Hi- Im new to the lifestyle and as such all aadvice welcome

28 Jul 2008

Does anybody have any guidelines or help for a beginner please.
Im a 35 year old single man who despite reading all the profiles and tailoring the replies just does not seen to get any joy!
I'm looking to experiment, would love a thressome!, I'm honest, reliable etc why do my replies fall short?
All and any help much appreciated.
Mark sad

28 Jul 2008

Your profile seems ok ... better than a lot I've seen. However, Rome wasn't built in a day. Lots of people think that just by adopting the title 'swinger' and coming onto a swinging website, they'll be bowled down in the rush of offers for NSA sex. Doesn't work that way I'm afraid.
You have to work at it just like any social network when it comes to private meets. Get into the chat rooms, get your name and personality known. Go to socials / munches arranged in your area (keep checking the LMU forum). Soon you'll become known as a genuine guy and will be more likely to get those private meets.
Of course, there are always the swingers clubs for more immediate action so check those out too.
Good luck!
Sugar x

28 Jul 2008

am i reading this wrong,you've been a member since 13 dec 2005,i should be coming for advise from you....

28 Jul 2008

Quote by markdavies12003
Does anybody have any guidelines or help for a beginner please.
Im a 35 year old single man who despite reading all the profiles and tailoring the replies just does not seen to get any joy!
I'm looking to experiment, would love a thressome!, I'm honest, reliable etc why do my replies fall short?
All and any help much appreciated.
Mark

I cant see much wrong with your profile. It is filled out and you have adverts. Much better than some on here with nothing written. How they meet people God knows. lol

You have to be aware there a zillion single guys out there all trying to impress others. It is difficult but advice I would give is always read someones profile if you are replying to their advert. Go into the chat rooms and go to one that is local to you, say the Kent room and get yourself known. Try and go to a social where people can meet you and you can meet them. Word of mouth helps big time in the swinging scene.
I hope that helps a bit and good luck in your quest for meets.

28 Jul 2008

Quote by Phuckers
am i reading this wrong,you've been a member since 13 dec 2005,i should be coming for advise from you....

I was wondering that too lol

Where on earth have you been hiding!!!
I too cannot see anything wrong with your profile and id like to give you a pat on the back for covering ur private parts biggrin

Also welcome to the forum.

28 Jul 2008

My advice would be to add more pics (you only have one on display). Some of us (us included!) are quite shallow and want to see bum and cock shots as well!
Re. him joining in December 2005, so did we but have only been contributing to the forums for about 18 months. We are lazy gits.

28 Jul 2008

Quote by ForestFunsters
My advice would be to add more pics (you only have one on display). Some of us (us included!) are quite shallow and want to see bum and cock shots as well!
Re. him joining in December 2005, so did we but have only been contributing to the forums for about 18 months. We are lazy gits.

Can i ask... Why does liking to see 'cock shots' make you, or anyobdy else for that matter shallow?

28 Jul 2008

Quote by Lilmiss
My advice would be to add more pics (you only have one on display). Some of us (us included!) are quite shallow and want to see bum and cock shots as well!
Re. him joining in December 2005, so did we but have only been contributing to the forums for about 18 months. We are lazy gits.

Can i ask... Why does liking to see 'cock shots' make you, or anyobdy else for that matter shallow?
Only in view of the fact that so many people in these forums have said that they want to know others' personalities, life histories, etc and some just want a good cock and a nice bum. Is shallow the wrong word then? Blatant? Obvious? Superficial?

28 Jul 2008

Hi - for those of you wondering why its taken so long to become involved, note my status. I was unsuccessful in persuading my ex wife to enter the scene and would not enter on my own whilst I was married - even though we were divorcing, strange but I didn't feel I could until I was actually divorced! Hope that helps to explain. Mark

28 Jul 2008

Quote by ForestFunsters
My advice would be to add more pics (you only have one on display). Some of us (us included!) are quite shallow and want to see bum and cock shots as well!
Re. him joining in December 2005, so did we but have only been contributing to the forums for about 18 months. We are lazy gits.

