hi guys,
i have sent quiet alot of replies to adverts and profiles that say there looking for guys, i am always polite in my message, i never hide anything like im married, i also give a good account of what i am looking for also, i always send pictures, and always put on the bottom of my mails if your not interested please just send reply saying " no thanks " im a clean good looking well endowed male from essex but above all else genuine, so why does no one reply at all? i know you must get fed up with the usual mail saying "nice pussy want a fuck" or something like that but i try and always be friendly and polite as thats the kind of person i am. so my question to all the lovely genuine swingers on this site is What am i doing wrong? how can i get replies from your adverts and mails, can you help
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Sex God
Do you know how many pm's couples and females get :shock:
Its impossible to reply to them all...
Its impossible to reply to them all...
I currently have 518 in my mail box, and I haven't renewed my ad for ages, when I do I get inundated. I read them all, but as I state in my profile - if I don't reply, I'm not interested. I used to reply to all of them, a polite thanks but no thanks but a lot of people saw that as a come on and mailed me again and again and then got abusive, can't win.
H.x
H.x
I have to agree with Mallock here. I once put an ad up for a single male and I had over 300 replies in the first 2 days! :shock: Even after deleting the winks and guys that obviously didn;t bother to read my profile, I was still left with more pms than I could handle plus more coming in on a daily basis.
Just remember, fems are the needle, you're the haystack which should give you some idea what you're up against
Keep at it and don't get disheartened. I'm sure you'll be soon beating them off with a stick
Just remember, fems are the needle, you're the haystack which should give you some idea what you're up against
Keep at it and don't get disheartened. I'm sure you'll be soon beating them off with a stick
Welcome to the forumsI don't think you've done anything particularly wrong, but as Mallock says, couples (and in particular females) get a lot of pms.
Sometimes it's not possible to reply to everyone and I know a lot of people who used to send a polite message back saying "no thanks" and it has had repercussions e.g.
"Well I didn't like you anyway you slag"
"Why? what's wrong with me?"
"Oh you're just timewasters then?"
I'm not saying you're someone who would do that, but it does make some people weary of sending replies.
Now the next thing is how you find people who dowant to meet you.
I don't think you're doing anything wrong, but you don't particularly stand out either.
You don't have any profile text
You ads don't say a great deal about you (although the jacuzzi sounds interesting) :thumbup:
You're pics are hidden so I can't comment of those
What you've got to consider is if a couple or fem get 200 responses to their ad from single guys, what can you put that'll make you stand out so they're saying "this guy sounds great"
Have a browse of some of the other single guy ads & profiles and then think about how you can adapt those ideas to show your own personality and what you have to offer.
Hope that helps. Happy hunting
Sex God
I have found the best way is to stalk a suitable female in the forums and badger her till she gives in :giggle:
Seriously though.....
Chat in here and the chatrooms.......Go to some socials/munches.......get yourself known and liked and things will fall into place...
The photo ads aren't the be all and end all...
Lots of women and couples here like to be mentally stimulated as well ;-) .....
Seriously though.....
Chat in here and the chatrooms.......Go to some socials/munches.......get yourself known and liked and things will fall into place...
The photo ads aren't the be all and end all...
Lots of women and couples here like to be mentally stimulated as well ;-) .....
Quote by HornyLittleBlonde
Now the next thing is how you find people who do want to meet you.
I don't think you're doing anything wrong, but you don't particularly stand out either.
You don't have any profile text
You ads don't say a great deal about you (although the jacuzzi sounds interesting) :thumbup:
You're pics are hidden so I can't comment of those
What you've got to consider is if a couple or fem get 200 responses to their ad from single guys, what can you put that'll make you stand out so they're saying "this guy sounds great"
Have a browse of some of the other single guy ads & profiles and then think about how you can adapt those ideas to show your own personality and what you have to offer.
Hope that helps. Happy hunting
Not really qualified to answer this, but have to agree!
Sex God
Quote by HornyLittleBlonde
Lots of women and couples here like to be mentally stimulated as well ;-) .....
Then again lot's are really shallow and just want to see a nice body shot to perv over
Just kidding :giggle:
There hasnt been a nice body shot of me taken(ever) so thats why I have none :giggle:
I've just had three adverts up, but for less than a week (yes 3 as I am greedy :lol) and on top of what I already had saved and sorted in my inbox I have had exactly 2133 replies, and no that isn't a typo!
I've removed the adverts to give me a chance to try and sift through and I won't be replying to them all! :scared:
I've removed the adverts to give me a chance to try and sift through and I won't be replying to them all! :scared:
Sex God
Quote by HornyLittleBlonde
There hasnt been a nice body shot of me taken(ever) so thats why I have none :giggle:
I was talking about Shireen :giggle:
:cry:
*toddles off back to his kennel*
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Quote by Kiss
exactly 2133 replies, and no that isn't a typo!
It must be the beard and the guitar in your avatar that's drawing them in kiss
:roll: Woo
**:bounce: This is not a dig, or passing of judgement :bounce: **
Hiya Raven, don't forget, in addition to the points raised above there will be a lot of people who will be put off by the fact you're married. Having said that, it's nice to see you're being honest about it.
:thumbup: And a Wenchy :welcome:
Hiya Raven, don't forget, in addition to the points raised above there will be a lot of people who will be put off by the fact you're married. Having said that, it's nice to see you're being honest about it.
:thumbup: And a Wenchy :welcome:
Sex God
ohh dear so sad 
all these replys couples and females get .. not us :lol2: I havent checked our ads in ages and havent refreshed them in the list for an age but when we first had a nice ad up all about us with pics etc etc we peaked at about 2 mails a day for about 5 days then that was pretty much it 
Off to take some new pics and a personality transplant :P
all these replys couples and females get .. not us :lol2: I havent checked our ads in ages and havent refreshed them in the list for an age but when we first had a nice ad up all about us with pics etc etc we peaked at about 2 mails a day for about 5 days then that was pretty much it Off to take some new pics and a personality transplant :P
