Hiye people, a little advice is what I am looking for I guess. As far as swinging etc. goes, I am single. This is because my partner isn't in to this, infact she doesn't even know! Naughty I guess, but if needs must, then needs must.
Well if any of you can enlighten me on how to go about making contacts I would be very greatful.
Cheers
Crispi
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Hello from a new bloke
Orgasminator
phill sits back and waits for all the usual advice to come fludding in.
strange choice of name though.
crispi
strange choice of name though.
crispi
Sex God
Crispi, just a bit of advance warning, a lot of people dont like people who are cheating on their partners and who think that swinging is an easy way to get laid (which it definately isnt), so just be prepared for some onslaught about your post above!
Orgasminator
see told ya
nice people here in sh towers
well the two above are.
watch out for some of the others though. :uhoh: :moon:
nice people here in sh towers
well the two above are.
watch out for some of the others though. :uhoh: :moon:
Orgasminator
Quote by crispi_male
well i could lie and say i'm single!!!
poor defence and will not hold up in sh court!! :jagsatwork: :small-print:
Ok here goes, but at the end, i want an answer as to whether or not i should post as single.
I know that all the slatting about cheating on your wife etc. is meant with a good heart, however heres my history:
I live with a woman who has a mental illness, she was abused as a child and is progressively becoming worse and worse. Sex or any intimacy with her is impossible, it shouldn't make her sad because it reminds her of when she was a child.
Now on the other hand, i am a man with normal drives and i think sex should be fun, light, enjoyable, intimate and at times downright dirty and lustful!
So I will support her through her problems, but I can't take those problems on, I shouldn't have to. I want fun in my life, i do have fun in my life, my friends, job, family, the only thing missing is sex and intimacy. Now i could have an affair; or as i have chosen to do, I could find like minding people who do not view sex as a hang up.
Well thats more than I wanted to say, but I am new here and don't want to get of on the wrong foot.
I know that all the slatting about cheating on your wife etc. is meant with a good heart, however heres my history:
I live with a woman who has a mental illness, she was abused as a child and is progressively becoming worse and worse. Sex or any intimacy with her is impossible, it shouldn't make her sad because it reminds her of when she was a child.
Now on the other hand, i am a man with normal drives and i think sex should be fun, light, enjoyable, intimate and at times downright dirty and lustful!
So I will support her through her problems, but I can't take those problems on, I shouldn't have to. I want fun in my life, i do have fun in my life, my friends, job, family, the only thing missing is sex and intimacy. Now i could have an affair; or as i have chosen to do, I could find like minding people who do not view sex as a hang up.
Well thats more than I wanted to say, but I am new here and don't want to get of on the wrong foot.
Quote by crispi_male
Ok here goes, but at the end, i want an answer as to whether or not i should post as single.
I know that all the slatting about cheating on your wife etc. is meant with a good heart, however heres my history:
I live with a woman who has a mental illness, she was abused as a child and is progressively becoming worse and worse. Sex or any intimacy with her is impossible, it shouldn't make her sad because it reminds her of when she was a child.
Now on the other hand, i am a man with normal drives and i think sex should be fun, light, enjoyable, intimate and at times downright dirty and lustful!
So I will support her through her problems, but I can't take those problems on, I shouldn't have to. I want fun in my life, i do have fun in my life, my friends, job, family, the only thing missing is sex and intimacy. Now i could have an affair; or as i have chosen to do, I could find like minding people who do not view sex as a hang up.
Well thats more than I wanted to say, but I am new here and don't want to get of on the wrong foot.
Crispi
I think you're digging yourself into a very big hole
Yes, you could have said you were single. Yes, you could have said you were playing with your wife's consent as I'm sure many others do. But you didn't and the extra information you have shared above only makes this seem even sadder :cry: I admire your honesty but think you're being very naieve - at least in thisenviromnent. Take a look at the link that Mal gave you and my last comment will probably make more sense.
This is a Swingingsite which means that it is frequented by like-minded people that have a common attitude towards sex. That sex normally involves their partner being present, or having knowledge of what's going on or it involves them being with a couple or part of a couple in the same situation - this list is not exhaustive and there are many other combinations, but I think you get the idea...it's about openness, honesty, transparency and consent... not about cheating.
I'd stop with the additional information now fella, you really won't do yourself any favours :thumbup:
Orgasminator
i would try leaving this thread alone now and start another with a totally different theam.
i also agree with bloke 2005, this hole is gettin bigger by the min.
i also agree with bloke 2005, this hole is gettin bigger by the min.
Sex God
i say leave the post where it is.... but just the save the hassle of everyone writing exactly how they feel again... here is a link to the last person who asked that question, and the replies they got...
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/80945.html
hope that helps.....
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/80945.html
hope that helps.....
Hiya Crispi
Thank you for being so honest in your post.
It's really made me take stock and appreciate the real single blokes on here and what a fabulous breed they are.
Now I'm not a big fan of guys who play away - to me the swinging lifestyle is about exploring sex in an open, honest and respectful way - an attitide you obviously don't share.
Having said that it is your life and although I wouldn't choose to swing with you, there are people on here who will. If a guy holds up his hands and says he's married and cheating on his wife, then that's his business.
What I really can't abide is the guys that post on here trying to justify it and yours quite rightly is THEworst I've ever seen.
Cheating on your partner is one thing, but using her prior abuse and illness as a way to justify just disgusts me.
I have to say I've just had a first experience on here. That is the first time I have felt a physical urge to vomit after reading a post on here.
Thank you for being so honest in your post.
It's really made me take stock and appreciate the real single blokes on here and what a fabulous breed they are.
Now I'm not a big fan of guys who play away - to me the swinging lifestyle is about exploring sex in an open, honest and respectful way - an attitide you obviously don't share.
Having said that it is your life and although I wouldn't choose to swing with you, there are people on here who will. If a guy holds up his hands and says he's married and cheating on his wife, then that's his business.
What I really can't abide is the guys that post on here trying to justify it and yours quite rightly is THEworst I've ever seen.
Cheating on your partner is one thing, but using her prior abuse and illness as a way to justify just disgusts me.
I have to say I've just had a first experience on here. That is the first time I have felt a physical urge to vomit after reading a post on here.
Sex God
Thank goodness for Darkfire, Bloke and HLB.
:worship: :worship:
:worship: :worship: I keep making posts and then deleting them because I want to say something I shouldn't 
:thumbup:
Sod it, I need to ask a question
crispi_male are you possibly, maybe, using two accounts to post on the forum?
If so, why? It implies you are hiding something
Quote by HornyLittleBlonde
I have to say I've just had a first experience on here. That is the first time I have felt a physical urge to vomit after reading a post on here.
:thumbup:
Sod it, I need to ask a question
crispi_male are you possibly, maybe, using two accounts to post on the forum?
If so, why? It implies you are hiding something
Sex God
Quote by Dawn_Mids
crispi_male are you possibly, maybe, using two accounts to post on the forum?
If so, why? It implies you are hiding something
Or fibbing to the other members on here.