Can i ask... Why does liking to see 'cock shots' make you, or anyobdy else for that matter shallow?
Only in view of the fact that so many people in these forums have said that they want to know others' personalities, life histories, etc and some just want a good cock and a nice bum. Is shallow the wrong word then? Blatant? Obvious? Superficial?
I presonaly would say shallow was the wrong word, but thats just me. I also personally don't like to see cock shots on profiles, again thats just me. But, i certainly would never say that anybody was shallow for liking them. It's each to there own.

28 Jul 2008

:welcome: to the forums Mark!
My advice would be probably an echo of what others have said: join in the forum and chatroom chat, get to a social or Munch (see Let's Meet Up section,) start to enjoy the social side of it, definitely please read the profiles and adverts of people you reply to carefully and respond in kind, don't just cut and paste stuff!! Accept that there is no quick-fix, or very rarely anyway, and adopt a kind of get-out-of-it-what-you-put-in approach to the site and then you may have more joy!
Nola x

28 Jul 2008

Quote by ForestFunsters
My advice would be to add more pics (you only have one on display). Some of us (us included!) are quite shallow and want to see bum and cock shots as well!
Re. him joining in December 2005, so did we but have only been contributing to the forums for about 18 months. We are lazy gits.

Can i ask... Why does liking to see 'cock shots' make you, or anyobdy else for that matter shallow?
Only in view of the fact that so many people in these forums have said that they want to know others' personalities, life histories, etc and some just want a good cock and a nice bum. Is shallow the wrong word then? Blatant? Obvious? Superficial?
It's stating your preferences - nothing wrong with that as long as you're not abusive to anyone else (which you haven't been). We don't all want the same and to be honest, it'd be boring if we did.

Quote by markdavies12003
Hi - for those of you wondering why its taken so long to become involved, note my status. I was unsuccessful in persuading my ex wife to enter the scene and would not enter on my own whilst I was married - even though we were divorcing, strange but I didn't feel I could until I was actually divorced! Hope that helps to explain. Mark

You don't have to explain!
Welcome to the forum. I can't see anything wrong with your profile or ads. If you have only just started on the forum - as someone else has suggested, you could maybe try to get to a social near you, to get yourself known a bit?

29 Jul 2008

With regards to the socials and munch's - is it just a case of putting ones name down, or do you need an invite? Can I attend any or is limited?
Thanks again for all your help everyone.
Mark

29 Jul 2008

Quote by markdavies12003
With regards to the socials and munch's - is it just a case of putting ones name down, or do you need an invite? Can I attend any or is limited?
Thanks again for all your help everyone.
Mark

Usually you can just put your name down, but you can also contact the people running the social as well.
Good luck.

29 Jul 2008

Quote by markdavies12003
With regards to the socials and munch's - is it just a case of putting ones name down, or do you need an invite? Can I attend any or is limited?
Thanks again for all your help everyone.
Mark

As Kent has said, you just put your name down. Trawl through LMU forum, see which take your fancy and put your name down. Some are at the top of the list ('stickied' I think they call it) to keep them there as it is only a couple of months away from the event. Others will be in the main forum section, so you may have to scroll down and onto page 2 to see some.
There are folks that travel all over the place for Munches, so don't feel restricted to your immediate area if you fancy making a weekend of it. Most Munch organisers will send you a list of local hotels.
Hope you have fun!
Nola x

29 Jul 2008

Hello

and :welcome: to the forums :smile:
Axx

29 Jul 2008

Thanks for all your help its much appreciated. Perhaps I'll meet some of you at a munch soon then.
Mark wink

29 Jul 2008

Quote by markdavies12003
Thanks for all your help its much appreciated. Perhaps I'll meet some of you at a munch soon then.
Mark

That'd be fun.... :wink:

30 Jul 2008

OK I can attend a Munch - when there is one near my location, but do people still think I should be replying to adverts? And how much does distance matter when choosing a partner?
Thanks for all the advice - one day I might get there!!

30 Jul 2008

Quote by markdavies12003
OK I can attend a Munch - when there is one near my location, but do people still think I should be replying to adverts? And how much does distance matter when choosing a partner?
Thanks for all the advice - one day I might get there!!

Yes, why wouldn't you still reply to adverts? Distance is dependent on how far you or they are prepared to travel, really.