hello fellow adventurers,
the following dilemma has been keeping me up several nights and would like some advice, its a very common problem but im finding the advice and answers from the people i have asked (mainly my age group) hard to digest. so i thought i should reach a more experince and knowledgable audience. here goes;
there was this girl (around my age)i used to see when i went to a particular shop whom i really really liked, so after a month or so; we got talking (during her breaks) and we became very comfortable with each other but we never met each other outside her work environment or mine. then i got a job which forced me to stop making my regular visits to this shop for quite sometime (about 5 months). however; while at a pub i saw her, so i went up to her and we started talking, she said that she was very pleased to see me. because she was with her friends i couldnt "talk" to her properly but managed asked her if she had a boyfriend/partner, she said yes and also said that they have been seeing each other for 2 years, i tried to allow the conversation flow till her friends took her away until she hugged and kissed each other (innocent) to say goodbye; just the feel of her skin and the smell of her hair and of the nape of her neck sent my mind in to this current state! the other thing was: while she was leaving with her friends, to the meet another set of friends at the other end of the pub, she looked back and gave me a look of sadness or regretfulness (check spelling and word!) towards me. now i want you enlighten pleasure seekers to help me decide what to do? should i go for her or just find someone else? as i said before my frineds advice has been hard to swallow (no pun intended), so i would like a more mature and knowledgable guidance to this predicament.
this is a very odd topic but needed to know the consensus before i take a step forward from the crossroad i stand and all replies welcome.
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Help!!! Peace Of Mind Needed.
Life's too short for faffing around, if you sense there is 'something there' and it's mutual, you had to take positive action. Why not suggest meeting her on her lunch break to have a coffee or a sandwich first. If she declines you'll know you may be wasting your time, if she says yes you can work on her some more and finish by suggesting an after work drink or meal even? I'm no expert but this is what I'd do if I was you. Think positive, it's not like you're asking a complete stranger, you've already well and truly broken the ice.
Good luck
Good luck
Tough one, i can see why your thinking hard about it.
Inside your mind is made up as you have been kept awake thinking about the situation.
So what are you going to do about it?
Nothing ventured nothing gained, heard that before? then up a simple meeting like the previous member is comfortable around you and seems friendly, you approached her and she did not run.
Soon enough you will find out if its not to dont be frightened about finding that out or you will never know and that is a whole lot worse.
Good luck.
Inside your mind is made up as you have been kept awake thinking about the situation.
So what are you going to do about it?
Nothing ventured nothing gained, heard that before? then up a simple meeting like the previous member is comfortable around you and seems friendly, you approached her and she did not run.
Soon enough you will find out if its not to dont be frightened about finding that out or you will never know and that is a whole lot worse.
Good luck.
As above.
I'm sure if she did end up being your girlfriend, you wouldn't appreciate someone else chasing after her eh?
Just checked your profile - you're only young! No offence, chicken, but you're gonna meet loads and loads of women who make you feel that way.
If it's meant to be, it will be - but don't go after some other poor lad's love - it's just not fair.
I'm sure if she did end up being your girlfriend, you wouldn't appreciate someone else chasing after her eh?
Just checked your profile - you're only young! No offence, chicken, but you're gonna meet loads and loads of women who make you feel that way.
If it's meant to be, it will be - but don't go after some other poor lad's love - it's just not fair.
Quote by Marya_Northeast
As above.
I'm sure if she did end up being your girlfriend, you wouldn't appreciate someone else chasing after her eh?
Good point well made BUT she could be his soul mate and perfect partner for life.......she may be unhappy in her current relationship. I'm not saying throw himself at her, just try and find out how she feels. If he treads carefully he can make his feelings known and let her decide if the feelings mutual or if she just wants to be friends. Life's too short and if he feels that strongly he may regret not trying to find out few years down the line.
If she's unhappy in the relationship then she should get out of it well before getting into any kind of involvement with someone else,. God, they're only young. i can't help thinking that bouncing from one person to the next is very unhealthy. Excess baggage is not advisable. I wouldnt wanta relationship with someone who wasn't starting out wiht me on a clean slate.
If they are soulmates (if you believe in all that) the surely their paths will cross again and it will all fall into place?
Maybe after 2 years with the same bloke she's just a tad bored or stuck in a rut and it's exciting to have another guy pay you attention? Looks like an affair waiting to happen, doesn't mean it is "it".
If they are soulmates (if you believe in all that) the surely their paths will cross again and it will all fall into place?
Maybe after 2 years with the same bloke she's just a tad bored or stuck in a rut and it's exciting to have another guy pay you attention? Looks like an affair waiting to happen, doesn't mean it is "it".
hi,
thanks for the replies but almost everyone is telling me to move on with the next woman who is single. i would be gladly willing to do that but its been almost 2 months since i saw her last and my mind is still messed-up/even worse. thought this feeling would go away after a few days/weeks but still feel as poignant as the day i saw her.
please dont stop the advice muchly appreciated
p.s. special thanks for 'fabioplum' and 'tyracer' for your support
thanks for the replies but almost everyone is telling me to move on with the next woman who is single. i would be gladly willing to do that but its been almost 2 months since i saw her last and my mind is still messed-up/even worse. thought this feeling would go away after a few days/weeks but still feel as poignant as the day i saw her.
please dont stop the advice muchly appreciated
p.s. special thanks for 'fabioplum' and 'tyracer' for your support
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Quote by Neoamara
hi,
thanks for the replies but almost everyone is telling me to move on with the next woman who is single. i would be gladly willing to do that but its been almost 2 months since i saw her last and my mind is still messed-up/even worse. thought this feeling would go away after a few days/weeks but still feel as poignant as the day i saw her.
please dont stop the advice muchly appreciated
p.s. special thanks for 'fabioplum' and 'tyracer' for your support
In other words, thanks for telling me what I wanted to hear
Quote by Freckledbird
hi,
thanks for the replies but almost everyone is telling me to move on with the next woman who is single. i would be gladly willing to do that but its been almost 2 months since i saw her last and my mind is still messed-up/even worse. thought this feeling would go away after a few days/weeks but still feel as poignant as the day i saw her.
please dont stop the advice muchly appreciated
p.s. special thanks for 'fabioplum' and 'tyracer' for your support
In other words, thanks for telling me what I wanted to hear
My sentiments exactly.
Bottom line is you're gonna do what you want anyway so why ask?
hey,
think i have stepped on some toes!!! i didnt say what im going to do or planning to do, did i? everyone's comment is gratefully appreciated and by telling more people about this i have found different solutions.(alcohol and avoidance being the main ones!!!) but more seriously; im still undecided and trying to prolong this decision, hopefully i'll feel less towards her (eventually). cant even go to my favourite pub or the cinema, which play all the odd/foreign films, cos she lives around that area. i cant even seem to talk to new people (let alone women), so im tryng to keep my self busy otherways.
p.s. for the members i troubled; what is the quotation line at the end of your posts.
think i have stepped on some toes!!! i didnt say what im going to do or planning to do, did i? everyone's comment is gratefully appreciated and by telling more people about this i have found different solutions.(alcohol and avoidance being the main ones!!!) but more seriously; im still undecided and trying to prolong this decision, hopefully i'll feel less towards her (eventually). cant even go to my favourite pub or the cinema, which play all the odd/foreign films, cos she lives around that area. i cant even seem to talk to new people (let alone women), so im tryng to keep my self busy otherways.
p.s. for the members i troubled; what is the quotation line at the end of your posts.
