my hubby said to me (QUOTE)
"we swing together or not at all "
Then I find out hes got his own secret advert,and video on the site. I have to say it really hurt my feelings , because of this as there's no trust !!!!!!!!!!!!!
added 2 dec 2007
Well heres the prob yrs ago i was sat in a chat room ,met this guy started chatting ect ect.......... my hubby logged all my chats and dident say anything for a while ,then confronted me and asked me if i was having an affair , of course i said no as we were only chatting , never had any intentions of meeting him ,we wernt swinging then at all
any way,was just a bit of fun , cut a long story short my hubby placed and add on here to get bak at me for hurting his feelings ,(bollocks) stupid reason in my opinion
Never the less thats how it all happened,now we have the relationship from hell as it seems to me its TIT FOR TAT
You hurt me i hurt you kind of thing going on !!!!!!!!!!!
nice way to do it .
we then decided to start swinging as he thought it would be fun , its just gone from bad to worse now, and i hate him and he hates me .
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Quote by hotandsexycpl
my hubby said to me (QUOTE)
"we swing together or not at all "
Then I find out hes got his own secret advert,and video on the site. I have to say it really hurt my feelings , because of this as there's no trust !!!!!!!!!!!!!
Have you any view on this, or has any one had this happen to them ,let me know.
Yes I have views on this.
No it has not happened to me
Have you tried to talk to him about it?
Sex God
like tan says sit down talk bout what you BOTH want out the scene if you dont there aint gona be trust .
Sex God
Quote by hotandsexycpl
my hubby said to me (QUOTE)
"we swing together or not at all "
Then I find out hes got his own secret advert,and video on the site. I have to say it really hurt my feelings , because of this as there's no trust !!!!!!!!!!!!!
Have you any view on this, or has any one had this happen to them ,let me know.
Slightly selfish on his part, but you need to sort this out between you.
Perhaps a little assertiveness is required from you to?
Sex God
Quote by welikesinglemen
What a bloomin cheek! I wouldnt trust him as far as Icould throw him. Hy does he need to lok for extra sex when you're willing to swing as a couple. Oh and its ok for him to lie and cheat , but you can only play if he gives permission.(you did ask for an opinion)
I can't help but agree with these sentiments.
I would just add that it really is worth sitting down and taking in an open minded frank way to each other. if you or he find that difficult look to a reputable outside agency to help maybe.
I hope all this works out for you guys
Hate to throw in a can of worms and I don't think what he did was right in anyway at all but.......
Your profile says that to date you have only enjoyed mmf experiences and have been playing a number of years.. Now forgive me if wrong but maybe he's feeling a tad left out here?? Just a thought!
Sure he's not just out to get a bit even maybe???
Not for me to say... We have actually been for drinks with couples seeking couples and then when you meet its plainly obvious the woman has no interest seeing her man have a good time too.. makes all kinds of excuses etc while telling you all about the men she's had as part of a 3 some thing...
Still he's a bad bad man..
Mike x
Your profile says that to date you have only enjoyed mmf experiences and have been playing a number of years.. Now forgive me if wrong but maybe he's feeling a tad left out here?? Just a thought!
Sure he's not just out to get a bit even maybe???
Not for me to say... We have actually been for drinks with couples seeking couples and then when you meet its plainly obvious the woman has no interest seeing her man have a good time too.. makes all kinds of excuses etc while telling you all about the men she's had as part of a 3 some thing...
Still he's a bad bad man..
Mike x
We have talked about it ,its all we talk about lol
BUT...................... I still dont get why for nearlly a yr he had his own add, see ive gone over and over this in my head a million times,he said he was happy with the way things were, the mmf bit was fine and he said he enjoyed it ,dident want anything more (obviously he did ) lol but we havent seen any one for over a yr now any way.
Yes I agree he was prob wanting to experince it himself ,with a woman ,WELL WHY NOT JUST SAY !
Any way in short he swears he never had sex with any one ,but I will never know,Im sure if we had arranged it ,ya know ffm I would have done it for him .......
