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I've been doing it again- thinking :shock:
Reading responses to recent threads, it's struck me that theres obviously some dissent in the ranks about the amount of hi-jacking & talk of bollox etc that goes on.
Now, I for one like it in here- I think the forums are "policed" pretty effectively, by regular forumites who know (mostly) when to reign things in, & The Mods.
IMHO- serious threads usually lead to serious debates. It can get heated, but doesn't often get personal.
Lightweight fluffy threads go off on all sorts of tangents- and usually end up being fun.
Questions asked in a sensible manner usually get answered fully, and from the heart.
Do you see things the same way- or do you think people need to stick more to topic? Do you long for a few more of the "Post and be damned" forumites? Think people have a tendency to be sycophantic?
Genuinely interested to hear everyones opinions......post & be confused:
wink W
I think on the whole the forum has the right balance, topics are bound to go off on a tangent as are conversations/debates in real life!.
I quite like the friendly banter and the laughs that the forum gives me. lol
Quote by lyns
I think on the whole the forum has the right balance, topics are bound to go off on a tangent as are conversations/debates in real life!.
I quite like the friendly banter and the laughs that the forum gives me. lol

Absolutely right!
Besides sometimes when people go off at a target something more interesting, challenging, and funny can crop up.
cool
Quote by lyns
I think on the whole the forum has the right balance, topics are bound to go off on a tangent as are conversations/debates in real life!.
I quite like the friendly banter and the laughs that the forum gives me. lol

Agreed.
I like 'post and be damned' people. I'd rather they do that than send PMs in agreement, saying 'I daren't post that for fear of being shot down, but I agree with you ' rolleyes
Everyone is allowed an opinion; just stay within the AUP :thumbup:
and going off in a totally hijacky tangent....Im poorly today and i have my first munch tomorrow :upset:
Everything hurts....even my eyelashes, and i keep going hot and cold all over sad
someone give me some sympathy and hugs please biggrin
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Post and be damned. :twisted:
Read but don't become personally diminished by what someone has written. mad
Apologise when neccessary. redface
Shut up when you can't. :gagged:
Always listen to good advice ( passionkiss for my personal guardian :angel: )
Stay clear of or ignore those that seem intent on causing you forum-grief. :wanker:
Like Frex says stay within the AUP. :thumbup:

Or those who take personally, everything you post rolleyes
:upset: :upset: :upset: did you mean me...oh god you did mean me didnt you......why is it always me...... :upset: :upset: :upset: wink lol
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and going off in a totally hijacky tangent....Im poorly today and i have my first munch tomorrow :upset:
Everything hurts....even my eyelashes, and i keep going hot and cold all over sad
someone give me some sympathy and hugs please biggrin

Have lots of hugs hun.
:therethere: :therethere: :therethere: :therethere: :therethere:
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I think that the ,so called, "hijacking" of threads is great.
It means that subjects can be discussed in a normal conversational way. If every post stuck to the letter of the original post and never deviated in any way, we would just end up with a list of opinions and things would get pretty boring.:

:thumbup:
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However on occasion, people do take this a bit too far and the thread just ends up with people quoting the previous person and adding a single line or word or emoticon.
:crazy:
Hijacking has its place, and can be good for a thread, making it more interesting and on occassions, very, very funny. However, it can be a bit irritating when someone completely hijacks a thread before it hasnt even had time for the original discussion to evolve.
Quote by de_sade
Post and be damned. :twisted:
Read but don't become personally diminished by what someone has written. mad
Apologise when neccessary. redface
Shut up when you can't. :gagged:
Always listen to good advice ( passionkiss for my personal guardian :angel: )
Stay clear of or ignore those that seem intent on causing you forum-grief. :wanker:
Like Frex says stay within the AUP. :thumbup:

Think that is what I was trying to say wink
I am in agreement with the most.
I like the way the topics work on this forum. Its a free flow of convos, ideas, jokes, laughs, news, meets etc
I have have been a member of a number of forums that are heavily regulated. In those it is just so straight and regimented. You follow the line or you are out etc.
Like has been said by many person a before swinging is not just sex, it is a lifestyle. This forum and the way it flows off in different ways shows this.
if you have a convo at a bus stop with someone how often do you stay on topic all of the time?
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and going off in a totally hijacky tangent....Im poorly today and i have my first munch tomorrow :upset:
Everything hurts....even my eyelashes, and i keep going hot and cold all over sad
someone give me some sympathy and hugs please biggrin

:therethere: kiss grab ya self a lemsip, a hot and steamy bath, an early night and loadsa tlc from mr bone!. Hope you feel better :kiss:
Hi-jacking doesn't drive me nuts, really, but it does sometimes turn an interesting thread into a boring one, especially, as has been said, when people quote just to add an emoticon to the end. But I'll hold my hand up and say, I'm sure I've done it myself.
Sniping drives me nuts, though. But seeing as that's not the subject of this thread, I won't elaborate, it could well cause a hi-jack. lol
I tend to think that for the most part, the forum follows the same structure as a normal conversation, in that it can deviate and wander as it will. It’s only when the conversation becomes a debate that people try to keep things on track and more structured. Of course if you start something and it wanders away from what you hoped it would be, you can always get it back on track with a timely post or two. How hard is it to skip the posts you don’t like, and concentrate on the ones you do.
Quote by lyns
I think on the whole the forum has the right balance, topics are bound to go off on a tangent as are conversations/debates in real life!.
I quite like the friendly banter and the laughs that the forum gives me. lol

