How do I get wife to swing?

11 Sep 2008

Hi all, I am keen to get my wife swinging with me - aren't we all right smile

. I have swung (before we got married) but miss it hugely at the moment.
During sex my wife and I do talk about her having sex with other guys and this turns her on during our lovemaking - she enjoys it a lot. She evens talks about doing the gym instructor at our local gym who is sexy.
When I do talk to her about this during sex she is open to all ideas, outside of sex she bottles up and says that she only want to have sex with me.
I am not sure though how to go from this (a fantasy) to actually meeting someone (a reality). I would love to see her getting pleased with another guy.
Any ideas or dicussion would be fantastic.
Warm Regards

11 Sep 2008

perhaps a good place to start would be a club therfore you are in control and only have to play with each other if she really is not interested in having another join in .... if the mood takes her then invite another into the room. kind of better than getting someone around and she really only interested in the fantisy of another joining in. whatever happens tho good luck

11 Sep 2008

I think the key isnt to rush it and and actually talk about it, and i dont mean during the throws of passion talk about doing other people try and talk about it seriously about it and the feeling around it outside of the bedroom when the you both arnt tearing each othe clothes off in throws of passion.
Dont try and push her into somthing she might not feel comfortable about, keep the communication up. Me and my partner, i guess are a little like you in the sense we've spoken about all the fantasies and played with the idea of exhibitonism etc etc but as for actually talking about doing it seriously we're both just arnt comfrotable with that now, for now we both enjoy flirting with the idea sometimes and it is certainly is exciting enough.
Just talk about everything dont feel the rush to do somthing suddenly or rush into it.

11 Sep 2008

3SomesRMe might be a good idea to say that you are married too, in your profile rather than "with someone" confused

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11 Sep 2008

A rope and an oak beam would be the best way to get my wife (ex) to swing! :twisted:

11 Sep 2008

Quote by 3SomesRMe
During sex my wife and I do talk about her having sex with other guys and this turns her on during our lovemaking - she enjoys it a lot. She evens talks about doing the gym instructor at our local gym who is sexy.
When I do talk to her about this during sex she is open to all ideas, outside of sex she bottles up and says that she only want to have sex with me.
I am not sure though how to go from this (a fantasy) to actually meeting someone (a reality). I would love to see her getting pleased with another guy.
Any ideas or dicussion would be fantastic.
Warm Regards

would her flirting/being touched/ giving another guy a blow job whilst you watch do?
as opposed to her actually having full sex with another man that is!!!
maybe start with something "mild" and progress from there if it seems right.
at least you will be able to find out where her boundaries actually lie. yours too for that matter.
enjoy.....

11 Sep 2008

Quote by sparky33
She clearly doesn't want to do it, in the bedroom with you it's a fantasy, she wants to keep it that way, if you push I feel you risk ruining things betweeen you.

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