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Had a quick look at your profile, and looks nice! I think what it is, is that its mostly couples and single men on here, the majority of people who look at my profile are single men.. and get scared off when they read my full profile!
Most bi girls that are part of a couple don't like to play alone, and single bi girls are probably wary of meeting couples alone.
I think it might be a case of just wait and see! I have been on the site just over a month, and had no meets yet, I might be too specific in what I want, but I would rather be that than easy! There are a lot of timewasters on here too... I have been pm'd by loads.. it does get frustrating...
I hope you find what you're looking for... xx
Most bi girls that are part of a couple don't like to play alone, and single bi girls are probably wary of meeting couples alone.
I think it might be a case of just wait and see! I have been on the site just over a month, and had no meets yet, I might be too specific in what I want, but I would rather be that than easy! There are a lot of timewasters on here too... I have been pm'd by loads.. it does get frustrating...
I hope you find what you're looking for... xx
Quote by Misskitty_2008
Had a quick look at your profile, and looks nice! I think what it is, is that its mostly couples and single men on here, the majority of people who look at my profile are single men.. and get scared off when they read my full profile!
Most bi girls that are part of a couple don't like to play alone, and single bi girls are probably wary of meeting couples alone.
I think it might be a case of just wait and see! I have been on the site just over a month, and had no meets yet, I might be too specific in what I want, but I would rather be that than easy! There are a lot of timewasters on here too... I have been pm'd by loads.. it does get frustrating...
I hope you find what you're looking for... xx
what prove have you got to say most single men here are timewasters?have you arranged any meets yet?...the OP has clearly stated that they are interested in meeting single females not single men
but i agree with the highlighted bit try 'lets meet forum' you have to be a regular at munches and socials to be able to build up a bond with single females,so dont wait for the kingdom to come, go it
Sex God
I'm a single bi fem.. so i will say it how it is from my point of view.
I have in the past met cpls... but i have spent quite a while chatting to them 1st. But i have found lately, most cpls don't wanna chat and make the single girl feel at ease.. they just wanna meet... far to pushy for me. I used to have a ad up seeking cpls, it explained on it that i don't just meet and i like to get to know people.. but they didn't read it and i got endless mails asking if i was available to meet that night!! Upon saying no, i never heard from them again. I find it extremely 'Scary' going and meeting cpls too, but im not 'scared' of them... does that make sence?
I always have this thought of..'What if something goes wrong'? You hear of many horror stories and i always feel well what would i do if it did? The cpl have eachother, im on my own.. Who do i fall back on? This is why i have to feel i know them a little and know i can trust them. So far the ones i have met, have looked after me and even delievered me back home safely.
Also for my I have to be attracted to them both too.
I have in the past met cpls... but i have spent quite a while chatting to them 1st. But i have found lately, most cpls don't wanna chat and make the single girl feel at ease.. they just wanna meet... far to pushy for me. I used to have a ad up seeking cpls, it explained on it that i don't just meet and i like to get to know people.. but they didn't read it and i got endless mails asking if i was available to meet that night!! Upon saying no, i never heard from them again. I find it extremely 'Scary' going and meeting cpls too, but im not 'scared' of them... does that make sence?
I always have this thought of..'What if something goes wrong'? You hear of many horror stories and i always feel well what would i do if it did? The cpl have eachother, im on my own.. Who do i fall back on? This is why i have to feel i know them a little and know i can trust them. So far the ones i have met, have looked after me and even delievered me back home safely.
Also for my I have to be attracted to them both too.
Sex God
Quote by Misskitty_2008
Most bi girls that are part of a couple don't like to play alone, and single bi girls are probably wary of meeting couples alone.
What a load of nonsense!
When I was a single bi female, I loved meeting couples, met in a public place for drink first etc or at a munch / social.
If it felt right then we went for it, if not a polite excuse and went home.
By the very nature of being single if you want to meet couples you have to leave the worry behind and get on with it!!
Sex God
Quote by Phuckers
Had a quick look at your profile, and looks nice! I think what it is, is that its mostly couples and single men on here, the majority of people who look at my profile are single men.. and get scared off when they read my full profile!
Most bi girls that are part of a couple don't like to play alone, and single bi girls are probably wary of meeting couples alone.
I think it might be a case of just wait and see! I have been on the site just over a month, and had no meets yet, I might be too specific in what I want, but I would rather be that than easy! There are a lot of timewasters on here too... I have been pm'd by loads.. it does get frustrating...
