Hello All

23 Jul 2005

Hi, Iâ€™ve just joined SH and I post to introduce myself to you all.
I'm 45 years old divorced male and being a workaholic, relationships just don't work out for me yet I have a high sex drive and find rampant sexual activities the most pleasurable of pastimes I have ever found and to fill that void in my life Iâ€™ve joined SH to look for a lady, or ladies, perhaps in a similar situation, wanting to enjoy an active and varied sex life without the complications of a full on relationship, which begs the question, is there any common personality trait or traits amongst swingers other than a love of sex? What is it that makes swingers swing?
I only ask as I thought long and hard before jumping in and registering on SH, (after looking at many similar sites, SH came out top), and one of the conclusions Iâ€™ve reached from my pondering is that with my lifestyle being as it is, work always coming first, swinging is a far healthier choice, from a mental health point of view for me and any partners I may have in that itâ€™s dishonest to enter into full on relationships, as I have in the past, when my personality does not allow me to give the commitment such a relationship deserves, with the stress of this dishonesty being damaging all round and mutually destructive, so for me, from now on itâ€™s the swinging scene.
So Hello SH.
Any others out there worked out why swinging suits them?
Phil

23 Jul 2005

Hi Phil
Hello and welcome to the site (mad house wink

)
Great post. Get your feet under the table, pull up a chair and muck in lol

Hope you find the fun you want.
Fred

23 Jul 2005

Hi Phil
Nice intro!
A sense of humour seems to be a common trait here
Good luck
:welcome:

23 Jul 2005

:welcome: Phil to this most excellent site have fun
Dave

23 Jul 2005

Hi Phil, welcome to sh.
hope you find what your looking for biggrin

Tina xxx

23 Jul 2005

Hiya Phil,
I think you will find that swinging relationships can be just as complicated and full on as monogamous ones, usually because of the openess and trust that is required.
You may just have jumped from the frying pan into the fire! wink

Seriously though, along the same lines. Kit and I enjoy swinging because it adds to the 'full on-ness' relationship, not as an alternative to it, and part of that is the honesty involved. You asked what swingers have in common. One of the things is the recognition that you can have an intense physical relationship with someone, and this having a positive affect on your ummm, for want of a better word, marriage.
In your situation, this would not be part of your swinging experience, nor wold you want it to be. It is, however, important for you to recognise that this IS an important part of swinging for others.
You havn't actually said what you are looking for, single women, couples, single men. You have said that work comes first and swinging second, how would you feel if you are feeling rampant, decide to take a break from work, and your swinging partner says 'Sorry, I am shagging someone else tonight?'
Would your personality allow you to cope with being second choice at a time like that?
lhk
Kat