Hi
Me and my girlfriend have been together for 6 years, and I would really like to experiment with swinging, but I don't think she is that keen. I have raised the issue once but it just got forgotten about.
I really wanted to find out from the female side of a couple how they got into it and if they were the same at the start? and if you quite a highly sexed person like my girlfriend is do you think she would like it?
Many Thanks
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How to get my gf into swinging?
We only got on here because Mrs777 was curious about her bi side.
I had never given it a second thought...my thoughts would have been keys on the table kind of thing as far as swinging is concerned.
We went to a club and my eyes were certainly opened.
So for me getting into the swinging scene was rather easy, and being a typical red bloodied guy was only too eager to explore.
I can imagine though in your scenario it will be a lot more difficult. If she is not interested there is not a great deal you can do other than to just come right out with it, and see her reaction.
If it is a big no no for her, then you would be wise to not push the point.
I had never given it a second thought...my thoughts would have been keys on the table kind of thing as far as swinging is concerned.
We went to a club and my eyes were certainly opened.
So for me getting into the swinging scene was rather easy, and being a typical red bloodied guy was only too eager to explore.
I can imagine though in your scenario it will be a lot more difficult. If she is not interested there is not a great deal you can do other than to just come right out with it, and see her reaction.
If it is a big no no for her, then you would be wise to not push the point.
If she says she is not keen, there is nothing you can do. Swinging is a minority interest, and however highly-sexed someone is, it does not mean they will be interested in swinging. There is no magic technique for persuading a partner to try swinging - even if you get half a dozen replies here from female halves of couples, saying that they weren't keen on swinging at first but now they love it, I don't see how that will help at all.
By the way, if you do manage to spark her curiosity, how are you going to explain that you describe yourself in your ad as having been "on the swinging scene for four years"?
By the way, if you do manage to spark her curiosity, how are you going to explain that you describe yourself in your ad as having been "on the swinging scene for four years"?
Sex God
I know you asked for replies from female halves of couples and you keep getting replies from guys, but I think the problem can be seen from the title of your thread "How do I get my gf into swinging".
I really think that's the wrong way to look at it. Swinging is something you have to choose. "Getting her into it" sounds as if it is something that YOU want to do and you want to know how to entice/trick/persuade her to join in too. I don't think that's the right approach at all.
Try talking about the concept of swinging, very gently at first and in totally generic terms, and see how she reacts. If she really doesn't like the idea then I don't think you can force her (and I'm sure you wouldn't want to).
As others have said, this is a lifestyle choice and I think the key word there is choice.
Will
I really think that's the wrong way to look at it. Swinging is something you have to choose. "Getting her into it" sounds as if it is something that YOU want to do and you want to know how to entice/trick/persuade her to join in too. I don't think that's the right approach at all.
Try talking about the concept of swinging, very gently at first and in totally generic terms, and see how she reacts. If she really doesn't like the idea then I don't think you can force her (and I'm sure you wouldn't want to).
As others have said, this is a lifestyle choice and I think the key word there is choice.
Will
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Hi
Me and my girlfriend have been together for 6 years, and I would really like to experiment with swinging, but I don't think she is that keen. I have raised the issue once but it just got forgotten about.
I really wanted to find out from the female side of a couple how they got into it and if they were the same at the start? and if you quite a highly sexed person like my girlfriend is do you think she would like it?
Many Thanks
you can put me in touch with her, ill bring her round to our way of thinking if you like?
Goodness me - is Matty that desparate!
Plim
We have had a few experiences and are considering the idea again. The thing you do need to realise that it is a journey. The journey involves listening, patience, understanding, communication, and respect for each other. Rushing into it or pushing her into swinging will not work. Instead it is about giving her the time to process the information by not discussing the subject for a while. Hopefully as time passes she may initiate a conversation with you about it or maybe after enough time has passed you could start the conversation again to see where it goes. Even if it never materialises the main thing is to love her for who she is and not, what she is willing to do for you.
Sex God
Just be aware that in some couples - the initially unwilling/unsure partner has loved swinging so much they left the keen one at the start line and weren't seen for a cloud of dust and empty condom packets. 
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Hi
Me and my girlfriend have been together for 6 years, and I would really like to experiment with swinging, but I don't think she is that keen. I have raised the issue once but it just got forgotten about.
I really wanted to find out from the female side of a couple how they got into it and if they were the same at the start? and if you quite a highly sexed person like my girlfriend is do you think she would like it?
Many Thanks
you can put me in touch with her, ill bring her round to our way of thinking if you like?
Oh great!...scar her for life!
Sex God
The wife was very unsure about it all, so we googled lots, joined here, read messages, storys and then we talked and talked and talked.......... 
We kind of fell into it by accident.
We're both really highly sexed and he went away for a long period of time with work and I was gagging for it. I went on and on and on about how horny I was that in the end he suggested an open relationship while he was away ..... result!!!
When he got back we played with my best friend as she was very bi curious and as it turned out, so was I!! But again, that just kind of happened (during a drunken game of truth or dare).
We decided to have a shag in the car one night, unaware that it ws a dogging spot and found it very exciting that people were watching. We did this for a while and watching turned to joining in. From there we went to clubs and now there's no stopping us!! We do parties, clubs, meets, etc. We only joined here becuase I wanted to shag on cam. We now are doing our best to live out all of our deepest darkest fantasies :twisted:
My advice would be to talk, talk about everything, your fantasies, her fantasies. dont push it and expect things to happen straight away. Things progress with time. I find that the best time to talk is after a right good toe curling shag!! Find out what her fantasy is and then leave it for a bit before asking if she would like to fulfull it. You never know she may want to return the favour so to speak!!
Edited cos I thought of something more to say!! :lol:
Some women may think that this is a ploy for you to get to shag other women without being seen as a cheat. I know I did when the whole open realtionship thing was brought up. It should all be about her to start with in a very unselfish way. Make it all about her and you never know.
Hope this helps.
We're both really highly sexed and he went away for a long period of time with work and I was gagging for it. I went on and on and on about how horny I was that in the end he suggested an open relationship while he was away ..... result!!!
When he got back we played with my best friend as she was very bi curious and as it turned out, so was I!! But again, that just kind of happened (during a drunken game of truth or dare).
We decided to have a shag in the car one night, unaware that it ws a dogging spot and found it very exciting that people were watching. We did this for a while and watching turned to joining in. From there we went to clubs and now there's no stopping us!! We do parties, clubs, meets, etc. We only joined here becuase I wanted to shag on cam. We now are doing our best to live out all of our deepest darkest fantasies :twisted:
My advice would be to talk, talk about everything, your fantasies, her fantasies. dont push it and expect things to happen straight away. Things progress with time. I find that the best time to talk is after a right good toe curling shag!!
Find out what her fantasy is and then leave it for a bit before asking if she would like to fulfull it. You never know she may want to return the favour so to speak!!Edited cos I thought of something more to say!! :lol:
Some women may think that this is a ploy for you to get to shag other women without being seen as a cheat. I know I did when the whole open realtionship thing was brought up. It should all be about her to start with in a very unselfish way. Make it all about her and you never know.
Hope this helps.
