 
