It's been a while... a long, long while... I hope you are all well and having a fantastic and sexy time with each other.
This year has been pretty shite really... due to my Mum dying and I'm really trying to get over it but I wonder if I need to seek therapy for post traumatic stress as Mum died after a horrible ten days in hospital fighting for breath... I felt powerless to help and I keep having flash backs to the last day of her life... anyway I thought I'd ask the the best bunch of broad minded and life experienced people I know to see if any of you had similar experiences after the death of a loved one, especially one who died too early and stressfully... not that dying is good at any time but you know what I mean.
It's been over a year since she died but it only seems like yesterday sometimes...
Sorry that this is not a happy seasonal good wishes kind of post.
Best wishes,
Wibbly
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you need to go and seek help.
Grief counselling is often provided by Mind or CRUSE. look them up and get it resolved.
Much hugs... your symptoms are typical grief.
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Thanks... Just had a quick look through CRUSE site... and reading their PDFs
Condolences to you WW. Grief's hard; a year's not long to come to terms with the untimely death of a parent. If you did Christmas together these few days will be extra tough.
You could indeed do the splendid_ thing and get help.
You won't always feel like this and the pictures in your head willchange.
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Awwwwwwww man sounds like you've had a real crap time of it. Splendid certainly aint I wrong in her suggestion and I reckon you do right to look up CRUSE in my experience they're top draw and every minute spent with dealing with them is a worthwhile one. Here's hoping you find a better place. :thumbup:
My dad died in my arms some 22yrs ago and to be honest I have never really come to terms with it.....
Back then counciling and such like was considered a black art and was as such not widely available....
Now it is very prominant and can be of great help I am told....
Something else that eats at me and definately changed me for the worse was being made to realise I am mortal when almost 5 yrs ago I had a heart attack.....
That really screwed with my brain and has been the catalyst for some pretty terrible times since.....
Hope you manage to find the help you need to get back to some form of normality and :welcome: back ...
Sorry to here your sad news.
My mum passed away very young when I was 19. (44 now)
We had a shit year several years back when my Grandmother passed away followed closely by my Dad and then followed closely by my wife's Dad, in the space of 3 months.
Not sure if this would work for every one, but I found researching my family tree a great help, though be Ware it is addictive and a never ending task, but very very rewarding.
I'm sorry you have had such grief, Wibbly. You were the first person to write something nice to me when I made one of my early posts here. As others have said something like CRUSE may help or friends or your GP might know someone who is good at listening.
In truth I don't think the grief will ever go away but as life goes on it goes into a special compartment in your mind.
Sometimes I find it helps to think of anyone's final days as not the true picture of their life, Someone's life is so much more than the last few undignified days or weeks.
It is hard though when it is so vivid in one's mind.
All the best Wibbly and may the New Year give you fresh hope and laughter.
My mum died on New Years Day 2005 and most of the time i'm fine but now and again it gets you and you cry, not sure why you cry but it just creeps up on you without realising. I have been fine the last couple of New Years and then this one it got to me again. As people have already said in here it can take years to come to terms with when its a close relative. We all grieve in our own way and we all come to terms with loss in our own way, there isnt a right or wrong way to handle these things.
I hope things get better for all those that have added to this post and that we remember those that have passed are still out there watching over us somewhere. (My belief I know and not everyones)
Gillian
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