help needed

5 Jan 2005

been on this site a few times now and I'm obviousley doing something wrong!!!Not even had a natter with anyone!So now i'm feeling very rejected and inadequate,aaaaaaaaaah what I do need is help on where I'm going wrong.I am married and want to have a bit of exitement without the other half knowing , is this wrong ? Have I got no chance?If not then I will give up wasting my confused

I still live in hope. :

5 Jan 2005

I dont agree with cheating, which is what you will be doing but its down to you sweetie. Welcome to the forums and good luck.
Vicky xxx

5 Jan 2005

Well you could start by making your profile a bit more interesting, at the moment it says, wwell nothing!!!!

5 Jan 2005

Vicky you are right of course but men very rarely want to grow up!! Thanks for the reply anyway ,nice to know there are people out there.
Joxx

5 Jan 2005

foxy has always been my weak spot,but will take it on boared,not jo

5 Jan 2005

Quote by johnnyrubs
been on this site a few times now and I'm obviousley doing something wrong!!!Not even had a natter with anyone!

No wonder you haven't had a natter with anyone. You only joined today so if you've been on the site *a few times* you won't have been able to indulge in nattering unless you are a registered user, which it appears you have only just become - we can't natter with you if you're not logged on because we don't know you're there rolleyes

Anyway, :welcome: to the site smile

Join in and have fun wink

Tracy-Jayne

5 Jan 2005

redhot,I meant I'd looked at the photo ads for a while ,its taken ne this long to join the all do seem a friendly lot biggrin

Thanks for the warm

5 Jan 2005

Quote by johnnyrubs
been on this site a few times now and I'm obviousley doing something wrong!!!Not even had a natter with anyone!So now i'm feeling very rejected and inadequate,aaaaaaaaaah what I do need is help on where I'm going wrong.I am married and want to have a bit of exitement without the other half knowing , is this wrong ? Have I got no chance?If not then I will give up wasting my I still live in hope. :

Sorry - but if your other half doesn't know - you're cheating. Sorry if that comes over as judgemental - just my own PERSONAL viewpoint.

6 Jan 2005

There are many justifications for cheating, apparently, but there should never be a time when one has to come on here apologising for disapproving of cheating surely???
Eitherway, welcome Johnnyrubs, hopefully what you find here will benefeit the both of you...really x

6 Jan 2005

Welcome Jonny
"Cheating" is an unfortunate term. If someone is looking to have contact outside of an established relationship, I would have thought that it signifies an incompatability to some degree. It doesn't mean that the two are not suited and shouldn't be together, just that one persons needs are not being met to their satisaction.
It could be that Jonny's other half isn't adventurous enough for his needs. It could be that she (or he) may refuse to discuss the situation. It could be that they have discussed it and that it wasn't resolved. Could be that Jonny's other half has gone off sex. Then what is the poor chap supposed to do. I'm sure these are all situations that we've been in at some time or other. Perhaps Jonny needs a change. it could be as simple as that. Obviously there may be severe emotional fallout if Jonny gets found out. Thats a risk that people take.
I"m in a situation where my partner has a totally different sex drive from me. We are good companions and enjoy doing things together. I wouldn't give her up for anything but I need to have sex. And it has to be the sort of sex that means most to me. And for that I have another it "cheating" if you want but its not a term that I would use. Different people have different over time those needs change. Its not as black and white as people think. Humans are more complex than that.
Good luck Jonny. I hope you find fulfillment.

6 Jan 2005

I'm with you Cicero wink

6 Jan 2005

And it could be that her user name is "boredneglectedwifeathome" and she has been a member for the last 12 months and has had a lovely time getting shagged stupid while you are at work wink

Everyone on here has a slightly different position on this issue, sometimes it is a moral judgement, sometimes it is fear of being photographed by a private investigator, exposed in the local paper, and dragged into a messy divorce case. It could even be because swinging with someone who treats it as a sordid secret is not a very attractive prospect for a couple are open and proud swingers.
Mostly, it is just because we all like to draw the line somewhere, so why not there? dunno

It may not be fair, but no couple, or single person for that matter, on here started off by saying "you know, I really think we should do something for all those husbands/wives who want to have a bit of excitement without the other half knowing"
lhk
Kat

6 Jan 2005

What two excellent postings from Cicero & JudyTV :!:
I wish I was as eloquent :!:
Its a very personal thing, down to the individual and nobody else.