I hope you find what you're looking for... xx
what prove have you got to say most single men here are timewasters?have you arranged any meets yet?...the OP has clearly stated that they are interested in meeting single females not single men
but i agree with the highlighted bit try 'lets meet forum' you have to be a regular at munches and socials to be able to build up a bond with single females,so dont wait for the kingdom to come, go it
She didn't
Phuckers - what on earth are you on about?
Gavandsue - I notice that your profile states that you are looking for a straight or bi curious female.
As a straight female who has answered couples' ads in the past, where they were looking for just a straight female, I'd be confused as to what you were anticipating.
Gavandsue - I notice that your profile states that you are looking for a straight or bi curious female.
As a straight female who has answered couples' ads in the past, where they were looking for just a straight female, I'd be confused as to what you were anticipating.
have a look at this thread. interesting reading
I don't advertise for couples as I find it tricky enough finding just one person that I would like to fuck senseless. Let alone two who are married. The two couples that I have met gave me two different experiences. One I would happily repeat. The other I wouldn't.
I have met others for a drink and a chat. It went nowhere else. As soon as you add more people to the swinging equation then you have more people's needs to satisfy.
I don't advertise for couples as I find it tricky enough finding just one person that I would like to fuck senseless. Let alone two who are married. The two couples that I have met gave me two different experiences. One I would happily repeat. The other I wouldn't.
I have met others for a drink and a chat. It went nowhere else. As soon as you add more people to the swinging equation then you have more people's needs to satisfy.
Sex God
Quote by Phuckers
what prove have you got to say most single men here are timewasters?
She didn't say that, did she?
Quote by Sarah
Most bi girls that are part of a couple don't like to play alone, and single bi girls are probably wary of meeting couples alone.
What a load of nonsense!
When I was a single bi female, I loved meeting couples, met in a public place for drink first etc or at a munch / social.
If it felt right then we went for it, if not a polite excuse and went home.
By the very nature of being single if you want to meet couples you have to leave the worry behind and get on with it!!
Absolutely, Sarah. :thumbup:
Quote by Misskitty_2008
There are a lot of timewasters on here too... I have been pm'd by loads.. it does get frustrating...
How do you know that the people who PM you, are timewasters? If they've contacted you after reading your requirements yet they don't fit, that makes them maybe a bit dumb or chancers, but not necessarily timewasters.
Sex God
Quote by Sarah
Most bi girls that are part of a couple don't like to play alone, and single bi girls are probably wary of meeting couples alone.
What a load of nonsense!
When I was a single bi female, I loved meeting couples, met in a public place for drink first etc or at a munch / social.
If it felt right then we went for it, if not a polite excuse and went home.
By the very nature of being single if you want to meet couples you have to leave the worry behind and get on with it!!
How can you say thats a load of nonsense? I think thats unfair.
People deal with situations differently. Some single girls are not as strong as others. From what you have said, I am obviously not as strong as yourself and in other cases, others may not be able to get to munches & socials.
I have been lucky enough to get to some in the past but now I just can't as much as I don't have the over night babysitters. Which also means i can't get out to meet too
Hi Gav and sue,
sorry to hear your not finding the fun you hoped to get.
i know you have been here for 9 months, but when looking for a single bi/fem who fits your requirements and you fit hers isnt such a long time.
how have you gone about your search? forum threads? socials? munches? clubs? chatroom?
the ad you have would not get me rushing to reply.
i would NEVER get into a surprise situation. Several reasons, how do i know its what they want, how would i know i liked them , they liked me, or i felt safe with them if i had never met??
it may help to give more of an idea of what you want.
full penetration? or just soft fun?
you dont state if you would be accommodating, if your looking for a whole social evening then fun, a over nighter or a 2 hour thing?
i know it may sound odd, but im more drawn to couple ads that have a picture of them together as a couple.
i dont meet with smokers, sorry my preference, but i dont smoke and dont like the smell or taste on those that do.
oh and i live no where near you.
just my personal insight of why i wouldnt have replied.
oh one of the other things that warns me off is when people say , help us fullfill "our" dream. makes me think id just be the human sex toy and no consideration for me a a person.
like i say just MY reasons, but we are all individuals here. makes it harder but more fun xxx
xx fem xx
sorry to hear your not finding the fun you hoped to get.
i know you have been here for 9 months, but when looking for a single bi/fem who fits your requirements and you fit hers isnt such a long time.
how have you gone about your search? forum threads? socials? munches? clubs? chatroom?
