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sheddy I am sorry for that comment
trust me I just laughed it really ain't me who you should me saying sorry to
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Sex God
Quote by starmanxx
then you should know that illness with a person you love is hard to live with and what I do to turn me on and give me relief is my business.
There it is!!
Sex God
Quote by starmanxx
then you should know that illness with a person you love is hard to live with and what I do to turn me on and give me relief is my business.
Then maybe you shouldn't make the demand quite so public?
Swinging isn;t about giving anyone releif from a life of not enough sex, it is about sharing good times and pleasure with another human being. When you talk the way you do it totally demeans any potential swing partner you are with - she would just be a blow-up doll with a pulse?
Sex God
Quote by starmanxx
well I am not complaining just looking for some sexy talk it was the responses that became serious
Yet you started with this post:
Quote by starmanxx
Hi
I have been married for 16 years and my wife knows that I would love to see her been fucked or to have her fucked without me watching. She will not do it however any ideas on how I can get her to do it.
Now, reading through your previous posts (and your ad.), it looks to me like you want more than sexy talk.
Quote by foxylady2209
then you should know that illness with a person you love is hard to live with and what I do to turn me on and give me relief is my business.
Then maybe you shouldn't make the demand quite so public?
Swinging isn;t about giving anyone releif from a life of not enough sex, it is about sharing good times and pleasure with another human being. When you talk the way you do it totally demeans any potential swing partner you are with - she would just be a blow-up doll with a pulse?
This says it all really.
Sex God
Quote by starmanxx
then you should know that illness with a person you love is hard to live with and what I do to turn me on and give me relief is my business.
no one is questioning how hard it is to live with someone with an illness.........if you look at the sensible replies to your thread........you'll notice most of them are telling you to go to bed and then re read all your posts and replys in the morning.......
its good advice........please listen to it......
and for the record i am not interested in having a random suck my nipples over the bonnet of their car........no matter what make or model it is.....
Sex God
i give up.......... :shock:
Sex God
Ditto Kate, nighty night all.
I would like to thank sheddy and Darkfire, however I find some of the other comments on her a bit of a problem. I am going to bed, but if this is the swinging seen that is mean to be open and willing to listen then I must have come to the wrong site. I was hoping to make some online friends here that would give some relief. Sorry if I was WRONG. 
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I would like to thank sheddy and Darkfire, however I find some of the other comments on her a bit of a problem. I am going to bed, but if this is the swinging seen that is mean to be open and willing to listen then I must have come to the wrong site. I was hoping to make some online friends here that would give some relief. Sorry if I was WRONG.
I think therapy might be a better place. Just my opinion.
I am confused however, I just read the complete thread three times and am still confused.
Is it that YOU want relief or is it your fantasy to see your WIFE with another. Thats two different things right? I am a little tired so may have misunderstood.
I will add just one more thing here though. The one thing that everyone I have talked with in my short time here has reassured me is that NOTHING will happen against my will and desire. I could not imagine someone trying to plan for me behind my back wht you appeared to be wanting for your wife.
Oh well confused foreigner ( which may be why I dont get this post ) going to bed now.
Quote by starmanxx
Hi
I have been married for 16 years and my wife knows that I would love to see her been fucked or to have her fucked without me watching. She will not do it however any ideas on how I can get her to do it.
As you have asked for ideas this is all i can say.
I have no idea's on how you could "get her to do it"
Swinging is a mutual thing that all parties involved should be happy with and enjoy.
If your wife has said no to you then you should respect her wishes and except she doesn't want to do it. If you was to keep pestering her it could push her away to the point she starts feeling unwanted and unloved.
If you value your marriage and respect her wishes then take the no as a "NO" end of.
A previous post you wrote """what I do to turn me on and give me relief is mybusiness."""
Well to start with, you have made it everyones business by posting it on an open forum.
And for another thing, thats a lot of me me me in the 1 short sentence don't you think?
when in a relationship it should not be written "I" or "me" or "my", it should be written "we" and "us" and "our", remember your a couple and should treat both yourself and your wife as such..
Tony
First thread I have read all the wa through for a while. Some great comments to a question that has ben asked time and time again. " How can I get my partner to play!!"
My previous partner was happy to swing , and we had many great times. My new partner knows my history and accepts that swinging is an activity I enjoy. She is not sure (would possibly swing if the situation just happened). So, as far as I am concerned her answer is no , at the moment , and as such I will NOT try and push, persuade, force, engineer or any other scenario that springs to mind.
I believe that if you coerce then the end result will be disaster ; and t hat is just not worth it.
BTW: Anyone up for a shag?
Paul
My previous partner was happy to swing , and we had many great times. My new partner knows my history and accepts that swinging is an activity I enjoy. She is not sure (would possibly swing if the situation just happened). So, as far as I am concerned her answer is no , at the moment , and as such I will NOT try and push, persuade, force, engineer or any other scenario that springs to mind.
