Help Me Understand

5 Aug 2005

Hi Mick here Bobbies other half.
I wonder if you kind folk would try and help me understand something. Why do I get off on the thought of someone else (male) having sex with my partner? We were discussing this last night, and I couldnt come up with the reason why it turns me on.
I have to say we still havent tried it yet although it has been a fantasy for a long time.
Are there any other guys who feel the same as me? Am I abnormal? Id like to join in too, but just to watch seems like fun.
Thanks in advance smile

5 Aug 2005

i've had a couple of 3 some experiences in the past.. one where a mate of mine and myself bought a girl home.. and one where it was a couple.. and i have to say it was an amzing turn on having the guy watching and joining in as i was with his partner.. awsome experience.. needless to say both girls enjoyed it like it was christmas...lol

5 Aug 2005

My recent 3 some with my mate and his misses, was great for me but not so for him, but she wants more and he just dont get turned on by it.

5 Aug 2005

Quote by bobbie2
We were discussing this last night, and I couldnt come up with the reason why it turns me on

A lot of things in life are unexplainable. maybe you don't need to analyse it, just get on with it :twisted: wink

I love to watch. I don't realy know why either... give me a few hours and a lot of alcohol and I might come up with an interesting reason lol

:lol: :lol: :lol:

5 Aug 2005

Quote by bobbie2
Hi Mick here Bobbies other half.
I wonder if you kind folk would try and help me understand something. Why do I get off on the thought of someone else (male) having sex with my partner? We were discussing this last night, and I couldnt come up with the reason why it turns me on.
I have to say we still havent tried it yet although it has been a fantasy for a long time.
Are there any other guys who feel the same as me? Am I abnormal? Id like to join in too, but just to watch seems like fun.
Thanks in advance

You're not abnormal and you don't have to have a reason why something turns you on. All you need to know is that it does turn you on. You may or may not feel the same if/when you actually do it, though.

5 Aug 2005

Cave man. Call him Ug.
Ug fucks off to kill a few sabre-tooth tigers. Comes back, finds other caveman/men shagging Cavewoman. Gets cross. Ug kills Caveman B with big-bastard club. Realises Cavewoman is full of spunk. Not good. Gets immensely and unreasonably sexually aroused. Ug pumps spunk into Cavewoman to displace previous spunk-deposit, thus avoiding chance of bringing up bastard Cavekid.
Survival of genes...... common to most animals.
Pigeon-racers use this all the time: racing cock-bird is taken out of cage, other cockbird put in with hen (pigeons, like humans, are lifetime mates). Cock-bird forced to watch as he sees hen-bird having her feathery arse fucked off. Cock-bird is taken to Normandy, but rushes home in a panic. Shags female. She wins both ways (don't they always?)
Also (in human terms) nice to stand back and watch your beloved at it.... see fine expression on her face as she encounters merciless thrusts; enjoy spectacle in peace and tranquility without use of mirrors. But by-the-way.....
Basically all this is a very old biological genetic thingy.
There are lots of more learned versions of this story. Look em up on Google, via universities..... but that's it, in a nutshell. That's why all blokes (even if they don't EVER admit it) have a fantasy about seeing their wives get hammered. It's physically very very exciting..... but it's straightforward biology, not perverted pyschiatry.

5 Aug 2005

Quote by Kniphofia
Cave man. Call him Ug.
Ug fucks off to kill a few sabre-tooth tigers. Comes back, finds other caveman/men shagging Cavewoman. Gets cross. Ug kills Caveman B with big-bastard club. Realises Cavewoman is full of spunk. Not good. Gets immensely and unreasonably sexually aroused. Ug pumps spunk into Cavewoman to displace previous spunk-deposit, thus avoiding chance of bringing up bastard Cavekid.
Survival of genes...... common to most animals.
Pigeon-racers use this all the time: racing cock-bird is taken out of cage, other cockbird put in with hen (pigeons, like humans, are lifetime mates). Cock-bird forced to watch as he sees hen-bird having her feathery arse fucked off. Cock-bird is taken to Normandy, but rushes home in a panic. Shags female. She wins both ways (don't they always?)
Also (in human terms) nice to stand back and watch your beloved at it.... see fine expression on her face as she encounters merciless thrusts; enjoy spectacle in peace and tranquility without use of mirrors. But by-the-way.....
Basically all this is a very old biological genetic thingy.
There are lots of more learned versions of this story. Look em up on Google, via universities..... but that's it, in a nutshell. That's why all blokes (even if they don't EVER admit it) have a fantasy about seeing their wives get hammered. It's physically very very exciting..... but it's straightforward biology, not perverted pyschiatry.

