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Quote by Calista
Am I the only person to remember the tale of the lady who came on posting about her husband, meeting people off here behind her back and was tragically killed coming back from a meet! I was handled very well (IMO) by a mod but I've never forgotten the pain in her posts.
No you're not Calista. I remember it well as I was online at the time she posted. I remember that she thanked my and Lilttle Gem for telling him the same thing you are saying now. It is something I have never ever forgotten. I cried for a long time even though I had never met the man.
I hate the way threads like this turn into abuse of the person who points out that the poster is cheating. Yes - everyone has a right to do what they feel is right and within their own comfort zone, but you must remember what swinging is about. So many people confuse the words swingiing with sleezy and cheating (just as so many people used to confuse the words homsexual and ). I think Calista and Lilac Gem are right to stand up and say - "hope you get it sorted (which Calista did), but just be aware that you are on a swingers site - not a cheaters site".
I know I will get attacked for being judgemental. I am not being that. I am just pointing out that I do not agree with confusing the words cheating and swinging. They are two completely different things.
Rsxx :color:
Sex God
Quote by Rainbows
Am I the only person to remember the tale of the lady who came on posting about her husband, meeting people off here behind her back and was tragically killed coming back from a meet! I was handled very well (IMO) by a mod but I've never forgotten the pain in her posts.
No you're not Calista. I remember it well as I was online at the time she posted. I remember that she thanked my and Lilttle Gem for telling him the same thing you are saying now. It is something I have never ever forgotten. I cried for a long time even though I had never met the man.
I hate the way threads like this turn into abuse of the person who points out that the poster is cheating. Yes - everyone has a right to do what they feel is right and within their own comfort zone, but you must remember what swinging is about. So many people confuse the words swingiing with sleezy and cheating (just as so many people used to confuse the words homsexual and ). I think Calista and Lilac Gem are right to stand up and say - "hope you get it sorted (which Calista did), but just be aware that you are on a swingers site - not a cheaters site".
I know I will get attacked for being judgemental. I am not being that. I am just pointing out that I do not agree with confusing the words cheating and swinging. They are two completely different things.
Rsxx :color:
and the people that sent pms calling her a slag are fair too are they?
of course as you say they are entitled to their opinion !
im off to work where the nice people are!
staggy
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Sex God
Quote by wild rose and the stag
and the people that sent pms calling her a slag are fair to are they?
I'm confused - who called who a slag?
If they did, that's abusive and should be reported.
Quote by wild rose and the stag
and the people that sent pms calling her a slag are fair to are they?
of course as you say they are entitled to their opinion like you say!
No - that would be abusive and out of line. They should be reported.
I did not say I agreed with abusive behaviour Staggy. Disagreement is one thing. Abuse is another.
I am surprised that a man of your obvious intelligence would confuse the two.
RSxx :color:
Quote by Freckledbird
and the people that sent pms calling her a slag are fair to are they?
I'm confused - who called who a slag?
If they did, that's abusive and should be reported.
I agree that Jennywren probably could have worded her first post better but her wording was chosen through ignorance - not spite unlike some people on here.
Morals.
A word that gets bandied about so often in this sort of thread in an apparently self justifying way. According to society at large, none of us has morals, yet we are all ready to be outraged by tabloid reports of swinging activities, justifying our activities as moral. Are the continual attacks on married singles whistling in the dark? Their morals are worse than ours, so we must be ok?
This thread asked for help with a PC problem. The marital status of the poster had no bearing on the thread except as a reason for why the question was being asked. Why is there any need to criticise her situation, especially from a position of total ignorance? If you don't agree with her lifestyle ignore the thread. She wasn't asking for opinions on married swinging but how to clear history.
How quick is everyone to jump on the occasional evangelist that comes in here denouncing swingers as moralless perverts, telling them to take their personal views of morals and stick them. However some of these same people continually feel the need to criticise others whose moral standpoint is not quite the same as their's.
By all means have your own set of morals and stick to them. Just don't keep telling other people that their morals are wrong just because they are different to yours.
A word that gets bandied about so often in this sort of thread in an apparently self justifying way. According to society at large, none of us has morals, yet we are all ready to be outraged by tabloid reports of swinging activities, justifying our activities as moral. Are the continual attacks on married singles whistling in the dark? Their morals are worse than ours, so we must be ok?
This thread asked for help with a PC problem. The marital status of the poster had no bearing on the thread except as a reason for why the question was being asked. Why is there any need to criticise her situation, especially from a position of total ignorance? If you don't agree with her lifestyle ignore the thread. She wasn't asking for opinions on married swinging but how to clear history.