I believe that if you coerce then the end result will be disaster ; and t hat is just not worth it.
BTW: Anyone up for a shag?
Paul
Starman, don't you think after 10 years of your wife saying No you'd get the message by now?
It may be great to talk about certain things but everyone has fantasies that turn them on but they would never consider acting out. Have you ever asked her what she wants to try? Or is this all about your fantasies and turn ons?
If you love her like you say you do then respect her views and find something you both want to try.
Failing that, let her find out about you discussing this on the net and you'll soon have all the freedom you want to look elsewhere because if she has any sense she'll find herself a man who deserves her.
It may be great to talk about certain things but everyone has fantasies that turn them on but they would never consider acting out. Have you ever asked her what she wants to try? Or is this all about your fantasies and turn ons?
If you love her like you say you do then respect her views and find something you both want to try.
Failing that, let her find out about you discussing this on the net and you'll soon have all the freedom you want to look elsewhere because if she has any sense she'll find herself a man who deserves her.
:smackbottom: :smackbottom: SassyQuote by Fun365
My previous partner was happy to swing , and we had many great times. My new partner knows my history and accepts that swinging is an activity I enjoy. She is not sure (would possibly swing if the situation just happened). So, as far as I am concerned her answer is no , at the moment , and as such I will NOT try and push, persuade, force, engineer or any other scenario that springs to mind.
I believe that if you coerce then the end result will be disaster ; and t hat is just not worth it.
Absolutely!!! :thumbup:
A previous partner of mine tried to push me into swinging. We shared fantasies and stuff, realised we both had a massive curiosity towards the swinging scene.
But instead of going at the slowest persons pace (mine), be tried to push things along. The more he pushed, the harder my heels went in.
In the end his constant pushing split us up, because my heels were so firmly in at that point, swinging became the focal point of the relationship, almost a battle. I came out of the relationship convinced I never wanted to swing, that I only thought about it cos of him.
Took another 6 mnths before my curiosity came back again - was only then that I knew I was actually curious myself, not because I was so pushed. Had he given me the time and space to realise that for myself, instead of him trying to 'make' me realise, then I'm sure we would've tested the scene
So Starmanxx, I'm afraid that if your wife has clearly stated that she's not interested, then that's it, she's not. If you try to 'make' her interested, you're treading on dangerous ground and I can pretty much guarantee that eventually it'll end up in divorce, a very bitter divorce.
The only thing I can suggest would be to put yourself in your wifes shoes for a while, look at things from her angle.......... Maybe think of something sexual you would never ever do - then imagine being pushed into doing it. The constant battles and arguments when you're being 'persuaded'
Remember that in swinging the word "No" is a respected right, not a privilege
(Blimey, now I sound like an American Senator with me phrases
) 
Orgasminator
starmanxx not to be confused with phillstarr also known sometimes as starrmann :!:
Quote by Missy
My previous partner was happy to swing , and we had many great times. My new partner knows my history and accepts that swinging is an activity I enjoy. She is not sure (would possibly swing if the situation just happened). So, as far as I am concerned her answer is no , at the moment , and as such I will NOT try and push, persuade, force, engineer or any other scenario that springs to mind.
I believe that if you coerce then the end result will be disaster ; and t hat is just not worth it.
Absolutely!!! :thumbup:
A previous partner of mine tried to push me into swinging. We shared fantasies and stuff, realised we both had a massive curiosity towards the swinging scene.
But instead of going at the slowest persons pace (mine), be tried to push things along. The more he pushed, the harder my heels went in.
In the end his constant pushing split us up, because my heels were so firmly in at that point, swinging became the focal point of the relationship, almost a battle. I came out of the relationship convinced I never wanted to swing, that I only thought about it cos of him.
Took another 6 mnths before my curiosity came back again - was only then that I knew I was actually curious myself, not because I was so pushed. Had he given me the time and space to realise that for myself, instead of him trying to 'make' me realise, then I'm sure we would've tested the scene
So Starmanxx, I'm afraid that if your wife has clearly stated that she's not interested, then that's it, she's not. If you try to 'make' her interested, you're treading on dangerous ground and I can pretty much guarantee that eventually it'll end up in divorce, a very bitter divorce.
The only thing I can suggest would be to put yourself in your wifes shoes for a while, look at things from her angle.......... Maybe think of something sexual you would never ever do - then imagine being pushed into doing it. The constant battles and arguments when you're being 'persuaded'
Remember that in swinging the word "No" is a respected right, not a privilege
(Blimey, now I sound like an American Senator with me phrases
)
:worship: :worship: 
Sex God
Quote by starmanxx
yes i do but the wife has said no and sex talk is what i am lefy with
Awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww bless
:roll: :roll: :roll: :roll: :roll: What do you mean, all you are left with???? you have a wife, don't you? Whom you claim to love????? So you have something that A LOT of others don't. Don't come here whinging when she leaves you for being the selfish and unthoughtful git that you sound like you are.