the ad you have would not get me rushing to reply.
i would NEVER get into a surprise situation. Several reasons, how do i know its what they want, how would i know i liked them , they liked me, or i felt safe with them if i had never met??
it may help to give more of an idea of what you want.
full penetration? or just soft fun?
you dont state if you would be accommodating, if your looking for a whole social evening then fun, a over nighter or a 2 hour thing?
i know it may sound odd, but im more drawn to couple ads that have a picture of them together as a couple.
i dont meet with smokers, sorry my preference, but i dont smoke and dont like the smell or taste on those that do.
oh and i live no where near you.
just my personal insight of why i wouldnt have replied.
oh one of the other things that warns me off is when people say , help us fullfill "our" dream. makes me think id just be the human sex toy and no consideration for me a a person.
like i say just MY reasons, but we are all individuals here. makes it harder but more fun xxx
xx fem xx
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what prove have you got to say most single men here are timewasters?
She didn't say that, did she?
Quote by Sarah
Most bi girls that are part of a couple don't like to play alone, and single bi girls are probably wary of meeting couples alone.
What a load of nonsense!
When I was a single bi female, I loved meeting couples, met in a public place for drink first etc or at a munch / social.
If it felt right then we went for it, if not a polite excuse and went home.
By the very nature of being single if you want to meet couples you have to leave the worry behind and get on with it!!
Absolutely, Sarah. :thumbup:
Quote by Misskitty_2008
There are a lot of timewasters on here too... I have been pm'd by loads.. it does get frustrating...
How do you know that the people who PM you, are timewasters? If they've contacted you after reading your requirements yet they don't fit, that makes them maybe a bit dumb or chancers, but not necessarily timewasters.
i told you my english is no good,but you've said what i wanted to....have you got any advice for the OP?
Sex God
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i told you my english is no good,but you've said what i wanted to....have you got any advice for the OP?
Yes - patience.
Sex God
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Phuckers - what on earth are you on about?
ive completely stopped chatting to/meeting couples over the last 2 years, ive tired of the monotony of it!
i have found that i have consistantly been approached by couples that want to meet me immediately, approach me with a mixture of either totally fawning over me like im some sort of godess or at the other end of the scale not really giving a shit about who i am, what i look like etc.
in my opinion, its not nice to feel like a thing to be used for someone elses pleasure. i find single bi females are objectified far too much by couples....that "any one will do as long as we get one" mentality that i just cant get past.
ive been cyber stalked - when a couple think its ok to send me a message every single time they see me online and say things like "oh youre online on the site but youre not on msn" or "oh i thought you were going out tonight" ive been accused of being a fake, a bloke, a tease and a bitch (i admit to the bitch part) all because i wont drop my kinckers at the first hello.
im not sure i have any advice in terms of the best way to meet someone......people talk about active involvement in the forum and social aspect and yet -
in all my years on this site i have never been approached by any member of the fourm (which i used to be a regular on but not so much anymore)
ive been to about twenty munches/socials and been approached to take things further by a couple once. as a single person, its quite difficult to just go and talk to strangers at munches and i actually felt ignored at the majority of them i went to (not by friends that i travelled with , stayed with etc) so i stopped going.
what i respond to is genuine normal down to earth every day type chatter. dont call me a "fem", dont ask me what im wearing, dont ask me when i last had fun and dont treat me like im special. always have photos of both halves on the profile and try to be online together as much as possible.
that is all, i think
i have found that i have consistantly been approached by couples that want to meet me immediately, approach me with a mixture of either totally fawning over me like im some sort of godess or at the other end of the scale not really giving a shit about who i am, what i look like etc.
in my opinion, its not nice to feel like a thing to be used for someone elses pleasure. i find single bi females are objectified far too much by couples....that "any one will do as long as we get one" mentality that i just cant get past.
ive been cyber stalked - when a couple think its ok to send me a message every single time they see me online and say things like "oh youre online on the site but youre not on msn" or "oh i thought you were going out tonight" ive been accused of being a fake, a bloke, a tease and a bitch (i admit to the bitch part) all because i wont drop my kinckers at the first hello.
im not sure i have any advice in terms of the best way to meet someone......people talk about active involvement in the forum and social aspect and yet -
in all my years on this site i have never been approached by any member of the fourm (which i used to be a regular on but not so much anymore)
ive been to about twenty munches/socials and been approached to take things further by a couple once. as a single person, its quite difficult to just go and talk to strangers at munches and i actually felt ignored at the majority of them i went to (not by friends that i travelled with , stayed with etc) so i stopped going.
