Hi All.....this is a bit of a whingey post so please forgive me.....
I feel like I've lost myself amongst all of my problems.....I feel like I have so many problems that I'm drowning in myself, does that make sense?
I don't know how else to explain it.....I have my Nursing Course which is not going very well, my Chatline Work which isn't going very well either, relationships with friends that are going sour and I can't seem to do anything right in my life......
I'm not expecting anyone to do anything about this but I just thought I'd share to see if anyone else feels like this sometimes.....and how to get out of it......
Helen.
I dont know if its the time of year, but Im down too, nothing seems to be going right. Money is tight, but thats just xmas for you, its good to have a moan about every now and then as long as you dont let it take you under.
Hope things get better for you asap.
x
We all have bits in our life that we don't like but thats eerrmmm life. I know that don't help but I try and get round it by putting the crap to one side (or even dropping it all together) every now and then and just do what I want to and makes sure I thoroughly enjoy it. And of course they say talking helps, which is just what you're doing! I hope things improve for you.
I think Pink Bubble is right, the weather is getting to me I know that, and Mrs TnH is more ratty than normal. Nothing is coming together, I ache, I am tired all the time, and I feel lousy. However after much discussion we think the weather has a lot to do with it, mid-winter is a common time for things to look bad, short dull days are not what humans thrive on.
Set your sights on spring, cold but bright. The solstace must be coming soon, then the days getting longer again, and hopefully as the light improves, so will your outlook.
Helen....know just what you mean, kind of getting on with everything but everything seems to have a problem, very often small but still adds to the burden, then you feel like it's all getting a bit too much........ sort of wanna scream fLuck the world and all that, moments of self doubt and stuff ( jeez you can see why I don't do serious)
...eermm just letting you know that it sure as hell isnt just you, I get like it occasionally, doesn't seem like there's enough time or resources to take care of something before another issue raises it's head, most of it work related but then it spills into private life so that the simplist of things like booking a table at a restuarant seem to be just another chore, another problem.....then you feel like your not coping with it as well as you should be.
yep often happens to me but, something always comes along to put things right, chin up cos it normally rights itself in the end......
hugs and blah blah's to you.
It isn't always the great big elephant that will get usby trampling us into the ground, Sometimes it's the wee fluffy bunny rabbits who jump up and punch us in the nose until we are beaten into the ground.
In other words, the accumulation of many smaller setbacks can be more harmful to our sense of well-being, emotional and material security than a major crisis.
I don't mean to be dismissive of anyone who is experiencing great pain in their life , for example anyone who's been bereaved or had a serious health diagnosis or lost a long-term relationship . It's just that with major grief we KNOW the cause of our pain.
But sometimes all the little things just build up. When will it ever stop. And we get the feeling that we can't take anymore; that the next thing will be the straw that breaks the camel's back and break our health or our sanity. And then something else happens. Bloody bunny rabbits.
Although it's easier said than done, it's at times like this that I need do dig that little bit deeper and, hard as it is, focus on what I like in my life; what I like about myself. And to be gentle on myself. Even to pamper myself a wee bit. You know the old saying, "Be good to yourself at least once a day."
And to spread the load a little by sharing it with those I can (still) trust.
And to try to hold on to the knowledge that whatever is going on will pass - even if it doesn't seem like that right now.
But reallly, Helen, it will pass.
I've read many of your posts in the time I've been in SH. You always come across as a deeply caring, sensitive woman. Treat yourself................because you're worth it.
And I hope I haven't sounded too patronising .OMG, please not that !
Hugs,
Riff
Fantastic post Riff Raff. Full of genuine understanding and sound advice.
DreamerHelen I hope you find the new improved you soon.
Cheers
CQ
Hiya Helen
Sorry you feel down , lets face it it happens to all of us from time to time the only thing i can suggest is laughther , so tommorow go down to your local video store and rent Fawlty Towers buy a box of chocolates and laugh and maybe tommorow will be better
Take care , and keep smiling
Andy
I think the run up to Christmas can totally bewildering - especially if you think things are not going to well generally. It can make you panicky on occasions - sorry not saying this is true in your case but generally.
I usually resort to lists. When I've written the list my fear of forgetting something diminishes substantially and then I'll add to the list and then cross off the things I've done. I then feel a lot better. I'm sorry if this is not relevant to your predicament - it just works for me when I feel (I think) a bit like you're feeling.
Thank you everybody.......I have the rest of the week off so I'm going to try and sort myself out a bit and give myself some time just for ME......
I know exactly how you feel Helen, I feel like I'm in a long dark tunnel with no apparent light at the end. Hopefully things will get better, I am sure they will in due course.
stick at it, and all will be alright.
Rick.