How has swinging changed for you?

19 Dec 2004

I still pretty new to this site and have posted a few times. Although I'm not swinging yet evil

. I was wondering.........How has swinging changed. I'm sure this has been done before. But things change all the time. I mean before computers really took off how did people meet? was swinging and dogging as popular as it is today?
Obviously I asume having computers has boosted the amount of swingers or has it? were they already there? I mean its only by coming across this site that I've become more interested in it. It's not how I imagined, and maybe lead to believe from stories that I'd heard. Chuck the car keys in the dish and pick a set out (or does that still happen? confused

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How do you feel about the changes?......some of you seem to have been around swinging for a long time and dare I say are seasoned swingers. Clubs seem to be very popular places and I'm hoping to visit one. I think its a little hard to cross the threashold into swinging. Although I'm very eager to do so, its just taking that step wink

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I have to say, that my view of dogging has changed before reading this site I only imaginged the dirty mac brigade....but now I realize that more and more couples do it and it can be very exciting :twisted: .
not sure how to close this post, but anyhow looking forward to reading some replies and in the future when someone else posts this kinda topic I'll be able to answer them :wink: :twisted:

19 Dec 2004

Well, do ya know, I never knew what dogging was, or that it even existed, before I came here.
Reese and I met on the 'net, so have no idea what all went on before. Nothing existed in the Universe, till then, narmean?

19 Dec 2004

Ok..... so how do you think swinging will change?..do you think it will change for the better?.....with all the help from sites like SH (although I don't know what others are like) because its not how the media mad

portray it :shock: .

19 Dec 2004

I think (hope) it will be more socially acceptable. I know it will take time, especially as we have made a life decision to be swingers, but you think how hard it is for gay people to become accepted, and quite often, they are not, and to be gay is not something you decide to do.
I am hoping that with others becoming more aware that alternatives exist, they may be eventually accepting.
I'll not hold my breath, though.

19 Dec 2004

Quote by Vix
I think (hope) it will be more socially acceptable. I know it will take time, especially as we have made a life decision to be swingers, but you think how hard it is for gay people to become accepted, and quite often, they are not, and to be gay is not something you decide to do.
I am hoping that with others becoming more aware that alternatives exist, they may be eventually accepting.
I'll not hold my breath, though.

How well you put that Vix and I'm sure a lot of us share the same opinion too.
Swinging is becoming more mainstream, just look at how many new members arrive to the site after another documentary or news article on our lifestyle choice comes out. It's fair to say that a lot of the new members around those times only register due to curiosity but a good amount of them will become swingers and enjoy this community and the friendships it brings

19 Dec 2004

A lot more people would like to swing if it wasn't for the media always painting the wrong picture about internet was our way of getting into the scene and it will also be for many more people to come.....it will one day become acceptable by most and the press will chase something else instead but do you really won't it to become the norm......isn't that also the thrill of it!

19 Dec 2004

I think with swinging it's always been the norm and now, the media, are trying
to paint a very different picture of what it's all about. To me, it's a party with
adults who have mutual respect for each other. No is a No and yes becomes
a very exciting phrase although th eword yes is not often spoken with the mouth
but rather with thebody language. Let's face it the press are all in on it and that's
why. at times, they like to paint a bad oicture so there is more for them - a selfish
act but one you can understand

19 Dec 2004

I agree with that packard, there are much more unpleasant things going on that the papers could uncover but instead they will pick on swingers. In my opinion, anything that goes on between consenting adults in private should be just fine, I don't see the problem at all, just peoples small mindedness.

19 Dec 2004

I just can't help wondering what sort of thing is eventually going to push swinging out of the media spotlight? It would have to be something really depraved and dirty :twisted: :twisted: (hope I get in there first.. just to give a crtitical opinion of course rolleyes

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19 Dec 2004

I used to meet couples for threesomes during the early and mid-nineties, back in the days before the internet became popular, via ads in Loot, the classified ads paper. The main difference now with the net is the ease with which pics can be put with people's swinging ads. We never exchanged photos at all before meeting up, contact was made via phone message box at first, and then by phone. Things went fine with very few exceptions - I sometimes feel nostalgic for those days to come back, as the emphasis on pics has definitely changed things. Many people seem to judge others on their pics and pics only, some insisting on seeing pics before they will even chat online with someone. There seems to be no way of avoiding playing the pics game now, but of course there are huge advantages with the net - contact is so much easier to make.
Mike.