what i respond to is genuine normal down to earth every day type chatter. dont call me a "fem", dont ask me what im wearing, dont ask me when i last had fun and dont treat me like im special. always have photos of both halves on the profile and try to be online together as much as possible.
that is all, i think
so well said sexkitten,
im glad im not the only one who finds the whole pushy ness thing happening.
and again its like ah a single fem ( insert evil laugh) we must grab her now. not a flying fuck if you actually like her lol, this goes for single guys aswel.
it goes back to what a time waster is i guess, i feel being on here as a single fem does not mean im a timewaster if i dont want to meet "you". it would mean i was one if i had set a defo date and didnt turn up with out damm good reason.
xx fem xx
oh and dont think just cuse your the female of a couple its ok to whisper in chat, i get this soooo much and when i say no whisper please in room i get yet another whisper saying "its ok babes its the female mwah " i suspect its sometimes the guy pretending.
oh im going to stop cuse i could go on forever lol
im glad im not the only one who finds the whole pushy ness thing happening.
and again its like ah a single fem ( insert evil laugh) we must grab her now. not a flying fuck if you actually like her lol, this goes for single guys aswel.
it goes back to what a time waster is i guess, i feel being on here as a single fem does not mean im a timewaster if i dont want to meet "you". it would mean i was one if i had set a defo date and didnt turn up with out damm good reason.
xx fem xx
oh and dont think just cuse your the female of a couple its ok to whisper in chat, i get this soooo much and when i say no whisper please in room i get yet another whisper saying "its ok babes its the female mwah " i suspect its sometimes the guy pretending.
oh im going to stop cuse i could go on forever lol
Sex God
Bugger me it ain't easy this swinging lark is it
Quote by Phuckers
Had a quick look at your profile, and looks nice! I think what it is, is that its mostly couples and single men on here, the majority of people who look at my profile are single men.. and get scared off when they read my full profile!
Most bi girls that are part of a couple don't like to play alone, and single bi girls are probably wary of meeting couples alone.
I think it might be a case of just wait and see! I have been on the site just over a month, and had no meets yet, I might be too specific in what I want, but I would rather be that than easy! There are a lot of timewasters on here too... I have been pm'd by loads.. it does get frustrating...
I hope you find what you're looking for... xx
what prove have you got to say most single men here are timewasters?have you arranged any meets yet?...the OP has clearly stated that they are interested in meeting single females not single men
but i agree with the highlighted bit try 'lets meet forum' you have to be a regular at munches and socials to be able to build up a bond with single females,so dont wait for the kingdom to come, go it
I found that comment quite funny.
We are a couple and been on this site for years and know many other couples too. We have had athe timewasters but not as bad as some we know. We know a couple who were let down 9 times, yes 9 times in a row by guys.
Next you will be saying that there are no guys out there pretending to be couples? :shock:
I know it gives nice guys a bad name when single guys fail to show or are genuine timewatsers but...most know that not just this site but others have a large ammount of you are a single guy then you cannot possibly know like a couple do...do you? :lol:
We find it hard enough to meet people on here that fit what we are looking for, we aint fussy but wont meet with any Tom DICK or Harry either. :lol: We are lucky as we have only been let down twice but we still find it difficult to meet guys, so it must be a 100 times harder to meet a single fem.
Sex God
Quote by Lost
Bugger me it ain't easy this swinging lark is it
Nope!!
Altho alot of people just suspect that 'single fems' have it easy!! Ok, maybe for some it is.. But not for this one. I like most, do not & have not just droped my knickers for the 1st person who comes along and to be honest, I wouldn't.
Sex God
Quote by Lilmiss
Bugger me it ain't easy this swinging lark is it
Nope!!
Altho alot of people just suspect that 'single fems' have it easy!! Ok, maybe for some it is.. But not for this one. I like most, do not & have not just droped my knickers for the 1st person who comes along and to be honest, I wouldn't.
I guess maybe people get mixed up with 'having it easy' and attention' two different things for sure. I supposes the amount of options available to single fems if they choose is greater if you view people as sexual commodities.
Quote by Lilmiss
Bugger me it ain't easy this swinging lark is it
Nope!!
Altho alot of people just suspect that 'single fems' have it easy!! Ok, maybe for some it is.. But not for this one. I like most, do not & have not just droped my knickers for the 1st person who comes along and to be honest, I wouldn't.
