In the expression 'Bi-Curious' does the use of the word Curious means that you want to know what its like to interact with a person of the same sex?
Having just had an encounter during which we both experienced a (mild) amount of this for the first time, and which we both enjoyed, does this mean that we are no longer curious, as we do know what its like?
So, as far as one's profile is concerned, at what point does it stop being merely curious and therefore, by definition, bi-sexual?
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How do we define Bi?
Orgasminator
2 inches is enough to answer curiosity, take any more than that without gagging or your eyes watering and you are 'a Bi' 
As Ben said its tough using labels to define someone, especially sexuality and sexual behaviour. Its your profile - use the label you think will attract the most appropriate people to look at it.
As Ben said its tough using labels to define someone, especially sexuality and sexual behaviour. Its your profile - use the label you think will attract the most appropriate people to look at it.
Sex God
Labels are extremelly difficult when you consider levels within the label. For instance is an orally bi person curius about going all the way or fully bi? Does a kiss with the same sex mean anything? after all it uses your mouth so are you orally bi at that point?
It's all very confusing
It's all very confusing
In my humble opinion, someone is curious when they are wondering what it is like, once they know what is like, they are either bi (if they liked it and want to do it again) or straight (if they didn't like it).
However, as we all know it really isn't that simple. What happens if you like it sometimes but only when you're in the mood for it? That's me you see! I have done pretty much everything there is to do with another woman, I like it but only when I'm in the mood. By my own definition this makes me bi.
I call myself bi-selective but that ain't an option on the profile drop down thingy. I went with bi at first but then got loads of messages from people wanting loads of girly play which I could never guarantee I was going to be in the mood for when arranging anything. So now, on our profile I'm straight. If the female we meet is bi and the mood takes me ... bonus! If I ain't in the mood ... I ain't let anyone down.
So I say, do what feels right for you.
However, as we all know it really isn't that simple. What happens if you like it sometimes but only when you're in the mood for it? That's me you see! I have done pretty much everything there is to do with another woman, I like it but only when I'm in the mood. By my own definition this makes me bi.
I call myself bi-selective but that ain't an option on the profile drop down thingy. I went with bi at first but then got loads of messages from people wanting loads of girly play which I could never guarantee I was going to be in the mood for when arranging anything. So now, on our profile I'm straight. If the female we meet is bi and the mood takes me ... bonus! If I ain't in the mood ... I ain't let anyone down.
So I say, do what feels right for you.
I take bi-curious to denote a certain level of uncertainty, which the OP is expressing still. So in this specific case I would keep the bi-curious lable on for a little longer - you already mention on your profile that you've started experimenting and it is going well, so there can be no misunderstandings there. All in all, if you needed/wanted/were ready to identify as bisexual, you wouldn't be asking for people's opinion ;)
On this site, yes, the difference between bisexual and bi-curious is judged on the level of experience... But I disagree with this approach and do disregard it, because I do not like the "trysexual" element of it. I think most people do not even need to have sex to know whether they are straight, gay, bisexual or what have you. Sexual attraction and desire alone can play a big role in the way you identity, whether you act on it or not.
On this site, yes, the difference between bisexual and bi-curious is judged on the level of experience... But I disagree with this approach and do disregard it, because I do not like the "trysexual" element of it. I think most people do not even need to have sex to know whether they are straight, gay, bisexual or what have you. Sexual attraction and desire alone can play a big role in the way you identity, whether you act on it or not.
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I take bi-curious to denote a certain level of uncertainty, which the OP is expressing still. So in this specific case I would keep the bi-curious lable on for a little longer - you already mention on your profile that you've started experimenting and it is going well, so there can be no misunderstandings there. All in all, if you needed/wanted/were ready to identify as bisexual, you wouldn't be asking for people's opinion ;)
On this site, yes, the difference between bisexual and bi-curious is judged on the level of experience... But I disagree with this approach and do disregard it, because I do not like the "trysexual" element of it. I think most people do not even need to have sex to know whether they are straight, gay, bisexual or what have you. Sexual attraction and desire alone can play a big role in the way you identity, whether you act on it or not.
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Great reply
I tend to think of sexuality in a graphical sense:
Gay ----------------> Bi <---------------- Straight
Everyone will sit on that line somewhere, and be likely to move in either/both directions as time goes by. Despite the labels there won't be many who would be catagorically at one end or the other.
Gay ----------------> Bi <---------------- Straight
Everyone will sit on that line somewhere, and be likely to move in either/both directions as time goes by. Despite the labels there won't be many who would be catagorically at one end or the other.
It seems to be an expression which is non committal but is vicariously employed because we are in an era where being bi offers an option. What you actually do to qualify as having a bi experience is nothing new. How it is seen in the public eye can change according to what is popular.
So did we find the expression because we suddenly became curious, or did we get bi and then need an expression to explain ourselves? Or are we just curious about the expression?
And would we use it elsewhere? To say someone is curious or curious, suddenly doesn't seem to have quite the same tone, does it? Although quite obviously such people do have a period of uncertainty before committing themselves.
So it will roll off the list of current expressions round about the time there is more familiarity with being bi, and it won't need to be separated from any sexual legal adult activity.
So did we find the expression because we suddenly became curious, or did we get bi and then need an expression to explain ourselves? Or are we just curious about the expression?
And would we use it elsewhere? To say someone is curious or curious, suddenly doesn't seem to have quite the same tone, does it? Although quite obviously such people do have a period of uncertainty before committing themselves.
So it will roll off the list of current expressions round about the time there is more familiarity with being bi, and it won't need to be separated from any sexual legal adult activity.
Sex God
Do we need to 
Sex God
When you've tried it, surely.
Put it this way if someone said they were chilli-curious and then ate a plate if chilli they could no longer say they were curious about what it was like.
Put it this way if someone said they were chilli-curious and then ate a plate if chilli they could no longer say they were curious about what it was like.
