How do I get or How did you get started?

15 Jun 2005

Hello everyone, been looking at the site / forums for some time but as of yet have not had any meets... sad

What am I doing wrong?
Is it because I am male and not a female!
Is it because I am average build and not an Andonis?
Is it because I dont know if im we, vwe, what do you measure agianst what size is big?
When I see a post that is near I always send full pic (dressed) more than one line never add to msn with out invite. I have many friends, have a personality and GSOH. I can accomadate, am seprated from my wife. Travel with my job alot (part of the relationship problem) spend loads of time alone in hotels / travel inns etc, yet the only interest I get is from men asking if I want to explore any Bi / Gay feeling! Thanks guys but no thanks.
Not looking fo any thing heavy, dont even have to sex but just some female company now and agian would be nice.
I get the feeling that after the first time, then you can get reccomended! Is this the case? How does a male in his 30's get started. How did people here start?

15 Jun 2005

well i think that if you want to post a thread about you and wanting to meet up then you're probably best off putting this on the lets meet up forum and secondly your best getting yourself known through posting on here then possibly get to your first munch.
hope you find what you are looking for
louxxx

15 Jun 2005

Thanks Lou
But however your postings are couple 4 couple, and couple for female, NO SINGLE MEN!
This is the point I am trying to make, as a single man the chances of a meet are so much harder!
But if you ever change your mind...!

15 Jun 2005

Quote by JustWant2Know
Thanks Lou
But however your postings are couple 4 couple, and couple for female, NO SINGLE MEN!
This is the point I am trying to make, as a single man the chances of a meet are so much harder!
But if you ever change your mind...!

have you ever tried dogging lol???

15 Jun 2005

Have you read this?
Now I take no credit what so ever for this, it was written some time ago by Marcuso as advise to the single guys on this site,

Quote:
Most of you will know me as Marcuso from the chat room.
I'm getting used to seeing lots of posts on here from single guys who are moaning that they don't get a meet.
Without sounding big-headed or conceited, I'd like to offer them a bit of advice on how to improve their chances of becoming accepted onto the swinging scene.
I'm not saying this is the perfect or even the only way to become accepted, but I have found that it works for me.
1. Always be open & honest about what you are looking for. No-one likes making the effort to meet someone only to find out that they are looking for different things.
2. Never say you are gonna meet someone & then not turn up. People hate timewasters.
3. Meet people just for socials if that is all they are offering. If they are impressed with you then the sex will come naturally. As I said….this community isn’t just about sex, it’s about people just meeting up as friends too & having a relaxed meet with no pressure.
4. Be willing to go out of your way to meet people. Don’t forget……you are the one who is wanting to meet people who are already established on the swinging scene & therefore, they will not go out of their way to meet you as they already have a circle of friends who they know are genuine & easy going.
5. And probably most important DON’T EVER SEEM DESPERATE TO MEET PEOPLE. Don’t push someone to meet & if someone says no then that’s what they mean. A lot of people get put off by someone being overkeen & see it as a kind of stalking.
6. Have a look in the message boards & see what people have put into those. This will give you some sort of idea as to the kind of ad to post. And always post in every board that applies to you as this will give you more chance. (Don’t forget to keep checking them regularly too as a lot of people forget to check & miss out)
7. Try going to one of the various clubs that are available all over the country or go to an open party invitation or munch thats been posted. This will show people that you are genuine.
8. When filling in a section on your ad to what your looking for the more information you give about your self the more your profile will stand out more people will read it and take you more seriously as you have taken more time & effort over what your looking for .
Not a lot else that I can add really apart from BE PATIENT If you keep trying and are patient then it will happen eventually. Don’t be put off by a few negative replies. I must have had hundreds of negative replies before I got my first meet. But once I got my first meet I have found it a lot easier to meet people.