How quick is everyone to jump on the occasional evangelist that comes in here denouncing swingers as moralless perverts, telling them to take their personal views of morals and stick them. However some of these same people continually feel the need to criticise others whose moral standpoint is not quite the same as their's.
By all means have your own set of morals and stick to them. Just don't keep telling other people that their morals are wrong just because they are different to yours.
Quote by northwest-cpl
Morals.
A word that gets bandied about so often in this sort of thread in an apparently self justifying way. According to society at large, none of us has morals, yet we are all ready to be outraged by tabloid reports of swinging activities, justifying our activities as moral. Are the continual attacks on married singles whistling in the dark? Their morals are worse than ours, so we must be ok?
This thread asked for help with a PC problem. The marital status of the poster had no bearing on the thread except as a reason for why the question was being asked. Why is there any need to criticise her situation, especially from a position of total ignorance? If you don't agree with her lifestyle ignore the thread. She wasn't asking for opinions on married swinging but how to clear history.
How quick is everyone to jump on the occasional evangelist that comes in here denouncing swingers as moralless perverts, telling them to take their personal views of morals and stick them. However some of these same people continually feel the need to criticise others whose moral standpoint is not quite the same as their's.
By all means have your own set of morals and stick to them. Just don't keep telling other people that their morals are wrong just because they are different to yours.
I couldn't have said it better myself - no I really couldn't have said it better, I would have got myself banned if I'd try to.
Sex God
Excellent comment, Northwest-cpl. To my mind there is a clear distinction between those in here who ask for comments on aspects of their lives and those who don't.
Quote by Jennywren_1
What part of the dictionary translates the word Swinger into Cheater?
Considering this is a swingers site then if that were the case the admin should make it so that singlies cannot join. Woulld make threesomes a bit difficult!!!
I do appreciate what you are saying but the majority of swingers do have their morals intact and don't like be associated or tarnished as cheaters.
Just because i am a single member does not mean that i dont have my morals intact. if i had no morals i would be down the pub pulling the first bloke to buy me a half pint of lager.
Cx
I was steering clear and only about to post a comment that at least you were being treated just the same as a cheating hubby would be.
However, im a little confused by the last paragraph- would your husband be any less hurt by you cheating with "Bob Smith" from swinging heaven than you cheating with "Bob Smith" from the Red Lion?
Quote by northwest-cpl
Morals.
A word that gets bandied about so often in this sort of thread in an apparently self justifying way. According to society at large, none of us has morals, yet we are all ready to be outraged by tabloid reports of swinging activities, justifying our activities as moral. Are the continual attacks on married singles whistling in the dark? Their morals are worse than ours, so we must be ok?
This thread asked for help with a PC problem. The marital status of the poster had no bearing on the thread except as a reason for why the question was being asked. Why is there any need to criticise her situation, especially from a position of total ignorance? If you don't agree with her lifestyle ignore the thread. She wasn't asking for opinions on married swinging but how to clear history.
How quick is everyone to jump on the occasional evangelist that comes in here denouncing swingers as moralless perverts, telling them to take their personal views of morals and stick them. However some of these same people continually feel the need to criticise others whose moral standpoint is not quite the same as their's.
By all means have your own set of morals and stick to them. Just don't keep telling other people that their morals are wrong just because they are different to yours.
Sounds like a plan :thumbup:
Sex God
:shock:
well
erm
ok.
first off i gave info to help after saying i wasn't comfy being party to the deception, because those were my personal feelings, however i realised that her choices are her choices and not for me to decide for anyone but myself... so with the instruction given i thought no more about it.
as rainbows and calista pointed out the man who was killed, i did have civil and lovely conversations with him. he knew it was my choice not to play with married folk whose partners knew nothing about it and we mutually respected each others play choices. didnt mean he was an ogre or someone without feelings nor reasons, but it was my choice with the info he bravely provided me with.
mutual respect for peopes decisions is key and treating them how you'd want to be treated yourself regardless of play choices. each to their own imho.
well
erm
ok.
first off i gave info to help after saying i wasn't comfy being party to the deception, because those were my personal feelings, however i realised that her choices are her choices and not for me to decide for anyone but myself... so with the instruction given i thought no more about it.
as rainbows and calista pointed out the man who was killed, i did have civil and lovely conversations with him. he knew it was my choice not to play with married folk whose partners knew nothing about it and we mutually respected each others play choices. didnt mean he was an ogre or someone without feelings nor reasons, but it was my choice with the info he bravely provided me with.
mutual respect for peopes decisions is key and treating them how you'd want to be treated yourself regardless of play choices. each to their own imho.