Blimey, whatever next
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My previous partner was happy to swing , and we had many great times. My new partner knows my history and accepts that swinging is an activity I enjoy. She is not sure (would possibly swing if the situation just happened). So, as far as I am concerned her answer is no , at the moment , and as such I will NOT try and push, persuade, force, engineer or any other scenario that springs to mind.
I believe that if you coerce then the end result will be disaster ; and t hat is just not worth it.
Absolutely!!! :thumbup:
A previous partner of mine tried to push me into swinging. We shared fantasies and stuff, realised we both had a massive curiosity towards the swinging scene.
But instead of going at the slowest persons pace (mine), be tried to push things along. The more he pushed, the harder my heels went in.
In the end his constant pushing split us up, because my heels were so firmly in at that point, swinging became the focal point of the relationship, almost a battle. I came out of the relationship convinced I never wanted to swing, that I only thought about it cos of him.
Took another 6 mnths before my curiosity came back again - was only then that I knew I was actually curious myself, not because I was so pushed. Had he given me the time and space to realise that for myself, instead of him trying to 'make' me realise, then I'm sure we would've tested the scene
So Starmanxx, I'm afraid that if your wife has clearly stated that she's not interested, then that's it, she's not. If you try to 'make' her interested, you're treading on dangerous ground and I can pretty much guarantee that eventually it'll end up in divorce, a very bitter divorce.
The only thing I can suggest would be to put yourself in your wifes shoes for a while, look at things from her angle.......... Maybe think of something sexual you would never ever do - then imagine being pushed into doing it. The constant battles and arguments when you're being 'persuaded'
Remember that in swinging the word "No" is a respected right, not a privilege
(Blimey, now I sound like an American Senator with me phrases
)I couldn't agree more and has been put very nicely that I don't think I can add anything on to that I too would be very pleased if my fiancee enjoyed it as much as me but I know that I have to respect her wishes and am happy to do so. If in the future it interests her to try then I will give her the acceptance, support and understanding that she is giving me. :inlove:
Sex God
I saw this thread last night but decided to go to bed rather than post on it. Having just come back to it I have been interested to read people's comments. What perplexes me is starmanxx's reaction.
Starman, you keep saying that you thought this was an open-minded forum and why are people taking it all so seriously. There is a difference between a fantasy and coercion into a real act (your choice of title for the thread was not a good one in my opinion).
As far as I can tell, no-one is objecting to you having a fantasy about watching your wife with someone else. It's quite a common fantasy and if that thought turns you on and gives you some satisfaction then that is fine. No problem.
You tell us that you have discussed this with your wife. No problem there either - it is just what should happen in a healthy relationship.
However, you also tell us that she has been saying 'No' for 10 years and you seem to want our help in getting her to do it even though she has made it clear that she doesn't want to. Now we have a problem!
None of the genuine members on here are going to want to get involved in anything where they have even the slightest suspicion that it may not be consensual. They would effectively be being tricked into taking part in a and that is a nightmare scenario.
Fantasies are normal and fun. Talking about them with one's partner is healthy. It might uncover a fantasy that you both share and you might one day want to make it a reality. Everyone here is broadminded enough to accept that and if you needed someone to help make it come true then I doubt you would have too much difficulty, if you went about it in the right way.
However, a fantasy that involves your wife but is not shared by her will have to remain just that I am afraid. A fantasy.
Swingers are not amoral - far from it. We are broadminded and tolerant but we have standards, principles and morals and forcing someone to have sex against their will is certainly a .
Will
Sanctimonious sermon over
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Starman, you keep saying that you thought this was an open-minded forum and why are people taking it all so seriously. There is a difference between a fantasy and coercion into a real act (your choice of title for the thread was not a good one in my opinion).
As far as I can tell, no-one is objecting to you having a fantasy about watching your wife with someone else. It's quite a common fantasy and if that thought turns you on and gives you some satisfaction then that is fine. No problem.
You tell us that you have discussed this with your wife. No problem there either - it is just what should happen in a healthy relationship.
However, you also tell us that she has been saying 'No' for 10 years and you seem to want our help in getting her to do it even though she has made it clear that she doesn't want to. Now we have a problem!
None of the genuine members on here are going to want to get involved in anything where they have even the slightest suspicion that it may not be consensual. They would effectively be being tricked into taking part in a and that is a nightmare scenario.
Fantasies are normal and fun. Talking about them with one's partner is healthy. It might uncover a fantasy that you both share and you might one day want to make it a reality. Everyone here is broadminded enough to accept that and if you needed someone to help make it come true then I doubt you would have too much difficulty, if you went about it in the right way.
However, a fantasy that involves your wife but is not shared by her will have to remain just that I am afraid. A fantasy.
Swingers are not amoral - far from it. We are broadminded and tolerant but we have standards, principles and morals and forcing someone to have sex against their will is certainly a .
Will
Sanctimonious sermon over
ops: 