15 Jun 2005

well put sarah sorry marcuso

15 Jun 2005

It is harder for a single guy to get meets theres no question about that, but i know a few single guys who get regular meets and thats cause they put the effort into going to munches etc, once u have put ur face about a bit and got urself know it will be easier, many people just see this as a sex site and arn't wanting to put any effoet into none sexual meet which is totally upto them but the fact of the matter is if u want meets most will want 2 get to know u first, i alwasy say to people who are after single woman put urself in their shoes, as a guy u have very little to worry about when meeting a woman as u are pretty much safe, but to a woman we have 2 think about our safty, and its just not safe 2 meet a total stranger off the net, if i am looking 4 a guy to meet i am more likely to meet one i know from a munch, club ir party than a total stranger not only cause of safty but also cause having already met u know u both like each other wink

15 Jun 2005

There are so many single men around that yes, it IS much tougher. I know that's not obvious to beginners at first, but of course it's so. Therefore you have to be better than the others to succeed. Which is easier than it sounds, because 99 per cent of the others can't be arsed to try, or to learn anything. By the way, you have no marital encumbrances and your own accommodation, which does put you umpteen streets ahead to begin with. Be patient and work at it.
Mike

15 Jun 2005

M8 have a look at the women looking for men yeah, just pay attention to how often a new ad gets posted or updated. Now look at the men looking for women and compare to how often that gets ads updated or added. Your on average looking at 20 to 1 female on the ads. Sometimes even greater than that. Ask yourself why a woman would pick you out of the 20+ other guys replying to their ad every 10 mins. It's something you cant just come on here and ask, you've got to make yourself and your personality stand out. Here in the forums are regulars, they trust one another having met several times through munches. Ads arn't necasserily (sorry for the misspelling) posted from people who go to munches. Just push through, try your best, learn from yourself and dont sound too desperate. Some people generally say the same thing over again to fdifferent ads, try something and if it doesn't get you a reply change where your coming from in the message. Good luck

15 Jun 2005

look at it like this in nottingham theres 4 women to every man (i think thats right) wouldnt u hate to live there?????? count yourself lucky lol
louxxx

15 Jun 2005

Quote by bailiffs
4 women to every man

Say a big hello to the new nottingham boy lol

Dammit i had to edit this 3 fookin times

15 Jun 2005

Quote by Mikehboy19
4 women to every man

Say a big hello to the new nottingham boy lol

Dammit i had to edit this 3 fookin times
:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: i was thinking of moving too!!!! me col and 4 women hmmmmm could be fun wink

15 Jun 2005

Well, if cols anything like me, just the idea would put a huge grin on his face :eeek:
Next stop; Estate agents bolt

15 Jun 2005

Quote by Mikehboy19
Well, if cols anything like me, just the idea would put a huge grin on his face :eeek:
Next stop; Estate agents

your a good looking enuff bloke im sure ull find lots o horny women lol
louxxxx

15 Jun 2005

Quote by bailiffs
your a good looking enuff bloke im sure ull find lots o horny women lol
louxxxx

Awwww

ops: :oops: cool

Thats two compliments in one week! Your names just gone up in my good book. Definatly worth a drink, or 7, if i catch you at a munch! Thank ye

15 Jun 2005

Quote by Mikehboy19

your a good looking enuff bloke im sure ull find lots o horny women lol
louxxxx

Awwww

ops: :oops: cool

Thats two compliments in one week! Your names just gone up in my good book. Definatly worth a drink, or 7, if i catch you at a munch! Thank ye
im at the burton one and poss the notts one lol
mines a pint of larger and black pref stella act a twat???

15 Jun 2005

Quote by JustWant2Know
Travel with my job alot (part of the relationship problem) spend loads of time alone in hotels / travel inns etc, yet the only interest I get is from men asking if I want to explore any Bi / Gay feeling! Thanks guys but no thanks.

Does the fact you are advertising in the Men seeking Men section of the ads cause that problem do you think dunno

15 Jun 2005

Quote by Dawn_Mids
Travel with my job alot (part of the relationship problem) spend loads of time alone in hotels / travel inns etc, yet the only interest I get is from men asking if I want to explore any Bi / Gay feeling! Thanks guys but no thanks.

Does the fact you are advertising in the Men seeking Men section of the ads cause that problem do you think dunno

:lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: pmsl