Or gambled on orgasms :twisted:
Quote by kentswingers777
Had a quick look at your profile, and looks nice! I think what it is, is that its mostly couples and single men on here, the majority of people who look at my profile are single men.. and get scared off when they read my full profile!
Most bi girls that are part of a couple don't like to play alone, and single bi girls are probably wary of meeting couples alone.
I think it might be a case of just wait and see! I have been on the site just over a month, and had no meets yet, I might be too specific in what I want, but I would rather be that than easy! There are a lot of timewasters on here too... I have been pm'd by loads.. it does get frustrating...
I hope you find what you're looking for... xx
what prove have you got to say most single men here are timewasters?have you arranged any meets yet?...the OP has clearly stated that they are interested in meeting single females not single men
but i agree with the highlighted bit try 'lets meet forum' you have to be a regular at munches and socials to be able to build up a bond with single females,so dont wait for the kingdom to come, go it
I found that comment quite funny.
We are a couple and been on this site for years and know many other couples too. We have had athe timewasters but not as bad as some we know. We know a couple who were let down 9 times, yes 9 times in a row by guys.
Next you will be saying that there are no guys out there pretending to be couples? :shock:
I know it gives nice guys a bad name when single guys fail to show or are genuine timewatsers but...most know that not just this site but others have a large ammount of you are a single guy then you cannot possibly know like a couple do...do you? :lol:
We find it hard enough to meet people on here that fit what we are looking for, we aint fussy but wont meet with any Tom DICK or Harry either. :lol: We are lucky as we have only been let down twice but we still find it difficult to meet guys, so it must be a 100 times harder to meet a single fem.
ha ha do you know i cant make sense of that phrase now,someone must have nicked my password
I wasn't going to reply again on this post, but wanted to put my side... I didn't say that single men were timewasters Phuckers.... it's actually been fems who have messed me around... or couples with bi fems... I don't have problems with anybody, male, female etc as long as they don't mess me about! I am going to my first social this month, so will hopefully meet some people then. Like a lot of people, I have commitments that stop me from meeting all the time..
Everybody is different... I guess also, that I don't have as much confidence to meet people on my own, and to be honest, and I am, I tell people straight away that they should read my profile and that I won't deviate from it.
Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and I respect the opinion of everyone who has posted on here.
what prove have you got to say most single men here are timewasters?have you arranged any meets yet?...the OP has clearly stated that they are interested in meeting single females not single men
but i agree with the highlighted bit try 'lets meet forum' you have to be a regular at munches and socials to be able to build up a bond with single females,so dont wait for the kingdom to come, go it
Everybody is different... I guess also, that I don't have as much confidence to meet people on my own, and to be honest, and I am, I tell people straight away that they should read my profile and that I won't deviate from it.
Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and I respect the opinion of everyone who has posted on here.
Quote by Phuckers
Had a quick look at your profile, and looks nice! I think what it is, is that its mostly couples and single men on here, the majority of people who look at my profile are single men.. and get scared off when they read my full profile!
Most bi girls that are part of a couple don't like to play alone, and single bi girls are probably wary of meeting couples alone.
I think it might be a case of just wait and see! I have been on the site just over a month, and had no meets yet, I might be too specific in what I want, but I would rather be that than easy! There are a lot of timewasters on here too... I have been pm'd by loads.. it does get frustrating...
I hope you find what you're looking for... xx
what prove have you got to say most single men here are timewasters?have you arranged any meets yet?...the OP has clearly stated that they are interested in meeting single females not single men
but i agree with the highlighted bit try 'lets meet forum' you have to be a regular at munches and socials to be able to build up a bond with single females,so dont wait for the kingdom to come, go it
Quote by Misskitty_2008
I wasn't going to reply again on this post, but wanted to put my side... I didn't say that single men were timewasters Phuckers.... it's actually been fems who have messed me around... or couples with bi fems... I don't have problems with anybody, male, female etc as long as they don't mess me about! I am going to my first social this month, so will hopefully meet some people then. Like a lot of people, I have commitments that stop me from meeting all the time..
Everybody is different... I guess also, that I don't have as much confidence to meet people on my own, and to be honest, and I am, I tell people straight away that they should read my profile and that I won't deviate from it.
Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and I respect the opinion of everyone who has posted on here.
Had a quick look at your profile, and looks nice! I think what it is, is that its mostly couples and single men on here, the majority of people who look at my profile are single men.. and get scared off when they read my full profile!
