Hi Folks, I’d appreciate a little advice and guidance. I’m a ‘more mature’ guy who would like to return to the swinger scene ~ I live in Birmingham and want to know the best club/s of an older solo male.
Background.
For many years my late wife and I were regular swingers ~ and quite well known around the ‘scene.’ Most of the places we frequented either no loner exist, have changed hands or perhaps radically changed. (Cham’s, Xtasia, Jasmines, Hot-Spot + infamous establishments in Warwick, Bromsgrove & Kidderminster, etc)
Now, at last, I feel able to ‘move on’ and return. While we always welcomed solo males and developed some lovely friendships I recall some clubs were better for meeting couples and others for meeting guys ~ and the solo guys said the same (but generally speaking they said they had fairly ‘thin’ time all-round). Obviously most ladies/couples are more interested in the younger (more virile?) guys and now I’m older I know it’s going to be even more difficult!
I have adverts on here for a swinging partner ~ ‘hope springs eternal.’
But, perhaps the best thing to do is to go out meet people, make friends . . . and develop contacts?
Comments, advice, guidance, suggestions (offers!) would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks!
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Sex God
:welcome: to the nuthouse matey 
well from one "old fellah" to the next, all I can tell you is 'keep it real and keep trying'
that is by no means a recipe for success by the way, I’ve been doing it that way for quite some time now, and despite some very flattering comments in the forums and at socials, my PM box is still predictably empty as is my social calendar
I do however wish you all the very best in your quest and truly hope you find a new experience :thumbup:
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well from one "old fellah" to the next, all I can tell you is 'keep it real and keep trying'
that is by no means a recipe for success by the way, I’ve been doing it that way for quite some time now, and despite some very flattering comments in the forums and at socials, my PM box is still predictably empty as is my social calendar
I do however wish you all the very best in your quest and truly hope you find a new experience :thumbup:
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Quote by kinkypal
Obviously most ladies/couples are more interested in the younger (more virile?) guys and now I’m older I know it’s going to be even more difficult!
I have seen several mature men have fun at chams, what am I saying??? You are hardly flipping old are ya :doh:
You would have no problem fitting in at Chams as a single guy :thumbup:
Quote by kinkypal
But, perhaps the best thing to do is to go out meet people, make friends . . . and develop contacts?
Comments, advice, guidance, suggestions (offers!) would be greatly appreciated.
Thanks!
Oh, munches and socials are a brilliant way of meeting people.
Runs off to check where you live
I'm back with links to events in your area :thumbup:
Singles Social Click Here
Cov Social Click Here
Black Country Munch Click Here
The other thing which I would strongly suggest is using the chatrooms to make friends. Try the mids room on Server 3. They are a pretty good bunch, mostly :lol2:
Quote by kinkypal
Obviously most ladies/couples are more interested in the younger (more virile?) guys and now I’m older I know it’s going to be even more difficult!
Hello and welcome Kinkypal
Firstly there is no 'obviously' about it, personally a younger more virile guy does nothing for me, I prefer a man with maturity. For me, virility is nothing without experience. I'm sure you have plenty of that :wink:
Secondly there are loads of women on here (some posted lately about looking for friendships with gentlemen like yourself) so why not hang around and post some more, get to know people and take it from there x
I too am in the 'older' single male bracket.
Pete has typically said it so well and I agree that the forums are good fun and people on them are often very nice but though a 'Lets Meet Up' thread that I posted in late 2007 recieved generous support from various friendly forumers it didn't actually result in a single PM from any new potential playmates.
The idea of being in a roomful of munchers is nerve wracking for me though I so do want to attend something but I was very put off by one ery indiscreet person I once met.I would dread anything about my 'interest' in all this reaching the wrong ears so to speak!
I'm also somewhat wary (and inept at sending lol) photos of myself but have done in the past though I've also met people without any such exchange either way.
I do write individual messages to people who I think might find me of vast majority don't reply back, the few that do can blow hot and cold and then cold lol but I'll admit that can work both ways, if I sense the slightest thing that isn't quite right then I too can politely retract my interest.