Lovin' your first post!
Evolutionary theory can explain everything. cool

:lol: :lol: :lol:
Right, off to tidy my soddin' cave, it's a tip :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

5 Aug 2005

The words " bastard cavekid"... had me pissing myself laughing....
and for some strange reason so did "shags the feathery arse".. :shock:
as bluexxx said nice first post!

5 Aug 2005

is anyone else really turned on by the caveman story?
:angel: rushes off to find two big cavemen!
hump

5 Aug 2005

YES ME!!!
i do have my own hairy caveman at home but ug ug ug!!!! love my hair pulled too i wonder if this is a throw back thing to being a cavegirl? lol wink

love peppsxx

5 Aug 2005

Quote by angelnn66
is anyone else really turned on by the caveman story?
:angel: rushes off to find two big cavemen!

I don't look like the caveman equivalent of Casanova, but I think I fit the bill, 'cos I been told lots of times

You're a fucking Neanderthal!

:silly:
So who wants a shag - and when? :rascal: :rascal:
*smokerjim dusts off his shagging diary, in preparation* :small-print: :hump:

5 Aug 2005

Quote by smokerjim
is anyone else really turned on by the caveman story?
:angel: rushes off to find two big cavemen!

I don't look like the caveman equivalent of Casanova, but I think I fit the bill, 'cos I been told lots of times

You're a fucking Neanderthal!

:silly:
So who wants a shag- and when? :rascal: :rascal:
*smokerjim dusts off his shagging diary, in preparation* :small-print: :hump:
Me Me Me!!!!! :bounce:
LoL

5 Aug 2005

Quote by DreamerHelen
is anyone else really turned on by the caveman story?
:angel: rushes off to find two big cavemen!

I don't look like the caveman equivalent of Casanova, but I think I fit the bill, 'cos I been told lots of times

You're a fucking Neanderthal!

:silly:
So who wants a shag- and when? :rascal: :rascal:
*smokerjim dusts off his shagging diary, in preparation* :small-print: :hump:
Me Me Me!!!!! :bounce:
LoL
Well I'm sure I can find a window in my diary for you Helen, kiss

( TF I didn't mention the diary is empty, that's why it's dusty.....bugger :doh: )

5 Aug 2005

Quote by freckledbird
Hi Mick here Bobbies other half.
I wonder if you kind folk would try and help me understand something. Why do I get off on the thought of someone else (male) having sex with my partner? We were discussing this last night, and I couldnt come up with the reason why it turns me on.
I have to say we still havent tried it yet although it has been a fantasy for a long time.
Are there any other guys who feel the same as me? Am I abnormal? Id like to join in too, but just to watch seems like fun.
Thanks in advance

You're not abnormal and you don't have to have a reason why something turns you on. All you need to know is that it does turn you on. You may or may not feel the same if/when you actually do it, though.
As frecklebird says you dont need to explain why some thing turns you on.
My hubby scottishflinstone loves to watch me and i have never asked him why as we both get enjoyment out of the experience biggrin

Carol

6 Aug 2005

Thanks for the input, the caveman story makes me feel better if its some kind of natural reaction. I saw a program on tv once that said if a man thinks his wife is having an afair he is capable of creating sperm that will attack another mans sperm. Arent we men just so clever! ;)

6 Aug 2005

Quote by bobbie2
Thanks for the input, the caveman story makes me feel better if its some kind of natural reaction. I saw a program on tv once that said if a man thinks his wife is having an afair he is capable of creating sperm that will attack another mans sperm. Arent we men just so clever! ;)

Ah, you mean Baker and Bellis's research.
Read Sperm Wars, it's as funny as fuck.
lol

6 Aug 2005

Quote by angelnn66
is anyone else really turned on by the caveman story?
:angel: rushes off to find two big cavemen!

I'm not big, I'm no caveman, but at least I'm local (oh and probably too late confused

)
Chris
:P

6 Aug 2005

never too late wink

hope to meet you one day at a munch xxx

6 Aug 2005

Quote by angelnn66
never too late
hope to meet you one day at a munch xxx

Looks like there might be a late shoe-in for the Leicester Munch!

