How to refuse politely??

10 Sep 2007

I am too nice for my own good, and don't like to think I have upset or offended anyone (it bothers me greatly if i think i have - even if i havent)
Usually I would ignore anyone that we werent interested in - bad i know, but see reasons stated above (thats why I'm on medication!!!!)
but i had a pm that specifically asked for a reply even if we werent interested, but i dont know what to write.
so....how do i word a polite refusal, I need help desperately please (with sugar on) biggrin

10 Sep 2007

'Thanks but we don't think that we're compatible with you'.

10 Sep 2007

Thanks for the pm / email, but I am sorry you don't match my needs.
Happy hunting.......

10 Sep 2007

Quote by Bonedigger
I am too nice for my own good, and don't like to think I have upset or offended anyone (it bothers me greatly if i think i have - even if i havent)
Usually I would ignore anyone that we werent interested in - bad i know, but see reasons stated above (thats why I'm on medication!!!!)
but i had a pm that specifically asked for a reply even if we werent interested, but i dont know what to write.
so....how do i word a polite refusal, I need help desperately please (with sugar on)

I also struggle with this but a simple "thanks for your interest however at this moment in time you are not what we are looking for. Best of luck with your search mr and mrs B". Or something along those lines should be sufficiant.

10 Sep 2007

thank you, thank you, thank you....i love you all
and lyns, i havent forgot about those mags for you hun.....just need to get to a post office
xxxx

10 Sep 2007

"My invisible friend told me your not for me."
Then not only will they understand it as a rejection, you probably wouldn't hear from the again.

10 Sep 2007

I have a problem with this too, not so bad in mail where you can be detached from it, but when you're in chat and you have to say 'no' it's a lot harder. Especially if, looking at someone's profile, they do fit what you're looking for - you just don't hit it off with them. How do you say, 'sorry mate I don't fancy you' without insulting someone?
I'm so glad other people have this problem, I'm sorry I can't be more helpful than saying, 'yep, me too.'
H.x

10 Sep 2007

Quote by Amazing_dan
"My invisible friend told me your not for me."
Then not only will they understand it as a rejection, you probably wouldn't hear from the again.

thanks for the handy hint Dan lol

PS you remind me of Bradley Branning in Easties :lol:
(I know you love a joke wink

:lol:

)

10 Sep 2007

I took that picture the other day, your the 5th person to say that so far. biggrin

I might get a tattoo "Bradley Branning?" On my forehead then all people will need to do is just nod in agreement.

10 Sep 2007

Don't worry too much about letting them down. Most just are happy to know one way or another.
We just put something along the lines of....
Thanks for your PM but on this occassion it's a no thanks. Best of luck in your search for playmates x
Don't think people get upset at that!?!?!?!?

10 Sep 2007

*go fuck yourself, you filthy perv!*
stops me repeat mailing anyway
lp

10 Sep 2007

Quote by LondonPlaything
*go fuck yourself, you filthy perv!*
stops me repeat mailing anyway
lp

:shock: :shock: :shock: lol

Dan, I don't think you look like Bradley Branning. Then again, I have absolutely NO idea who he is :lol:
If he's from one of the soaps, don't anyone bother with a link (is 'Easties', Eastenders?). Thanks.

10 Sep 2007

There he is. biggrin

10 Sep 2007

You do look alike! lol

10 Sep 2007

I get Fire to do it. :grin:

10 Sep 2007

Quote by Stormwalker
I get Fire to do it. :grin:

You would

10 Sep 2007

Quote by Stormwalker
I get Fire to do it. :grin:

Is there anything that poor girl doesn't do for you? biggrin

10 Sep 2007

Quote by Freckledbird
I get Fire to do it. :grin:

Is there anything that poor girl doesn't do for you? biggrin

clip his toe nails! confused

10 Sep 2007

We used to have a problem saying No... Only in that it was like you said the feeling of guilt almost.
Now however.. even if someone is genuinely nice but we don't really fancy we just say so.. Usually along the lines of.. Your lovely etc blah blah blah but we don't think we'll all be setting the bed sheets alight.. a few more blah blah blahs lol..
Never offended anyone yet... We hope!
Mike x