Sorry to sound a bit downbeat, time was I DID meet folk from here, playing and non-playing meets, all of which were good but for the disasterous one mentioned earlier, so though I'll confess to being slightly disappointed in more recent times SH CAN work and I'm sure it will for you kinkypal, and the reason I persist is that I still believe there are people out there who would find me ideal for their needs and I them too!Good luck with it KP
Pete has typically said it so well and I agree that the forums are good fun and people on them are often very nice but though a 'Lets Meet Up' thread that I posted in late 2007 recieved generous support from various friendly forumers it didn't actually result in a single PM from any new potential playmates.
The idea of being in a roomful of munchers is nerve wracking for me though I so do want to attend something but I was very put off by one ery indiscreet person I once met.I would dread anything about my 'interest' in all this reaching the wrong ears so to speak!
I'm also somewhat wary (and inept at sending lol) photos of myself but have done in the past though I've also met people without any such exchange either way.
I do write individual messages to people who I think might find me of vast majority don't reply back, the few that do can blow hot and cold and then cold lol but I'll admit that can work both ways, if I sense the slightest thing that isn't quite right then I too can politely retract my interest.
Sorry to sound a bit downbeat, time was I DID meet folk from here, playing and non-playing meets, all of which were good but for the disasterous one mentioned earlier, so though I'll confess to being slightly disappointed in more recent times SH CAN work and I'm sure it will for you kinkypal, and the reason I persist is that I still believe there are people out there who would find me ideal for their needs and I them too!Good luck with it KP
Sex God
Kinkypal, welcome to the forums and there is some really good advice up above.
The only thing I would add is about taking your time and enjoying the journey. You are definately NOT old, and there is no rush, so check out the sceanery on the way to the destination
Hope to see you round the forums or at a social or munch at some point.
The only thing I would add is about taking your time and enjoying the journey. You are definately NOT old, and there is no rush, so check out the sceanery on the way to the destination
Hope to see you round the forums or at a social or munch at some point.
Sex God
Quote by LondonPlaything
how old is 'older?'
lp
If you're 40, 41 is older. If you're 42, 41 is younger. Just a number.
Sex God
Quote by LondonPlaything
how old is 'older?'
lp
If you're 40, 41 is older. If you're 42, 41 is younger. Just a number.
the voice of reason... don't you just hate that?
Not youuu, before you start...
the 'voice'... I know what I meanit's
me agelp
Is that a compliment then, or not? :shock:
Sex God
Quote by Freckledbird
Is that a compliment then, or not? :shock:
Dont ask him hard questions like that, you know he gets all confuddled
Hi kinkypal, great post.
Like Dawnie has mentioned we were going to suggest a social or munch, and then thought about the chatrooms too?
Your add and profile are very informative, have what you are looking for and what your into and have photos which is always what the people we speak to, and ourselves look for in a profile.
Stick around as you will be a welcome addition with your well thought out and measured approach to the site.
Like Dawnie has mentioned we were going to suggest a social or munch, and then thought about the chatrooms too?
Your add and profile are very informative, have what you are looking for and what your into and have photos which is always what the people we speak to, and ourselves look for in a profile.
Stick around as you will be a welcome addition with your well thought out and measured approach to the site.
Sexlightened
Quote by Plimboy
I'm in the same boat too.
The definition of being too old to go to a munch, is when you might bump into friends of your children - or worst still . . . . . . .
Plimops: :oops:
ROFL... I used to run a Girl Guide unit in Nottingham... but I forgot that those young teenagers I used to "Guide" kind grow up... ahem... :oops:
Now you've just reminded me that soon enough they'll be another situation I could run into!!!
Kinkypal.... I'd dare to suggest you're doing all the right things already and seemingly by instinct... you're showing respect, happy to chat, your profile is complete (simply putting "I wanna shag" or even not bothering instantly off-putting!) and you can string a few sentences together coherently. And as folks have already shown age is often a factor fairly low down on a lot of peoples priorities when looking for "play-mates"... hopefully see you at a group meet or munch one day?