17 Dec 2005

When I first posted this thread a guy very kindly PMed me with a link on Literotica that was discussing this. I think his name was Andy, I have managed to delete his PM obviously along with the link inside it sad

If he is still knocking around could you link me up again, I cant find it on there.
An update on my thoughts about watching my partner with someone else; still havent done it but we are both turned on by the idea smile

18 Dec 2005

Think I will try to come back as a Pigeon next time. Even if the sex isnt better I will be able to shit on eveyone!! lol

18 Dec 2005

Think I will try to come back as a Pigeon next time. Even if the sex isnt better I will be able to shit on eveyone!! lol

18 Dec 2005

So that explains why I enjoy what me n H get up to
I'm a caveman :rascal:
where's me club

18 Dec 2005

Quote by bluexxx
Thanks for the input, the caveman story makes me feel better if its some kind of natural reaction. I saw a program on tv once that said if a man thinks his wife is having an afair he is capable of creating sperm that will attack another mans sperm. Arent we men just so clever! ;)

Ah, you mean Baker and Bellis's research.
Read Sperm Wars, it's as funny as fuck.
lol

Didnt they quote some of this research when they had the TV program about sex and used an endiscopic camera to show how the cervix dips into the sperm pool below when the woman orgasums?
And also went on to say/describe how one mans sperm hides and when the major partner comes along and copulates then the interlopers sperm hitches a ride and tries to get in there first?
Like yeah, as if sperm actually has a brain and apart from the competition between all sperm to reach the egg first (not an inteligence thing but a survival of the fitest and quickest) it could actually decide to hide and wait for the best moment to come out of cover and run to the finish line....
If the hypothisis is actually true then sperm is probably more intelegent than a lot of single males on swingers sites as at least they use cunning and not "fancy a fuck" :lol:

18 Dec 2005

Quote by piercedJon
Thanks for the input, the caveman story makes me feel better if its some kind of natural reaction. I saw a program on tv once that said if a man thinks his wife is having an afair he is capable of creating sperm that will attack another mans sperm. Arent we men just so clever! ;)

Ah, you mean Baker and Bellis's research.
Read Sperm Wars, it's as funny as fuck.
lol

Didnt they quote some of this research when they had the TV program about sex and used an endiscopic camera to show how the cervix dips into the sperm pool below when the woman orgasums?
If the hypothisis is actually true then sperm is probably more intelegent than a lot of single males on swingers sites as at least they use cunning and not "fancy a fuck" :lol:
The camera thing has been done a few times now, it's very interesting, and as for the last bit how true :lol:

18 Dec 2005

In responce...
Its due to many reasons none of which are actually exact.
The idea of being cukholded... submission... voyerisum... to the reverse of dominance (your missus/extra person submits by following your directions) the anit-thesus of cuckholding in that afterwards you re-assert your comitment and empathy by shagging her brains out better than the play partner, exhibitionisum as shile you are playing in a 3some he is also watching you perform.
I would also hypothisise theres also a bi-sexual element as taking sloppy seconds or even firsts (if you're a play partner then the husband has to have been there reasonably recient) and DP or DV involves close contact by proxie with another male.
Theres also a proof of trust element... she/he can fuck around but they always come back to you and declair their undying love....
So in general the reasons are many and varied...
Foe myself i'd probably say its a trust love thing when I have a swing partner... the knowledge that they always come back to the one they love, when I play as a single guy it ranges from sex to friendship always with the back of my mind saying "its for fun" so with a slight detatchment in much the same way I work with models... nice body, lustfull appreciation, but they are someones GF so nothing more.

18 Dec 2005

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18 Dec 2005

Quote by bobbie2
Hi Mick here Bobbies other half.
I wonder if you kind folk would try and help me understand something. Why do I get off on the thought of someone else (male) having sex with my partner? We were discussing this last night, and I couldnt come up with the reason why it turns me on.
I have to say we still havent tried it yet although it has been a fantasy for a long time.
Are there any other guys who feel the same as me? Am I abnormal? Id like to join in too, but just to watch seems like fun.
Thanks in advance

What's normal/abnormal? I've been in the same position as you and we recently had our first time with another guy. We both found it immensely exciting, albeit within softish boundaries. Of course you could be opening Pandora's box but if you know and trust eachother well enough it could be fine. I found it was certainly erotic but the best thing was a very close emotional connection I had with my wife as she let him play with her. For us it's been great so far and we'll carry on for now but it's early days. My advice is to take it slow and see how you both really feel before things go too far. Don't be frightened to say this is not for us.
Good luck anyway!

18 Dec 2005

Quote by cool4catz
Think I will try to come back as a Pigeon next time. Even if the sex isnt better I will be able to shit on eveyone!! lol

I shouldn't think the sex can be any better, birds don't have cocks. Or maybe that's a good thing....
Swans have cocks..hence the 'Leda and the Swan' myth...couldn't have happened with a different bird! lol

13 Jan 2006

Quote by amalthea
Think I will try to come back as a Pigeon next time. Even if the sex isnt better I will be able to shit on eveyone!! lol

I shouldn't think the sex can be any better, birds don't have cocks. Or maybe that's a good thing....
Swans have cocks..hence the 'Leda and the Swan' myth...couldn't have happened with a different bird! lol
was that not Leda and Zeus or is that another myth.