10 Sep 2007

go ahead with all apparent enthusiasm.... then simply don't turn up...
lp

10 Sep 2007

Quote by Mr-Powers
I get Fire to do it. :grin:

Is there anything that poor girl doesn't do for you? biggrin

clip his toe nails! confused

Nah! I chew my own, I’m surprisingly supple. :rascal:

10 Sep 2007

Quote by Stormwalker
I get Fire to do it. :grin:

Is there anything that poor girl doesn't do for you? biggrin

clip his toe nails! confused

Nah! I chew my own, I’m surprisingly supple. :rascal:
Chew!!! :shock: ....sorry but thats fucking gross!! lol

10 Sep 2007

With your feet maybe…some of us have very pretty delicate feet…..
dunno

:rotflmao: :rotflmao:

10 Sep 2007

Quote by mdr2000
We used to have a problem saying No... Only in that it was like you said the feeling of guilt almost.
Now however.. even if someone is genuinely nice but we don't really fancy we just say so.. Usually along the lines of.. Your lovely etc blah blah blah but we don't think we'll all be setting the bed sheets alight.. a few more blah blah blahs lol..
Never offended anyone yet... We hope!
Mike x

You are joking...I cried for days :cry:
:giggle:

10 Sep 2007

Quote by blueandpink
We used to have a problem saying No... Only in that it was like you said the feeling of guilt almost.
Now however.. even if someone is genuinely nice but we don't really fancy we just say so.. Usually along the lines of.. Your lovely etc blah blah blah but we don't think we'll all be setting the bed sheets alight.. a few more blah blah blahs lol..
Never offended anyone yet... We hope!
Mike x

You are joking...I cried for days :cry:
:giggle:
No no no... yours was the we can't have you round cause you will set the bed sheets alight one... and there were far less Blah blah blah's remember??
Mike xx

10 Sep 2007

Quote by mdr2000
We used to have a problem saying No... Only in that it was like you said the feeling of guilt almost.
Now however.. even if someone is genuinely nice but we don't really fancy we just say so.. Usually along the lines of.. Your lovely etc blah blah blah but we don't think we'll all be setting the bed sheets alight.. a few more blah blah blahs lol..
Never offended anyone yet... We hope!
Mike x

You are joking...I cried for days :cry:
:giggle:
No no no... yours was the we can't have you round cause you will set the bed sheets alight one... and there were far less Blah blah blah's remember??
Mike xx
calling me a pyromaniac Mikey? lol

10 Sep 2007

Quote by blueandpink
We used to have a problem saying No... Only in that it was like you said the feeling of guilt almost.
Now however.. even if someone is genuinely nice but we don't really fancy we just say so.. Usually along the lines of.. Your lovely etc blah blah blah but we don't think we'll all be setting the bed sheets alight.. a few more blah blah blahs lol..
Never offended anyone yet... We hope!
Mike x

You are joking...I cried for days :cry:
:giggle:
No no no... yours was the we can't have you round cause you will set the bed sheets alight one... and there were far less Blah blah blah's remember??
Mike xx
calling me a pyromaniac Mikey? lol

You can call me anything lol.... just read your profile.. Mwah lol.

10 Sep 2007

pretty much what has been said already.
just a polite "thanx for you interest, but you are not what I/we are looking for at the moment."
it works on me anyway. and it happens all to often.
:upset: sad

(a bit of sympathy please !) smile

10 Sep 2007

Quote by never_satisfied
pretty much what has been said already.
just a polite "thanx for you interest, but you are not what I/we are looking for at the moment."
it works on me anyway. and it happens all to often.
:upset:
(a bit of sympathy please !)

Pahhh..... your just never satisfied!!
lol... Ok its cheap!
Mike

10 Sep 2007

Same as everyone else, 'sorry not our type'