Hi All.....this is a bit of a whingey post so please forgive me.....
I feel like I've lost myself amongst all of my problems.....I feel like I have so many problems that I'm drowning in myself, does that make sense?
I don't know how else to explain it.....I have my Nursing Course which is not going very well, my Chatline Work which isn't going very well either, relationships with friends that are going sour and I can't seem to do anything right in my life......
I'm not expecting anyone to do anything about this but I just thought I'd share to see if anyone else feels like this sometimes.....and how to get out of it......
Helen.
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I Feel Like I've Lost Myself
Sexlightened
We all have bits in our life that we don't like but thats eerrmmm life. I know that don't help but I try and get round it by putting the crap to one side (or even dropping it all together) every now and then and just do what I want to and makes sure I thoroughly enjoy it. And of course they say talking helps, which is just what you're doing! I hope things improve for you.
I think Pink Bubble is right, the weather is getting to me I know that, and Mrs TnH is more ratty than normal. Nothing is coming together, I ache, I am tired all the time, and I feel lousy. However after much discussion we think the weather has a lot to do with it, mid-winter is a common time for things to look bad, short dull days are not what humans thrive on.
Set your sights on spring, cold but bright. The solstace must be coming soon, then the days getting longer again, and hopefully as the light improves, so will your outlook.
Set your sights on spring, cold but bright. The solstace must be coming soon, then the days getting longer again, and hopefully as the light improves, so will your outlook.
Helen
Bigs hugs and kisses. In the new year we are planning a girls day/night in London and YOU are definately going to be dragged screaming and kicking if necessary along!!!!!!!!!
:) :) You have lots of people who care about you in here and sometimes you just need reminding of that. Take a few deep breaths, and as aready has been said, make a list of the good things that you can look forward to. The nursing course is the most important thing you are doing for your future so think long term not short term about what that will eventually do for you. This time of year is terrible for playing with ones self confidence. This is a particulary difficult week for me as brings back memories of a year ago...................however, onwards and upwards Helen
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Bigs hugs and kisses. In the new year we are planning a girls day/night in London and YOU are definately going to be dragged screaming and kicking if necessary along!!!!!!!!!
:) :) You have lots of people who care about you in here and sometimes you just need reminding of that. Take a few deep breaths, and as aready has been said, make a list of the good things that you can look forward to. The nursing course is the most important thing you are doing for your future so think long term not short term about what that will eventually do for you. This time of year is terrible for playing with ones self confidence. This is a particulary difficult week for me as brings back memories of a year ago...................however, onwards and upwards HelenLove Corriexxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Sex God
Helen....know just what you mean, kind of getting on with everything but everything seems to have a problem, very often small but still adds to the burden, then you feel like it's all getting a bit too much........ sort of wanna scream fLuck the world and all that, moments of self doubt and stuff ( jeez you can see why I don't do serious)
...eermm just letting you know that it sure as hell isnt just you, I get like it occasionally, doesn't seem like there's enough time or resources to take care of something before another issue raises it's head, most of it work related but then it spills into private life so that the simplist of things like booking a table at a restuarant seem to be just another chore, another problem.....then you feel like your not coping with it as well as you should be.
yep often happens to me but, something always comes along to put things right, chin up cos it normally rights itself in the end......
hugs and blah blah's to you.
...eermm just letting you know that it sure as hell isnt just you, I get like it occasionally, doesn't seem like there's enough time or resources to take care of something before another issue raises it's head, most of it work related but then it spills into private life so that the simplist of things like booking a table at a restuarant seem to be just another chore, another problem.....then you feel like your not coping with it as well as you should be.
yep often happens to me but, something always comes along to put things right, chin up cos it normally rights itself in the end......
hugs and blah blah's to you.
Warming the Bed
HI 's a horrible feeling!Take consolation from the fact that we all care! It will get better ...even quicker if you can change some of the smaller issues that you maybe can and perhaps this would clear your mind a bit to see where you maybeneed help for tjhiings you can't do on your own.I know the old cliches sometimes seem banal but something I really found to be a great practical help : ....Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change The courage to change the things I can And the wisdom to know the difference!!! Iknow that"s abit heavy but think about it it works!!!!! Meantimes stay in touch with troops we're only serious when you want us to be and I'm sure a good laugh would do wonders for you too! Take care WE care!!!!! Paul xxxxxx 
I know exactly how you feel as I feel the same way too at this current time. It's good to read that others are feeling the same way and it's not just me. I find it a tad difficult to keep my spirits up at this time of year and these past few weeks have been no exception. It's all just par for the course during these winter months so I just push on in the knowledge that this will pass and look forward to the new year and the coming of spring. In the meantime there are always people you can talk to here at SH and look forward to meeting at future events.
Take good care of yourself.
LC xxx
Take good care of yourself.
LC xxx
It isn't always the great big elephant that will get usby trampling us into the ground, Sometimes it's the wee fluffy bunny rabbits who jump up and punch us in the nose until we are beaten into the ground.
In other words, the accumulation of many smaller setbacks can be more harmful to our sense of well-being, emotional and material security than a major crisis.
I don't mean to be dismissive of anyone who is experiencing great pain in their life , for example anyone who's been bereaved or had a serious health diagnosis or lost a long-term relationship . It's just that with major grief we KNOW the cause of our pain.
