I have always regarded the expression "we are not hardcore swingers" as couples wanting to point out that they are not the blasé, bored, seen-it-all, done-it-all types, but that however long they have been swinging, they haven't lost their enthusiasm, imagination, and fresh approach to swinging. I'm not aware of it having any connection with what their limits are.
mike.
I always think that 'hardened swingers' expect a guaranteed performance, with little or no real social contact. So non hardened swingers are more sympathetic and wiling to deal with any problems if they occur.
Maybe I'm confusing the term "hardcore swingers" with "hardened swingers" .... and maybe the people who haved use "hardcore swingers" are also confusing the terms. I'm not aware of "hardcore swingers" being a term that's used at all, so it's pretty pointless using it.
Mike.
maybe is how ya swing
some like to swing in a small numbers ( 2 couples) other like the full on stuff.. (see blues party photos!!).
i wouldn't class myself as a hardcore swinger casue i dont beleive ive got the confidnece to do alot of the stuff
Jiggle
I've never seen anyone describe themselves as 'hard core swingers' only as 'not hard core swingers'.
I guess it's maybe one of those obscure terms meaning 'swinging whilst enjoying hard core dance music'?
Personally I'm quite happy with hardcore, though prefer trance and garage.
I do find the volume a little intense though - hard to say 'have you got any condoms?' over DJ Tiesto at full blast . . . And do all hardcore swingers wave their hands in the air together in time? Or is that a secret signal to say ladies choice?
The phrase 'not hardcore swingers' raises a picture in my mind of someone who is still exploring and finding their boundaries.
lhk
FWIW we've never encountered the term hardcore but have had loads of emails informing us that they are not hardened take is that hardened may suggest that swinging is no big deal to them and that they are emotionally "hardened" to it all...this isn't necessarily a bad thing. Some may want the fun without the risk of an emotional attachment which is also, arguably, a good selling point...yet we have never ever had anybody admit to being hardened.
In my personal opinion it is used by people who are rather embarassed at the thought of being 'swingers' and who want to distance themselves from some of the negative stereotypes.
Roger the Dragon