Holidays and Sex!

26 Jul 2007

As a single woman I tend to go away on my own, mainly to chill out, relax, read, see the sights, flake out in the sun and catch some rays etc! If I meet a nice fella great...... wink

For the first time, I was really pestered by guys of all ages. Its wasn't just a few times, it was over a dozen offers of sex a day (I'd have been knackered by the end of the week if I'd have taken them all up lol

:lol: ). They followed me around by foot, car or motorbike......every day and every flipping night. I felt so harassed and pestered I was near to tears after five days.
I asked to move tables in restaurants, threatened not to pay for meals unless I was left alone, even one of house boys asked to sleep in my room :shock: Offered sex *free of charge* at on the beach (ok that one made me laugh :lol: )
Normally I'm quite a polite, friendly person wherever I am and like to get to know the local culture, have a natter and giggle with people I meet etc.
This time, I actually went into evil mode as soon as a guy looked at me.....so he didn't get chance to open his mouth! I ended up finding places to go that was either deserted or went out with a group I had met on another forum that had regular meets for newcomers to the country.
Besides that I had a wonderful time, met some lovely people and would certainly go again but with a little more knowledge of what to expect :smile:
Has anyone else had this experience on holiday? How did you deal with it?
Or if sex is on the agenda for you, how did/would you approach lone women/guys?
xanaisx
PS. Oh and thank you to the lovely guy from here who saved me from awkward situations on more than one occasion! kiss

:kiss:
PPS. thank you also for all the wonderful welcome back pms :kiss: :kiss:

27 Jul 2007

Yes.. but then I expect it I married the booga! lol

Seriously tho, I've not actually been away without a man in tow and I can only sympathise with you hun.
I'm sure one of those adonis' must've slipped through the net tho :rascal:

27 Jul 2007

We reccommend a tattoo saying "fuck off im ovulating " on the forhead - failing that especially in the Med - the men will come even if you are holding a bread knife and screaming 'keep away' in a hysterical voice .
Feel your pain hun lolol

27 Jul 2007

Fancy a F*** lol

:lol:

27 Jul 2007

Hi Anais
I know what you mean, I get pestered all the time rolleyes

I find that getting blindly drunk often assists me. As you may know "beer goggles" can help in the worst of circumstances and the "mystery bus" will always get you home lol

Seriously though, I have only ever holidayed abroad alone once and it might not be a surprise to find I was not hassled (unless you count the Timeshare people in Chad) :lol:
In fact I have only been offered sex for money twice and both times it was in Cardiff!!

27 Jul 2007

Quote by SuperDave
In fact I have only been offered sex for money twice and both times it was in Cardiff!!

:shock: Cardiff?! :shock:
Me too ;)

27 Jul 2007

Quote by TheLovelyOne

In fact I have only been offered sex for money twice and both times it was in Cardiff!!

:shock: Cardiff?! :shock:
Me too ;)
it was probably the same fella lol

27 Jul 2007

Quote by SuperDave
I find that getting blindly drunk often assists me. As you may know "beer goggles" can help in the worst of circumstances and the "mystery bus" will always get you home

I always wondered where that bus came from confused

:?

Quote by makaveli69
Fancy a F***

I can see you'll go far :? :?
:lol: wink

Quote by Jaymar
I'm sure one of those adonis' must've slipped through the net tho

:gagged:

Quote by Silk and Big G
We reccommend a tattoo saying "fuck off im ovulating " on the forhead - failing that especially in the Med - the men will come even if you are holding a bread knife and screaming 'keep away' in a hysterical voice .
Feel your pain hun lolol

I thought for a while I had *old an desperate* tattooed on me forehead... :lol: :lol:

Quote by TheLovelyOne

In fact I have only been offered sex for money twice and both times it was in Cardiff!!

Cardiff?!
Me too
Great for shopping eh? :wink:

27 Jul 2007

Anais
Pmsl here (sorry) lol

I know the feeling, in Thailand in certain areas it is not unknown to be approached whilst on the beach, by females who are 'working' the beach for money, the best thing I have learnt is 'no thankyou' and if they still don't get the message try something suitable in their own language!! (that includes, Thai, Russian, German, and one or two other eastern languages!!)
or re the sex thing... :lol: :lol:
Make sure when staying in a private house, that the door is fully closed and correctly locked!!

27 Jul 2007

Mmm Thats turkey for ya.... lol

:lol:
At a guess..??
Mike xx

27 Jul 2007

Quote by Sarah
Anais
Pmsl here (sorry)
I know the feeling, in Thailand in certain areas it is not unknown to be approached whilst on the beach, by females who are 'working' the beach for money, the best thing I have learnt is 'no thankyou' and if they still don't get the message try something suitable in their own language!! (that includes, Thai, Russian, German, and one or two other eastern languages!!)
or re the sex thing... :lol: :lol:
Make sure when staying in a private house, that the door is fully closed and correctly locked!!