:thumbup: this is the closest to what I think.
Too quick are people to jump up and down when threads get heated and say people are being bullied or set upon. They're not (unless they've said something totally wrong)... a good debate is just that, it gets heated people get annoyed, people will go off in huffs whatever, but that happens in everyday life also.
How often do you have a good old debate with a pal and don't see eye to eye on the outcome? so what? dunno how boring would life be if we all agreed?
Quote by jaymar
I think on the whole the forum has the right balance, topics are bound to go off on a tangent as are conversations/debates in real life!.
I quite like the friendly banter and the laughs that the forum gives me. lol

:thumbup: this is the closest to what I think.
Too quick are people to jump up and down when threads get heated and say people are being bullied or set upon. They're not (unless they've said something totally wrong)... a good debate is just that, it gets heated people get annoyed, people will go off in huffs whatever, but that happens in everyday life also.
How often do you have a good old debate with a pal and don't see eye to eye on the outcome? so what? dunno how boring would life be if we all agreed?
:thumbup: agreed!
well I DONT agree
actually i do but just wanted to see what it sounded like if I didnt :P
the only thing I dont agree on is that marmite is nice
wrong, wrong WRONG!!!
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well I DONT agree
actually i do but just wanted to see what it sounded like if I didnt :P
the only thing I dont agree on is that marmite is nice
wrong, wrong WRONG!!!

smackbottom
OH MAN!!!!!!!
actually.. hijacking... who thinks she'll win? (anyone who's been following the jungle life will know who I mean! lol )
I think shes been fab and really entertaining, and shown different sides to her apart from the one you saw on her tv series or americas top model.
JD for president. :thrilled:
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I think shes been fab and really entertaining, and shown different sides to her apart from the one you saw on her tv series or americas top model.
JD for president. :thrilled:

Biggins to win!!! cool
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I think shes been fab and really entertaining, and shown different sides to her apart from the one you saw on her tv series or americas top model.
JD for president. :thrilled:

Biggins to win!!! cool
isnt he just a lovley guy too, a very sweet and kind man and really funny too. J is turning into a right moaner!
>>>>Listens to stormy & ignores the hijack, putting in a timely post wink
Come on guys, those of you who are voting that the hijacking drives you nuts.....tell us why, and when! We might learn something from each other :thumbup:
Please don't be afraid to disagree with the majority- this thread is here for a friendly discussion, and anyone seen to be veering it toward vitriol will get a smackbottom lol
I think most of the time this forum runs pretty well and whilst there are sometimes hi-jacks in certain threads, normally people keep it to the more light hearted threads and leave the more serious threads are left to run hi-jack free.
Most of the time hi-jacks are amusing and add to the friendly feeling in the cafe. The only time I don't like it is when you see the same people following each other around and posting drivel pretty much anywhere they can find. Then it is quite frustrating to have to read through pages of the same posters in different threads, who aren't actually adding anything. But to be fair it's rare for that to happen and most of the time it happens when there is a big event on and the forums are quiet so I guess it does serve some form of purpose.
i think the forums are well run and the hijacking is good tis them bits that seem to make me smile,
having said that, im taking a back seater at the min, more watching that anything else
I don't like hi-jackers........... rolleyes
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I don't like hi-jackers........... rolleyes

normality has been resumed then :roll:
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I don't like hi-jackers........... rolleyes

normality has been resumed then :roll:
:roll:
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I don't like hi-jackers........... rolleyes

normality has been resumed then :roll:
your not taking this seriously are you...... :roll:
How should a thread run? I am responding after giving this thread some few hours of thought. I think I understand the original question. In that does one have any expectation for a thread to follow an imagined or generally accepted procedure/format etc?
Well I suppose some lines of thought do follow either logical, intelligent or emotional qualities; and therefore could run a predictable course. Some threads do follow a fairly repeatable format such as the pissed of newbie who hasn't had a shag.
But they only exist because those who have hung about know what they can and want to put into such similar threads. Which we all do, using each thread as an opportunity to refine and condense our thoughts.
So I think they just run as they always will, give or take a few alterations and refinements.
Layering quotes is just an exchange between competent and experienced posters. I find it tedious to get through, but its the only show in town sometimes.
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How should a thread run? I am responding after giving this thread some few hours of thought. I think I understand the original question. In that does one have any expectation for a thread to follow an imagined or generally accepted procedure/format etc?
Well I suppose some lines of thought do follow either logical, intelligent or emotional qualities; and therefore could run a predictable course. Some threads do follow a fairly repeatable format such as the pissed of newbie who hasn't had a shag.
But they only exist because those who have hung about know what they can and want to put into such similar threads. Which we all do, using each thread as an opportunity to refine and condense our thoughts.
So I think they just run as they always will, give or take a few alterations and refinements.
Layering quotes is just an exchange between competent and experienced posters. I find it tedious to get through, but its the only show in town sometimes.

duncanlondon ......... I think I luv you! :giggle:
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Well thankyou Blonde, but that could be either a highjack or a sidetrack.
All the same very flattering and you are welcome.
Cheers.
But I won't quote it............