Has your Ex ever found out

31 Oct 2005

Have you moved on from a relationship harbouring dreams to be involved in the swinging scene, say your ex partner or wife/husband. They may have known you wanted it but weren't interested so you dropped it :cry:
Then you indulge solo or find a partner who also likes the scene. :!:
Have they found out about your new hobbie either through accident or other and if so what was their reaction. I know my ex would use it against me sad

31 Oct 2005

Well I guess it depends on whether you are divorced or not and is/was the divorce messy
As for me I couldn't give a toss if either of my ex's found out, but then again the first one was 22 years ago and the second 8, so it's a non-issue now
M

31 Oct 2005

When I told my ex that I'd started going to swingers clubs he just went "Oh, so are they like what they appear on telly?"... to which I replied..."No".

31 Oct 2005

Quote by bluexxx
When I told my ex that I'd started going to swingers clubs he just went "Oh, so are they like what they appear on telly?"... to which I replied..."No".

HimnHer she is only 1 mnth divorced and very messy
Blue She has this view of swingers anyway and wouldnt change her view as she Knows everything and would love to inform everyone as to detract from the fact she had an affair and obviousely "i was that way" :shock:
Ill keep wearing that balaclave at munches etc etc biggrin

31 Oct 2005

Yes be careful mate, H has got an ex who would make a meal out of what we get up to, so we know how you feel.
M

1 Nov 2005

I received a txt message ones..... At .... saying...
"how was ur 1st bi experience then?"!!!
It was from a guy who i had been seeing but wasn't any longer due to me finding out he was about behind my back!!!!
I had foolishly, not thinking, left my email addy on my advert instead of making it annonymous... Come to think of it, it must really of been bugging him to have txt me at that time

1 Nov 2005

Quote by MOORHOPPER
Have you moved on from a relationship harbouring dreams to be involved in the swinging scene, say your ex partner or wife/husband. They may have known you wanted it but weren't interested so you dropped it :cry:
Then you indulge solo or find a partner who also likes the scene. :!:
Have they found out about your new hobbie either through accident or other and if so what was their reaction. I know my ex would use it against me

The reactions range from:
"You were never that adventurous when you were with me."
to
"That is just SO bloody typical of you!"
rotflmao

1 Nov 2005

I get on well with almost all my ex's and would not want them to know that I have started this lifestyle if only because I wouldn't want them to think back that i was not happy at the time with them!
If that makes sense?

1 Nov 2005

Quote by TallSexyLondon
I get on well with almost all my ex's and would not want them to know that I have started this lifestyle if only because I wouldn't want them to think back that i was not happy at the time with them!
If that makes sense?

but you obviously wasn't or they wouldn't be your ex's

1 Nov 2005

I'll just go "ooooooo yes"
not good.... was tracked down etc etc! eeee

1 Nov 2005

My significant ex (my childrens' Dad) is fully aware that I am a swinger. I told him straight out (and after he had picked himself up off the floor from laughing rolleyes

) he proclaimed that it was my life and my business (how very noble of him...sigh).
He knows I meet women without the bf and he is also aware that I sometimes go to munches etc. He knows these things because I tell him and I tell him because we have a very good relationship (finally).
However he still has a very old-fashioned view of swingers (seedy get-togethers and car keys in a bowl etc). I don't know if all the light-hearted piss-taking is as a result of his ignorance of the scene or his denial that he would like to be involved in such a community dunno

Whichever-I have no qualms about him knowing as I trust him smile

Minx x x

1 Nov 2005

I am well known for being totally mad cap so nothing would surprise any one who knows me .. its a non starter .. anyway ..
No one messes with me see

:smackbottom: :smackbottom: :smackbottom:
DD

1 Nov 2005

Quote by TallSexyLondon
I get on well with almost all my ex's

:shock: Crikey! You sound as if you've got quite a few lol

Tracy-Jayne (sorry I've got no ex's so can't contribute further to this thread rolleyes

)

1 Nov 2005

Quote by MOORHOPPER
very messy
as she Knows everything and would love to inform everyone and obviousely "i was that way"

Sounds all too familiar to me.
I don't care, ex is ex and thats it.....

1 Nov 2005

My ex partner is very "innocent" and the fact that people swing would be seen as a bit of a giggle, he knows me well enough to realise that I'd protect the children from it so I think once he got over the shock he'd be ok. Any other ex's wouldn't be at all surprised.
Morbius' ex would ban hin from seeing speaking or having any contact with his daughter, and mess up the relationship we have with his parents completely.
C x

1 Nov 2005

I actually set my ex up with her current beau, after we broke up and we all get on great..........saying that, while drunk one evening it did come up in the conversation that they had been to a swingers club while on holiday..........couple of drinks later, my truths came out,,,,,followed by much giggling :P
But very much decided there and then,,,,,,we would never.......together :P could get complicated :shock:
Still giggle about it now though lol

1 Nov 2005

We had one of our first swinging experiences with my ex hubby :twisted:
Bloody good night it was too :lol: :lol:
G x