Sex God
Quote by northwest-cpl
Morals.
A word that gets bandied about so often in this sort of thread in an apparently self justifying way. According to society at large, none of us has morals, yet we are all ready to be outraged by tabloid reports of swinging activities, justifying our activities as moral. Are the continual attacks on married singles whistling in the dark? Their morals are worse than ours, so we must be ok?
This thread asked for help with a PC problem. The marital status of the poster had no bearing on the thread except as a reason for why the question was being asked. Why is there any need to criticise her situation, especially from a position of total ignorance? If you don't agree with her lifestyle ignore the thread. She wasn't asking for opinions on married swinging but how to clear history.
How quick is everyone to jump on the occasional evangelist that comes in here denouncing swingers as moralless perverts, telling them to take their personal views of morals and stick them. However some of these same people continually feel the need to criticise others whose moral standpoint is not quite the same as their's.
By all means have your own set of morals and stick to them. Just don't keep telling other people that their morals are wrong just because they are different to yours.
theres your reason for hanging around jenny wren, there are some good people here that give considered opinion , im glad i have returned from work to see some sanity has come back to the site, it was never a matter of condoning your lifestyle or condemning it, it was always a matter of not judging you as i know fuck all about you!
good luck and find peace and happiness in the road you take
staggy
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Sex God
Quote by Rainbows
and the people that sent pms calling her a slag are fair to are they?
of course as you say they are entitled to their opinion like you say!
No - that would be abusive and out of line. They should be reported.
I did not say I agreed with abusive behaviour Staggy. Disagreement is one thing. Abuse is another.
I am surprised that a man of your obvious intelligence would confuse the two.
RSxx :color:
your quote should have been removed , my comments were a generalisation of events up to this morning, i used your quote to acess a reply on here the thread was screwed up and i couldnt get on here any other way then, again i apologise rainbows, your quote should have been removed leaving just my general comments, if jenny takes my advice she would have forwarded the pms on to admin/mods, i hope she has
staggy
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Jennywren_1
I am in the same situtation as you, married, some people on here are fine others are just argumentitive.
I am honest and open about things and get no luck on here, I want to keep it that way (being honest). Although if I lied Id probably get meets, Im a patient man and waiting for positive replys.
I am in the same situtation as you, married, some people on here are fine others are just argumentitive.
I am honest and open about things and get no luck on here, I want to keep it that way (being honest). Although if I lied Id probably get meets, Im a patient man and waiting for positive replys.
Casanova
I was the guy that got the stick Staggy was talking about earlier. I am married to an A-sexual wife that I love very much. I would not leave her but I have needs. I was lucky as during an arguement I told her I would get it else where, to which she replied ok. She knows I 'go out', so I am lucky. Theres no dishonesty but there would have been except for that argument.
I dont get to post too much now due to work commitments but I just cant beleive the purile attitude that exists on here from time to time. Part of what I love about the community is that generally people dont judge others. Who are we to judge others? Do we live thier life do we know all the ins and out? No we dont so until youve walked a mile in others shoes dont critisize.
Its great if you manage to find a partner that likes to swing or even likes sex but thats few and far between otherwise all of the world would swing.
You only have one life so enjoy it how you want, dont let others tell you how to live your life. Jennywren You have a PM.
I dont get to post too much now due to work commitments but I just cant beleive the purile attitude that exists on here from time to time. Part of what I love about the community is that generally people dont judge others. Who are we to judge others? Do we live thier life do we know all the ins and out? No we dont so until youve walked a mile in others shoes dont critisize.
Its great if you manage to find a partner that likes to swing or even likes sex but thats few and far between otherwise all of the world would swing.
You only have one life so enjoy it how you want, dont let others tell you how to live your life. Jennywren You have a PM.
northwest-cpl wrote:
Morals.
A word that gets bandied about so often in this sort of thread in an apparently self justifying way. According to society at large, none of us has morals, yet we are all ready to be outraged by tabloid reports of swinging activities, justifying our activities as moral. Are the continual attacks on married singles whistling in the dark? Their morals are worse than ours, so we must be ok?