Not sure if its me though Sarah... Knowing the town your talking about and NEVER taken in the local delights on offer.. this year it was harder than ever to get NO accross...
Even in our favourite haunts at the end of second road.. Dusit Roundabout where all the pool tables are outside.. just before the market!!! Never been harrassed and never had any grief but this year took the buscuit lol.... 'No No' 'No Thank you' 'Bugger off (with a nice smile mind)' 'Go away please' Nothing did the trick with some... The only thing that worked was moving bars to spend money each time but close enough to let them see so that the following night they sort of got the message... sort of!!
Mike x

27 Jul 2007

Quote by Sarah
Anais
Pmsl here (sorry)
I know the feeling, in Thailand in certain areas it is not unknown to be approached whilst on the beach, by females who are 'working' the beach for money, the best thing I have learnt is 'no thankyou' and if they still don't get the message try something suitable in their own language!! (that includes, Thai, Russian, German, and one or two other eastern languages!!)
or re the sex thing... :lol: :lol:
Make sure when staying in a private house, that the door is fully closed and correctly locked!!

Sarah, laughing at me.... well!! :lol: wink

I must admit the first few days I giggled away to myself because it was all new to me, but boy did it get to me after a while!
Then the photographing started...I got really cross then!! By all accounts they go home an tell friends this was thier g/f on holiday!Or put pics on the internet... the blighters!
Someone told me that you can have practically any guy you want long as you buy them food an drink..then you have them for the night/s..... buy ya own ya bugga's! confused

:?
I did learnt to say *Makka Nakki*, translates to *you have nothing I want* (I hope :? )..didnt always work! :roll: An if another guys calls me Barbie gal again grrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr mad

I did have drinks sent over to me a lot in restaurants and bars.... rather amusing, I drank up and left :lol: :lol:

Quote by mdr2000
Mmm Thats turkey for ya....
At a guess..??
Mike xx

Sod, its like that in Turkey too! I wont be going there for a chilled hol then in the future :lol:

27 Jul 2007

Bloody Goa then lol....
Pictures... friends??
Mmm India .. Goa..
????
Mikie x

27 Jul 2007

Quote by mdr2000
Bloody Goa then lol....
Pictures... friends??
Mmm India .. Goa..
????
Mikie x

Hahah your right lol

Beautiful place...had a fantastic time!
Went to great night club... made a joke to some of the people I persuaded to go with me that it was a swinging club. When I got there my face must have been a picture as it was full of four poster beds and little cubby holes above the dance floor with curtains across for privacy :lol: :lol:
Free entrance an drinks for women till 4am in the morning... I had a good night! wink

27 Jul 2007

I went by myself two years ago to Eygpt for a week. I had never done this ever before and although I was seeing someone I wanted a break by myself. As soon as I got there I realised I had a triangle over my head bleeping "single woman"!!!!! My hotel was fabulous but at every bar in the hotel, the dining areas and tours there were men there asking me very forward questions all the time. Even the guy who cleaned my room left a big heart on my bed made out of towells having first left swans :shock: .
Now I have a mouth on me and can come across pretty assertive when I want to and my ambition that week was to get an amazing tan and read 10 books. I did both but I did realise that in many ways I was vunerable and I always made sure the door was locked!!!!!
I would still do it again and as I grow older I know I want to travel and will have no choice but to do this alone sometimes and I find the thought of that pretty exciting biggrin

:D

28 Jul 2007

Quote by mdr2000
Anais
Pmsl here (sorry)
I know the feeling, in Thailand in certain areas it is not unknown to be approached whilst on the beach, by females who are 'working' the beach for money, the best thing I have learnt is 'no thankyou' and if they still don't get the message try something suitable in their own language!! (that includes, Thai, Russian, German, and one or two other eastern languages!!)
or re the sex thing... :lol: :lol:
Make sure when staying in a private house, that the door is fully closed and correctly locked!!

Not sure if its me though Sarah... Knowing the town your talking about and NEVER taken in the local delights on offer.. this year it was harder than ever to get NO accross...
Even in our favourite haunts at the end of second road.. Dusit Roundabout where all the pool tables are outside.. just before the market!!! Never been harrassed and never had any grief but this year took the buscuit lol.... 'No No' 'No Thank you' 'Bugger off (with a nice smile mind)' 'Go away please' Nothing did the trick with some... The only thing that worked was moving bars to spend money each time but close enough to let them see so that the following night they sort of got the message... sort of!!
Mike x
Should'nt have such a nice bum then should ya Mike :P

28 Jul 2007

Quote by firelizard
Anais
Pmsl here (sorry)
I know the feeling, in Thailand in certain areas it is not unknown to be approached whilst on the beach, by females who are 'working' the beach for money, the best thing I have learnt is 'no thankyou' and if they still don't get the message try something suitable in their own language!! (that includes, Thai, Russian, German, and one or two other eastern languages!!)
or re the sex thing... :lol: :lol:
Make sure when staying in a private house, that the door is fully closed and correctly locked!!

