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How can you be sure it`s all just for fun ?
Quote by flower411
BUT then ...he says " How do you cope with your mrs fucking other guys, don`t you think she`ll run off with somebody else ? "
I`m kinda lost for words
What should I tell him ??
The truth?
ie., you and your wife are fine with the situation which is why you are here, if he's not happy, tara.. 
I have a very dear, intimate friend who doesn't quite "get it" either. He is, by nature, not someone who could share his partner with anyone. Had you asked him before we got involved if this situation was one he would have ever got involved in, the answer would have been a resounding, emphatic no. No way. Never.
However, as I was spookily only trying to explain to someone last night, sometimes something happens, or someone comes into your life and turns things upside down.
You decide if to accept whats on offer, even if it's not packaged the way you always imagined it, or walk away.
I think age & experience has a lot to do with it. When you leave behind the Rose coloured glasses and decide that when happiness comes your way- even in a manner you never envisaged- you need to grasp it.
I know I'll never get the threesome with Mr W & my lover, but we've come a long way- and I'm thankful for that.
However, as I was spookily only trying to explain to someone last night, sometimes something happens, or someone comes into your life and turns things upside down.
You decide if to accept whats on offer, even if it's not packaged the way you always imagined it, or walk away.
I think age & experience has a lot to do with it. When you leave behind the Rose coloured glasses and decide that when happiness comes your way- even in a manner you never envisaged- you need to grasp it.
I know I'll never get the threesome with Mr W & my lover, but we've come a long way- and I'm thankful for that.
Sex God
flower i know what a 3some is....my cock and my left and right hand ;) 
:shock:
sorry lol....
:shock: sorry lol....
Quote by flower411
BUT then ...he says " How do you cope with your mrs fucking other guys, don`t you think she`ll run off with somebody else ? "
I`m kinda lost for words
What should I tell him ??
:doh: unless thats your plan :shock: then he should realise that you have total faith and trust in Mrs Flower. If he does'nt, then tell him.
If he still does'nt get it. Ask him how he can go around fucking other people wives
Louise xx
Sex God
You can have sex without ties but fucking sounds more animalistic to me
Sex God
Quote by Liaisons
Well there is the answer to flowers concern
Not really as they are only our interpritations and they may differ from his own..
Quote by louise_and_joe
If your talking in an emotional sense
Fucking someone - no emotionional ties
Having sex - with emotiontional ties
Then yes, there is a difference.
Louise xx
to us
fucking someone, having sex = no emotionional ties
making love = with emotiontional ties and something only me and Tony do
shaz x
Quote by Shaz_n_Tony
If your talking in an emotional sense
Fucking someone - no emotionional ties
Having sex - with emotiontional ties
Then yes, there is a difference.
Louise xx
to us
fucking someone, having sex = no emotionional ties
making love = with emotiontional ties and something only me and Tony do
shaz x
Yes, everyone views it diefferently, which is Mallock's point too.
I have sex with Joe sometimes, its not always making love, for us. Then again that is just the way that I see it.
Louise xx
The terminology is a huge grey area- as Mallock said. I can fuck my husband-or I can make love to him. Theres a whole stack of stuff in between too. Quick shag, kinky sex, slow laid back morning session......etc etc.
The whole gamut of emotions is available in most loving relationships- but when you have intercourse with someone you're not in love with, it will stop short of "lovemaking"
Speaking of making- did that make any sense?
The whole gamut of emotions is available in most loving relationships- but when you have intercourse with someone you're not in love with, it will stop short of "lovemaking"
Speaking of making- did that make any sense?
Sex God
Quote by winchwench
The terminology is a huge grey area- as Mallock said. I can fuck my husband-or I can make love to him. Theres a whole stack of stuff in between too. Quick shag, kinky sex, slow laid back morning session......etc etc.
The whole gamut of emotions is available in most loving relationships- but when you have intercourse with someone you're not in love with, it will stop short of "lovemaking"
Speaking of making- did that make any sense?
Yep :thumbup:
Quote by winchwench
The terminology is a huge grey area- as Mallock said. I can fuck my husband-or I can make love to him. Theres a whole stack of stuff in between too. Quick shag, kinky sex, slow laid back morning session......etc etc.
The whole gamut of emotions is available in most loving relationships- but when you have intercourse with someone you're not in love with, it will stop short of "lovemaking"
Speaking of making- did that make any sense?
You are totally making sense hun.. I only make love to Jay. When we swing, it's shagging, it's sex, it's horny sex.
With Jay it's all of these things, we've had horny 5 minute shags where the build up has been so immense there's no need for foreplay or kissing, it's straight on with it!
Quote by Mallock2006
You can have sex without ties but fucking sounds more animalistic to me
I agree, I rarely use the word "fuck" it's cold in my eyes... I would say I have sex or dare I say it... shag others but as previously said, make love to one only.
Now..... caressing, licking, sucking ... they're for both!
Quote by flower411
All this has reminded me of another thread I was thinking of starting !!
When we are on cam, people are always commenting on how nice it is to see two people who are so obviously in love :shock: and it was also mentioned in a thread in the chatroom lounge !!
My question here, is , how the bloody hell can you tell ???
Is it possible to watch two people having sex and know that they are making love and not just fucking ??
Yes it was me.. and ffs Flower it was a compliment.
I'm a romantic and the time I watched you both, you were both looking lovingly into each others eyes, caressing each others faces, stroking and kissing. Mrs Flower had flushed cheeks and kept going back to you with little looks of love.
I didn't see you 'fucking' each other so when I said you 'looked' in love, it wasn't about the sex.
That's how I could tell.. now tell me, was I wrong????
Jeeesz, give people compliments and see what happens!
Feeling particularly silly this afternoon, look what I just did
I even coloured it in myself & everyfink! :smug:
It's a bit like the Kinsey Scale, so I've called in the Winchy scale. Whilst it does not attempt to be a definitive guide to the wonders of sex, it'll have to do as my contribution to science!
I even coloured it in myself & everyfink! :smug:
It's a bit like the Kinsey Scale, so I've called in the Winchy scale. Whilst it does not attempt to be a definitive guide to the wonders of sex, it'll have to do as my contribution to science!
Sex God
Quote by winchwench
Feeling particularly silly this afternoon, look what I just did
I even coloured it in myself & everyfink! :smug:
It's a bit like the Kinsey Scale, so I've called in the Winchy scale. Whilst it does not attempt to be a definitive guide to the wonders of sex, it'll have to do as my contribution to science!
Your completely barking :lol2: :lol2:
Quote by Mallock2006
Feeling particularly silly this afternoon, look what I just did
I even coloured it in myself & everyfink! :smug:
It's a bit like the Kinsey Scale, so I've called in the Winchy scale. Whilst it does not attempt to be a definitive guide to the wonders of sex, it'll have to do as my contribution to science!
Your completely barking :lol2: :lol2:
too much time on her hands ..... me wonders what will be next :uhoh:
Quote by winchwench
Feeling particularly silly this afternoon, look what I just did
I even coloured it in myself & everyfink! :smug:
It's a bit like the Kinsey Scale, so I've called in the Winchy scale. Whilst it does not attempt to be a definitive guide to the wonders of sex, it'll have to do as my contribution to science!
With the left hand side of Winchy's scale being 1 and the right being 7, im in the mood for 1 :twisted:
Louise xx
