How can I have multiple orgasms?
by Dr. Ruth Westheimer (see more from this contributor
Question
My boyfriend and I don't want to have sex until we're married, but we still find many ways to enjoy each other. I'm able to have an orgasm when he touches me with his fingers and when I'm masturbating. But I've noticed that whether I'm masturbating or he's doing it for me, I can only orgasm once, then not again for a long time. After I've climaxed the first time, my clitoris gets really sensitive, and although I want to orgasm again and it feels close, it almost hurts and I just can't seem to do it. I feel really bad because I know my boyfriend wants to please me and feels like he's not doing it well enough. I don't want to fake more orgasms to make him happy, because then I'd feel guilty. Is there something wrong with me? What can I do to have multiple orgasms?
Answer
I don't know what your favorite meal is, but let's pretend it's steak and French fries. So you're at a restaurant, you've just finished a nice juicy steak with lots of fries and you're feeling really full. Then the waiter comes over, puts down another plate of steak and fries in front of you and says, "With the compliments of the chef." It's free! You may be able to stuff down another couple of mouthfuls, but unless you're a 300-pound football player, you would probably gag after the third bite. That's analogous to your situation with orgasms. After you already have a satisfying orgasm, you're not going to be ready for another until you "digest" the first one.
You've probably heard that some women are multiorgasmic. It's true, but there's a difference between them and you. Imagine that when the waiter brought your first order of steak and fries, it was on a tiny little plate and you cleaned it all up in a couple of bites. You wouldn't feel fully satisfied from that, would you? When the waiter brought the next little plate, you'd clean that one up too. Eventually, after a few plates, you might feel satiated, but maybe not.
Women who are multiorgasmic don't get satiated by their first orgasm, and so they want more. I'm not going to guess who's better off, those women who are fully satisfied after one orgasm or those who need many. The fact remains that you are who you are. If you're satisfied with one orgasm, that's great -- as long as you get that one orgasm. You don't require another one, and if you try to force yourself, it won't be very pleasurable. So stop worrying about this, and tell your boyfriend to stop pressuring you into having more than one orgasm.
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How can I have multiple orgasms?
orgasm/food ; food/orgasm :dunno: 
Sex God
Thank goodness... I thought I was abnormal not wanting another orgasm as soon as I've had one. :shock:
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Sex God
it is horses for courses but if u want multipules then get on blue and satins next list
Sex God
Im with Calista and xxDevil6 on this one!
One HUGE one and im a happy camper! :smile2:
One HUGE one and im a happy camper! :smile2:
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Not just you :twisted: Greedy here too :P
It's not that I don't want multiple orgasms.......maybe I should be more demanding... whats the secret ladies?
Don't know the secret hun.
That first one is hard to get to, but from there on they just keep on cumming
:twisted: :twisted: :twisted: I'm not always multi-orgasmic, but when I'm not the orgasm isn't as intense. More like one set away from a wank
Over to you PoloLady...
Orgasminator
Mmm steak and fries! *salivating*
Sex God
I am easy to make cum if I am turned on and fancy the person like mad. I have been know to come withing minutes. 
If it is a killer orgasm then I roll over and go to sleep, if I am allowed to. Sometimes a certain person keeps me going just to see how many I can handle before I blackout, collapse or he literally just has to stroke my skin and I'm almost coming.
I love being mulitorgasmic. Even when he got me to squirt, which is one of the most intense orgasms I have ever had, he carried on and made me do it another two times after that.
:inlove: It was mind blowing.
:inlove:
Although in a play situation, I just love the contact from so many other people at the same time. All very horny stuff and I don't feel the need for an orgasm all the time.
If it is a killer orgasm then I roll over and go to sleep, if I am allowed to. Sometimes a certain person keeps me going just to see how many I can handle before I blackout, collapse or he literally just has to stroke my skin and I'm almost coming.
I love being mulitorgasmic. Even when he got me to squirt, which is one of the most intense orgasms I have ever had, he carried on and made me do it another two times after that.
:inlove: It was mind blowing.
:inlove:
Although in a play situation, I just love the contact from so many other people at the same time. All very horny stuff and I don't feel the need for an orgasm all the time.
I tend to only have the one, but it is usualy very intense and I am very noisy!
We usually end up rolling around with laughter after that cos the dog always starts howling when I cum. Think he likes to join in the sound effects!
Anyway it tends to kill the desire to carry on.
God knows what the neighbours must think
Lydia xx
We usually end up rolling around with laughter after that cos the dog always starts howling when I cum. Think he likes to join in the sound effects!
Anyway it tends to kill the desire to carry on.
God knows what the neighbours must think
Lydia xx