Most bi girls that are part of a couple don't like to play alone, and single bi girls are probably wary of meeting couples alone.
I think it might be a case of just wait and see! I have been on the site just over a month, and had no meets yet, I might be too specific in what I want, but I would rather be that than easy! There are a lot of timewasters on here too... I have been pm'd by loads.. it does get frustrating...
I hope you find what you're looking for... xx
what prove have you got to say most single men here are timewasters?have you arranged any meets yet?...the OP has clearly stated that they are interested in meeting single females not single men
but i agree with the highlighted bit try 'lets meet forum' you have to be a regular at munches and socials to be able to build up a bond with single females,so dont wait for the kingdom to come, go it
i still love you! x
Love you too!!!!
what prove have you got to say most single men here are timewasters?have you arranged any meets yet?...the OP has clearly stated that they are interested in meeting single females not single men
but i agree with the highlighted bit try 'lets meet forum' you have to be a regular at munches and socials to be able to build up a bond with single females,so dont wait for the kingdom to come, go it
i still love you! x
Quote by Phuckers
I wasn't going to reply again on this post, but wanted to put my side... I didn't say that single men were timewasters Phuckers.... it's actually been fems who have messed me around... or couples with bi fems... I don't have problems with anybody, male, female etc as long as they don't mess me about! I am going to my first social this month, so will hopefully meet some people then. Like a lot of people, I have commitments that stop me from meeting all the time..
Everybody is different... I guess also, that I don't have as much confidence to meet people on my own, and to be honest, and I am, I tell people straight away that they should read my profile and that I won't deviate from it.
Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and I respect the opinion of everyone who has posted on here.
Had a quick look at your profile, and looks nice! I think what it is, is that its mostly couples and single men on here, the majority of people who look at my profile are single men.. and get scared off when they read my full profile!
Most bi girls that are part of a couple don't like to play alone, and single bi girls are probably wary of meeting couples alone.
I think it might be a case of just wait and see! I have been on the site just over a month, and had no meets yet, I might be too specific in what I want, but I would rather be that than easy! There are a lot of timewasters on here too... I have been pm'd by loads.. it does get frustrating...
I hope you find what you're looking for... xx
what prove have you got to say most single men here are timewasters?have you arranged any meets yet?...the OP has clearly stated that they are interested in meeting single females not single men
but i agree with the highlighted bit try 'lets meet forum' you have to be a regular at munches and socials to be able to build up a bond with single females,so dont wait for the kingdom to come, go it
i still love you! x
Sex God
Speaking as the bi half of a couple. The single most helpful thing for us has been the Forum. If you post on it alot, people (including the ladies you are looking for) will begin to get to know you. Anyone we have met has always said that they don't want sex with just anyone no matter what they looked like or how they thought, but that they are almost as fussy choosing a swinging partner/s as they are a real life partner.
It has helped that we are pretty much the same when it comes to playing. We need to know abit about the person and have spoken to them for quite a while before taking things further and also the thing that turns us both on is seeing her have a good time. It's not all about us.
Single women on here are often treated as a commodity rather than people and if I were one of them there is nothing that would put me off more quickly.
Anyone who doesn't know me well will possibly read this post and think "oh there she goes writing a post that she thinks is what a single woman will want to hear" There are enough folk on here that do know me well enough though to know this really IS the way I think and not an advert.
So in a nutshell to the op if you are genuinely here to be interested in another person and care that they have fun too then you will probably have lots of fun but if it's all about you then even if you try to hide it, it will come through in the end.
I'm not for a minute suggesting that this IS you by the way but just trying to suggest different ways and ideas that may (or may not) help.
Love
Fire xx
It has helped that we are pretty much the same when it comes to playing. We need to know abit about the person and have spoken to them for quite a while before taking things further and also the thing that turns us both on is seeing her have a good time. It's not all about us.
Single women on here are often treated as a commodity rather than people and if I were one of them there is nothing that would put me off more quickly.
Anyone who doesn't know me well will possibly read this post and think "oh there she goes writing a post that she thinks is what a single woman will want to hear"
There are enough folk on here that do know me well enough though to know this really IS the way I think and not an advert.So in a nutshell to the op if you are genuinely here to be interested in another person and care that they have fun too then you will probably have lots of fun but if it's all about you then even if you try to hide it, it will come through in the end.
I'm not for a minute suggesting that this IS you by the way but just trying to suggest different ways and ideas that may (or may not) help.
Love
Fire xx