BUT...................... I still dont get why for nearlly a yr he had his own add, see ive gone over and over this in my head a million times,he said he was happy with the way things were, the mmf bit was fine and he said he enjoyed it ,dident want anything more (obviously he did ) lol but we havent seen any one for over a yr now any way.
Yes I agree he was prob wanting to experince it himself ,with a woman ,WELL WHY NOT JUST SAY !
Any way in short he swears he never had sex with any one ,but I will never know,Im sure if we had arranged it ,ya know ffm I would have done it for him .......
Sex God
By the way. Your due a welcome to forum 
whatever the bravity of your post! 
whatever the bravity of your post! 
Sex God
if it happened to us it would be a massive issue, those are both our thoughts, what happened to you i wouldnt dare comment on, way to personal for me to have a go at an opinion, with just the couple of bits of info you have given us it would be unfair for us to suggest any more than, we wish you luck in sorting it out
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Well i for one believe him when he says he got none lol...
I mean... If he did on here she should keep him as he's got to be a catch lol.. No point in throwing away a relationship over this (and before you lot start no I don't play away lol)
Your both open minded enough to know the facts.. he probably just went along with your wishes with the mmf thing and hankered a bit of action himself.. Now hankering after and getting some are two seperate items lol.. Who's to say he wasn't feeling a bit under the thumb a bit self worthless as a man and just wanted to see if anyone found HIM attractive for a change..
Easy to judge but I'd bet my life theres more to it than meets the eye.
Mike... (IMHO) Thats the disclaimer bit lol...
I mean... If he did on here she should keep him as he's got to be a catch lol.. No point in throwing away a relationship over this (and before you lot start no I don't play away lol)
Your both open minded enough to know the facts.. he probably just went along with your wishes with the mmf thing and hankered a bit of action himself.. Now hankering after and getting some are two seperate items lol.. Who's to say he wasn't feeling a bit under the thumb a bit self worthless as a man and just wanted to see if anyone found HIM attractive for a change..
Easy to judge but I'd bet my life theres more to it than meets the eye.
Mike... (IMHO) Thats the disclaimer bit lol...
For a scene that's supposedly so honest and open there are a helluva lot of secrets.
Couples who only swing together but actually one (or sometime both!) is secretly off meeting others?
Half a couple with secret accounts?
people saying "please don't mention ...." 'cos their partner hasn't a clue what they've got up to.
Seen it all.
This is between you and your partner. It's really not something we can help you with other than to tell you to talk to each other about this. Only you two can sort this out, whichever way it goes. No one knows your relationship better than you
has it happened to me? I don't thinkso. Put it this way - I didn't catch 'em out. :?
An ex and I briefly looked for a bi fem to play with and I often let him chat to them without me so who knows what he got up to?
Another ex and I left the scene altogether (his choice as much as mine) but when the going got tough, where did he come? Back to swinging to fuck some random woman.
It's a funny old game.
Couples who only swing together but actually one (or sometime both!) is secretly off meeting others?
Half a couple with secret accounts?
people saying "please don't mention ...." 'cos their partner hasn't a clue what they've got up to.
Seen it all.
This is between you and your partner. It's really not something we can help you with other than to tell you to talk to each other about this. Only you two can sort this out, whichever way it goes. No one knows your relationship better than you
has it happened to me? I don't thinkso. Put it this way - I didn't catch 'em out. :?
An ex and I briefly looked for a bi fem to play with and I often let him chat to them without me so who knows what he got up to?
Another ex and I left the scene altogether (his choice as much as mine) but when the going got tough, where did he come? Back to swinging to fuck some random woman.
It's a funny old game.
Sex God
Quote by Marya_Northeast
This is between you and your partner. It's really not something we can help you with other than to tell you to talk to each other about this. Only you two can sort this out, whichever way it goes. No one knows your relationship better than you
:thumbup:
Sex God
This is plainly between the two of you, but ask yourself;
who suggested swinging
was it something he wanted
was he doing it to keep you happy
did you do it to make him happy
is it such a great thing to you, not should it be
have you ever considered jumping into bed without him.
who suggested swinging
was it something he wanted
was he doing it to keep you happy
did you do it to make him happy
is it such a great thing to you, not should it be
have you ever considered jumping into bed without him.
