Helpful Advice ?

2 Oct 2004

i, although ive been on this site a while and have enjoyed chatting with the meny friendly people in here, i now find myself in a dilema
After a recent weekend's party, my wife really came out of her normaly shy shell and started kissing another woman... and her man !!! much to my delight. We have spoken about entertaining with another couple, single male or fem, all of which really excite us. We have looked at several photo adds and thats where the problem arises.
She is really shy, and doesnt like the idea of making a 'shopping' list of do's and dont's, wanting to take things slowly at her pace, yet not appear to be a so called timewaster cos she doesnt want to jump their bones just cos they reply.
so, im asking all the genuine swingers, if we were to place an photo ad, looking to meet couples for friendship and fun, looking to just chat on msn and phone to start with, ( we can prove we are couple ), and if we all get along, to arrange a day out , face to face and if all goes ok, then back to our hotel, would we be concidered timewaster and slagged off?. Being our first time, we would be nervous and unsure of how to proced. Any useful advice would be most welcom, as it all looks very exciting.
Before we get loads of invites and questions , F is petire, size 8, fantastic body, whereas male needs a little work lol.
Thanks smile

2 Oct 2004

It sounds a perfectly fine way to go about it to me. I always used to insist on a social meet first when I was swinging as a couple. I'd expect most people to do the same but you're always gonna find people that want to jump in feet first.
If you explain what you're looking for in your ad and somebody replies then they should know exactly what to expect. How can that be considered timewasting?
Steve

2 Oct 2004

I totally agree with Steve.....if you make it clear in your ad that you would want a Social meet first and then you would want to meet up for some fun then that surely can't be considered timewasting, not when you've made it clear exactly what you want.....
Helen.

2 Oct 2004

Thats the way we do it.... so call us timewasters if you will............ but I think you'll find that most people are cast from the same mould. If they don't want to do it that way then they are not for you, you'll find plenty who are just keep looking and be patient.
Mrs RSAB2 xxx :angel:

2 Oct 2004

I can't see any probs with what you do... you're up front about your intentions so I can't see anyone being able to accuse you of timewasting or not being genuine. It will put off those who want to shag on the first meet or those that only want a one nighter, but those are the people you don't want to meet anyway, so you're saving everyone's time including your own.
carry on as you were cool

2 Oct 2004

We have met one or two wink

peeps from this site and we always chat on msn or similar first. Then if we decide to meet they are told that the first time might only be for a chat and get to know each other and if we all decide to have fun then we will. If any person is unhappy,we will call it a day and leave it at that. Always set ground rules similar to this and let the third party know exactly what these are. Everyone must feel comfortable for it to be worthwhile.
Gill & Del x

3 Oct 2004

Thank you all for your replies.
I now have a much clearer understanding of what we should include in our advert, and not to feel pressurised into anything we dont want to do.
From the sites we have looked at, this one has what we concider true swingers that are friendly , caring people.
I look forward to introducing my wife into this 'family' and meeting a lot of you in the forthcomming years
xx
NH
smile

3 Oct 2004

Blimey, NaughtyHubby !!!
We joined this site on the same day and we have an almost identical post count!!!! How spooky is that ??? confused

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3 Oct 2004