Not sure if its me though Sarah... Knowing the town your talking about and NEVER taken in the local delights on offer.. this year it was harder than ever to get NO accross...
Even in our favourite haunts at the end of second road.. Dusit Roundabout where all the pool tables are outside.. just before the market!!! Never been harrassed and never had any grief but this year took the buscuit lol.... 'No No' 'No Thank you' 'Bugger off (with a nice smile mind)' 'Go away please' Nothing did the trick with some... The only thing that worked was moving bars to spend money each time but close enough to let them see so that the following night they sort of got the message... sort of!!
Mike x
Should'nt have such a nice bum then should ya Mike :P
Well... kind words and flattery xxx Mwahhh to you too xx

28 Jul 2007

Quote by anais
For the first time, I was really pestered by guys of all ages. Its wasn't just a few times, it was over a dozen offers of sex a day (I'd have been knackered by the end of the week if I'd have taken them all up :lol: ). They followed me around by foot, car or motorbike......every day and every flipping night. I felt so harassed and pestered I was near to tears after five days.
I asked to move tables in restaurants, threatened not to pay for meals unless I was left alone, even one of house boys asked to sleep in my room :shock: Offered sex *free of charge* at on the beach (ok that one made me laugh :lol: )

In answer as to how to ward off guys, the following steps may be necessary:-
have your hair cut very short and spike it up with gel.
always go out wearing a football shirt, jeans (or knee-length shorts) and trainers.
have a fake tattoo on one forearm with initials of above mentioned football team.
have a fake tattoo with a popeye-style anchor on the other arm.
always drink pints.
pierce your ears at the top, several times.
A bit extreme, but you never know, it might work!!!
Slurpy xxx ps. any reference in the above to any person living or dead, or a member of this site is purely coincidental and the author does not take responsibility in perpetuity. So there.

30 Jul 2007

Quote by Corrie2007
I went by myself two years ago to Eygpt for a week. I had never done this ever before and although I was seeing someone I wanted a break by myself. As soon as I got there I realised I had a triangle over my head bleeping "single woman"!!!!! My hotel was fabulous but at every bar in the hotel, the dining areas and tours there were men there asking me very forward questions all the time. Even the guy who cleaned my room left a big heart on my bed made out of towells having first left swans :shock: .
Now I have a mouth on me and can come across pretty assertive when I want to and my ambition that week was to get an amazing tan and read 10 books. I did both but I did realise that in many ways I was vunerable and I always made sure the door was locked!!!!!
I would still do it again and as I grow older I know I want to travel and will have no choice but to do this alone sometimes and I find the thought of that pretty exciting :D

Its quite an adventure to go away on your own.... I really enjoyed it. Took my watch off and forgot about the time. Did what I wanted to do, when I wanted to do it, ate when I was hungry etc... I definately would do it again. I would do some things differently now that I know us single women (and a newbies to certain countries - we stand out so much!) have homing beacons on our heads...
I got up to find flowers all over my door one morning... thinking it was Easter Sunday and a local custom I didnt think much of it till I noticed that no-one else had them... confused

Till, one of the house boys asked me if I had recieved my flowers at breakfast... turns out that I had told one of the house boys he was *so bad* for asking to sleep in my room the previous night he had put them there as an apoligy lol

I did lock my door each night but we also had a great security guard who seemed to take it upoon himself to check that I was ok each evening! Still locked it though lol
I have heard of strange things being done with your bed or towels!! One of the ladies I met told me she had red flower petals all over hers one day when she got back to her room... cute init?
YOu can certainly have some adventures on your own and with friends... the only time I really missed company was not having anyone to tell funny stories of things that had happened to me that day, or no-one to go sight seeing with. Plus, if you have a travelling friend it can be much cheaper etc.

Quote by SlurpySarah
In answer as to how to ward off guys, the following steps may be necessary:-
have your hair cut very short and spike it up with gel.
always go out wearing a football shirt, jeans (or knee-length shorts) and trainers.
have a fake tattoo on one forearm with initials of above mentioned football team.
have a fake tattoo with a popeye-style anchor on the other arm.
always drink pints.
pierce your ears at the top, several times.
A bit extreme, but you never know, it might work!!!
Slurpy xxx ps. any reference in the above to any person living or dead, or a member of this site is purely coincidental and the author does not take responsibility in perpetuity. So there.

you've seen a pic of me haven't you??? :shock: :shock:
wink

Good tips...I shall try them :lol: :lol:

30 Jul 2007

Quote by mdr2000
Mmm Thats turkey for ya.... :lol:
At a guess..??
Mike xx

Isn't it just lol ?
I've just got back from Marmaris, I went with a group of mates (mixed males and females) and I acquired 7 would-be husbands and a 'son' confused

:shock:
I laughed a lot ;)