This thread asked for help with a PC problem. The marital status of the poster had no bearing on the thread except as a reason for why the question was being asked. Why is there any need to criticise her situation, especially from a position of total ignorance? If you don't agree with her lifestyle ignore the thread. She wasn't asking for opinions on married swinging but how to clear history.
How quick is everyone to jump on the occasional evangelist that comes in here denouncing swingers as moralless perverts, telling them to take their personal views of morals and stick them. However some of these same people continually feel the need to criticise others whose moral standpoint is not quite the same as their's.
By all means have your own set of morals and stick to them. Just don't keep telling other people that their morals are wrong just because they are different to yours.
Theres really nothing else to say on this except northwests comments which i think are 100% correct.
This site will attract people who are seeking sex, some married, some not, some with permission, some not...... Myself, I believe that as long as folks are truthful early on about their situation then all parties can make their choice...... the problem surely is when people say they are something they aren't!
I think its a great shame when, especially on a site like this, people start trying to impose their own morals on others........ it can only ever degenerate into bad feeling.......
Personally i wish a mod would lock this one now.... i hate to see folks slagging each other off about having sex......... I hate bad feeling....... :shock:
what i find sad, is that despite anyones personal opinions, somebody has felt the need to be nasty via PM - if that person is big enough to do that, let us all see, by posting in public
or is it a case that person doesnt want to be 'judged' to be considered a bad person, the very same thing that person is doing by sending the pm in the first place
whilst 'cheating' or similar actions might not sit well with some people, there are enough who feel strongly about it that they wont do it, there will always be cheaters, let them get on with it, if a person doesnt like it, dont hook up with a cheater
i have been cheated on, it hurt like hell, more than i would care to admit, if someone came to me, and i knew they were cheating, all i have to do is say no thank you, pontificating wont stop that persons behaviour, all it will do is shift the problem onto someone else
but i dont care, it wont be 'my problem'
or is it a case that person doesnt want to be 'judged' to be considered a bad person, the very same thing that person is doing by sending the pm in the first place
whilst 'cheating' or similar actions might not sit well with some people, there are enough who feel strongly about it that they wont do it, there will always be cheaters, let them get on with it, if a person doesnt like it, dont hook up with a cheater
i have been cheated on, it hurt like hell, more than i would care to admit, if someone came to me, and i knew they were cheating, all i have to do is say no thank you, pontificating wont stop that persons behaviour, all it will do is shift the problem onto someone else
but i dont care, it wont be 'my problem'
Next time I'm just going keep mouth shut!
I'd actually rather people did pm me telling me I'm spiteful and not nice than calling me on here .. as it was me that initally started this.
In my own way, tired though, I tried to point out that hiding "cheating" doesn't work. My opinions, however, being different obviously aren't allowed and I'm not entitled to voice them. I didn't impose my morals on anyone, I simply voiced my concerns.
To all the people who asked if it was me pming Jennywren .. the answer is no! I am brave enough to voice my comments out on the forum and find it despicable that anyone would do such a thing. Jennywren, please do report them, as much as I dislike "cheating", I dislike cowardice and such behaviour even more. And to the people whom I considered as friends, to think that of me is as bad.
I'm actually going to take time out of the forum for now.
I'd actually rather people did pm me telling me I'm spiteful and not nice than calling me on here .. as it was me that initally started this.
In my own way, tired though, I tried to point out that hiding "cheating" doesn't work. My opinions, however, being different obviously aren't allowed and I'm not entitled to voice them. I didn't impose my morals on anyone, I simply voiced my concerns.
To all the people who asked if it was me pming Jennywren .. the answer is no! I am brave enough to voice my comments out on the forum and find it despicable that anyone would do such a thing. Jennywren, please do report them, as much as I dislike "cheating", I dislike cowardice and such behaviour even more. And to the people whom I considered as friends, to think that of me is as bad.
I'm actually going to take time out of the forum for now.
Quote by m1970
The original question was about how to delete history, thats all.
Calista dont go off on one, your an adult
It is annoying, for some reason us cheaters get picked on, I bet most people have cheated some time or another.
I'm not being childish ! All I said was I need time out!!!!!!
Damned if I do ... damned if I don't!
Quote by m1970
The original question was about how to delete history, thats all.
Calista dont go off on one, your an adult
It is annoying, for some reason us cheaters get picked on, I bet most people have cheated some time or another.
I don't think Calista needs you to patronise her either.....
Sex God
Quote by m1970
I bet most people have cheated some time or another.
That's a very sweeping statement to make.
Maybe now that the original question has been answered, the thread will be locked anyway.
