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how do you get your partner intrested in swinging
Orgasminator
Swinging as a couple is about 2 people that are very secure in their relationship and want to spice up their sex life.
If you both talk to each other about your fantasies then thats a good start, but dont push her for an answer. Let things evolve naturally, and dont forget this is about both of you getting something out of playing with other people that will benifit BOTH of you.
If you both talk to each other about your fantasies then thats a good start, but dont push her for an answer. Let things evolve naturally, and dont forget this is about both of you getting something out of playing with other people that will benifit BOTH of you.
Sex God
What staffcple said or alternatively let them come up with the idea first!!
staffcple's last 7 words are the most important to avoid unhappiness.
Good luck.
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staffcple's last 7 words are the most important to avoid unhappiness.
Good luck.
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Quote by niceandgentle
When next you plan to drive to the pub with your partner, instead, make your way to the nearest swingers club, park outside and utter the immortal words... "brace yourself darling". :twisted:
Which is known as 'the subtle approach'
This is the divorce approach
Dave_Notts
I also would avoid statements that suggest that your existing sex life with your partner needs 'spicing up' although that may indeed be the case as she/he will then be comparing the level of pleasure you get from any encounter with the level they have witnessed you experiencing with them.
Swinging does increase variety and introduce new things... but it really is far from an improvement to a stale sex life.
Worlass and I do have a great sex life and we have always had sex with others.. I prefer having sex with others with worlass there, but I do enjoy telling her about it too.
I can only imagine how heartbroken I would be if she had brought it up to 'improve/change or otherwise increase' our sex life.
Swinging does increase variety and introduce new things... but it really is far from an improvement to a stale sex life.
Worlass and I do have a great sex life and we have always had sex with others.. I prefer having sex with others with worlass there, but I do enjoy telling her about it too.
I can only imagine how heartbroken I would be if she had brought it up to 'improve/change or otherwise increase' our sex life.
Lucys Response.
In our case, MIke told me he had put us on a swingers site, when i was a tad drunk whilst on holiday one evening! He thought I may react more favourably if slightly intoxicated!!
When back home,I looked at all the messages, said I will never meet anyone, ever! We stayed looking at the slte , which I found quite amusing, so stayed on for the laugh! I met our first gentleman 6 weeks later!
Two years later, still around, have had some lovely times, but not all good!
A seed was planted, and well watered by Mike.
Take it steady,do not push and always let the lady take the lead in all things(well nearly all)
Most of all if it stops being fun......stop!
In our case, MIke told me he had put us on a swingers site, when i was a tad drunk whilst on holiday one evening! He thought I may react more favourably if slightly intoxicated!!
When back home,I looked at all the messages, said I will never meet anyone, ever! We stayed looking at the slte , which I found quite amusing, so stayed on for the laugh! I met our first gentleman 6 weeks later!
Two years later, still around, have had some lovely times, but not all good!
A seed was planted, and well watered by Mike.
Take it steady,do not push and always let the lady take the lead in all things(well nearly all)
Most of all if it stops being fun......stop!
Quote by Lucyandmike7
Lucys Response.
In our case, MIke told me he had put us on a swingers site, when i was a tad drunk whilst on holiday one evening! He thought I may react more favourably if slightly intoxicated!!
When back home,I looked at all the messages, said I will never meet anyone, ever! We stayed looking at the slte , which I found quite amusing, so stayed on for the laugh! I met our first gentleman 6 weeks later!
Two years later, still around, have had some lovely times, but not all good!
A seed was planted, and well watered by Mike.
Take it steady,do not push and always let the lady take the lead in all things(well nearly all)
Most of all if it stops being fun......stop!
A rather excellent post if I must say, it comes over that if you hadn't you'd still be sound as a couple, and the fact that that you have - or if you do again - you still remain sound as a couple.
I think it's a very important point, that both have to be happy with doing these things, and that it enhances, not damages, the primary relationship.
Mike here. As a rider to Lucy's post, I think it is worth pointing out that, your wife has to enjoy sex in the first place. When I met Lucy, I thought she had an incredible body, however she (like a lot of women) was unhappy with it, this was not helped by her ex husband who had for many years been negative about her figure.
We had started by fantasising about (in our case a threesome) but Lucy made it clear that that was all it was a fantasy.
My suggestion of going on a swingers site, was purely to show off her body to other guys, something that has always turned my on. It was on that basis that Lucy agreed, making it clear that "there was no way she was meeting anyone"
I had to admit we were both suprised and amazed at the number of responses she received.
What this did, was make her realise how much her body turned men on, and that she did in fact have a good figure.
It was only a matter of time that she would find someone from all these guys that appealed to her, followed then, by a no commitment meal, and that was that!! We ended back in his hotel room, and the rest is history.
So if your partner enjoys sex, plant a few seeds and take it slowly one step at a time.
We had started by fantasising about (in our case a threesome) but Lucy made it clear that that was all it was a fantasy.
My suggestion of going on a swingers site, was purely to show off her body to other guys, something that has always turned my on. It was on that basis that Lucy agreed, making it clear that "there was no way she was meeting anyone"
I had to admit we were both suprised and amazed at the number of responses she received.
What this did, was make her realise how much her body turned men on, and that she did in fact have a good figure.
It was only a matter of time that she would find someone from all these guys that appealed to her, followed then, by a no commitment meal, and that was that!! We ended back in his hotel room, and the rest is history.
So if your partner enjoys sex, plant a few seeds and take it slowly one step at a time.
Sex God
There is some damned good advice going on this thread. I love it when the forum does this stuff @-) :thumbup:
This happened about 3 years ago. We both have birthdays in October a week apart, Mr99's first. I already knew that Mrs99 had fem relationships before.
Mrs99 "What would you like for your birthday?"
Mr99 "Hmmmmmm...how about another girl?"
Mrs99 "You mean a 3 some?"
Mr99 "Indeed"
Mrs99 "Deal...but you find her"
And the rest is history......
Mrs99 "What would you like for your birthday?"
Mr99 "Hmmmmmm...how about another girl?"
Mrs99 "You mean a 3 some?"
Mr99 "Indeed"
Mrs99 "Deal...but you find her"
And the rest is history......
Sex God
Maybe a voucher system, everytime she completes a fantasy task she gets a voucher towards some new shoes....ladies like shoes :mrgreen:
I'm not really helping much am i?
I'm not really helping much am i?
Sex God
Quote by meat2pleaseu
Maybe a voucher system, everytime she completes a fantasy task she gets a voucher towards some new shoes....ladies like shoes :mrgreen:
I'm not really helping much am i?
No change there then! :giggle:
(Sorry... it was the mention of shoes... couldn't help myself!)
Sex God
Quote by Dirtygirlie
Maybe a voucher system, everytime she completes a fantasy task she gets a voucher towards some new shoes....ladies like shoes :mrgreen:
I'm not really helping much am i?
No change there then! :giggle:
(Sorry... it was the mention of shoes... couldn't help myself!)
You're just a magnet for any mention of shoes aren't you?
look, shiney shoes......
Sex God
I suspect there's worse things to be a magnet to! 