But sometimes all the little things just build up. When will it ever stop. And we get the feeling that we can't take anymore; that the next thing will be the straw that breaks the camel's back and break our health or our sanity. And then something else happens. Bloody bunny rabbits.
Although it's easier said than done, it's at times like this that I need do dig that little bit deeper and, hard as it is, focus on what I like in my life; what I like about myself. And to be gentle on myself. Even to pamper myself a wee bit. You know the old saying, "Be good to yourself at least once a day."
And to spread the load a little by sharing it with those I can (still) trust.
And to try to hold on to the knowledge that whatever is going on will pass - even if it doesn't seem like that right now.
But reallly, Helen, it will pass.
I've read many of your posts in the time I've been in SH. You always come across as a deeply caring, sensitive woman. Treat yourself................because you're worth it.
And I hope I haven't sounded too patronising .OMG, please not that !
Hugs,
Riff
In other words, the accumulation of many smaller setbacks can be more harmful to our sense of well-being, emotional and material security than a major crisis.
I don't mean to be dismissive of anyone who is experiencing great pain in their life , for example anyone who's been bereaved or had a serious health diagnosis or lost a long-term relationship . It's just that with major grief we KNOW the cause of our pain.
But sometimes all the little things just build up. When will it ever stop. And we get the feeling that we can't take anymore; that the next thing will be the straw that breaks the camel's back and break our health or our sanity. And then something else happens. Bloody bunny rabbits.
Although it's easier said than done, it's at times like this that I need do dig that little bit deeper and, hard as it is, focus on what I like in my life; what I like about myself. And to be gentle on myself. Even to pamper myself a wee bit. You know the old saying, "Be good to yourself at least once a day."
And to spread the load a little by sharing it with those I can (still) trust.
And to try to hold on to the knowledge that whatever is going on will pass - even if it doesn't seem like that right now.
But reallly, Helen, it will pass.
I've read many of your posts in the time I've been in SH. You always come across as a deeply caring, sensitive woman. Treat yourself................because you're worth it.
And I hope I haven't sounded too patronising .OMG, please not that !
Hugs,
Riff
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Hi All.....this is a bit of a whingey post so please forgive me.....
I feel like I've lost myself amongst all of my problems.....I feel like I have so many problems that I'm drowning in myself, does that make sense?
I don't know how else to explain it.....I have my Nursing Course which is not going very well, my Chatline Work which isn't going very well either, relationships with friends that are going sour and I can't seem to do anything right in my life......
I'm not expecting anyone to do anything about this but I just thought I'd share to see if anyone else feels like this sometimes.....and how to get out of it......
Helen.
Sounds like a crap time!
Sounds like you aint got enough time to chill out for yourself!!)
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Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change The courage to change the things I can And the wisdom to know the difference!!!
Riff Raff!!!! Couldn't be further from patronising, a wonderful post :kiss:
In fact I can't add to any of these posts at all! (can't believe I'm not only not taking the piss outta Dave, but also totally agree with him :shock: )
Came on here to give you a squeezy hug, to these wonderful posts. Dunno what it's done for you Helen - but it's made me feel a whole lot better I can tell ya :happy:
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In the new year we are planning a girls day/night in London and YOU are definately going to be dragged screaming and kicking if necessary along!!!!!!!!!
Oh I will sooooo be in need of that too! :bounce: :bounce: :bounce: :bounce:
Sorry Helen :lol2: I'm hogging all your posts here
Just a lovely thread 
:therethere: for you :kiss:
Hiya Helen
Sorry you feel down , lets face it it happens to all of us from time to time the only thing i can suggest is laughther , so tommorow go down to your local video store and rent Fawlty Towers buy a box of chocolates and laugh and maybe tommorow will be better
Take care , and keep smiling
Andy
Sorry you feel down , lets face it it happens to all of us from time to time the only thing i can suggest is laughther , so tommorow go down to your local video store and rent Fawlty Towers buy a box of chocolates and laugh and maybe tommorow will be better
Take care , and keep smiling
Andy
Sex God
I think the run up to Christmas can totally bewildering - especially if you think things are not going to well generally. It can make you panicky on occasions - sorry not saying this is true in your case but generally.
I usually resort to lists. When I've written the list my fear of forgetting something diminishes substantially and then I'll add to the list and then cross off the things I've done. I then feel a lot better. I'm sorry if this is not relevant to your predicament - it just works for me when I feel (I think) a bit like you're feeling.
I usually resort to lists. When I've written the list my fear of forgetting something diminishes substantially and then I'll add to the list and then cross off the things I've done. I then feel a lot better. I'm sorry if this is not relevant to your predicament - it just works for me when I feel (I think) a bit like you're feeling.
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It isn't always the great big elephant that will get usby trampling us into the ground, Sometimes it's the wee fluffy bunny rabbits who jump up and punch us in the nose until we are beaten into the ground.
In other words, the accumulation of many smaller setbacks can be more harmful to our sense of well-being, emotional and material security than a major crisis.
Well said Riff Raff. Helen you have my sympathy, because I have often experienced the feeling of being overwhelmed by things in my life.
I find it helps to try & focus on prioritising things into those that can be sorted out fairly easily, & those that will take more time/effort. Then tackle the easier things & get them out of the way, by which time the tougher problems don't seem half so bad.
But chin up, things will improve, & lots of :therethere: :therethere: until they do.