I have a Problem (woman related)

22 Apr 2006

OK this problem is my own fault, but! >>>>>>>read on
Works xmas party 2004, having great time, about 12 people out enjoying ourselves, me my work mats, chris and helen go on to clubs. Now me tanked up with booze and I mean I was slaughtered and tried to snog helen (30 yrs old) redface

(I cringe thinking about it as it was out of order). I apologised but she is stubborn and quite rightly so. We had to go to birmingham together in january this year and I thought now is my chance to get friendly (and i don't mean touchy touchy friendly), we had a laugh, had a couple of meals on the works cash. Get back from birmingham thinking great at least I can try and talk to her. So I tried conversation a few days later and she was very abrupt, ok I get the hint and haven't tried since, only talk work related, very little.
Now I have joined a gym and guess what she is also a member there, just went into the gym onto the cross trainer and started to work out, now she was on the treadmill in front of me (I wasn't go to talk to her), she gets off the treadmill and basically storms out. Now I feel pretty bad, but should I?
What i done was wrong, but that was 18 months ago.
Any advice?
should i approach her and try and go seperate times to her to the gym, don't bother and carry on going, personally I think she should grow up, what do you think confused

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I do feel bad but 18 moths rolleyes

22 Apr 2006

I think maybe you should just go up to her and say I apologise for my stupid behaviour 18months ago, I regret it and it wont happen again. Then just walk away and see what happens..
Then at least you know you have apologised (better late than never) and if she blanks you, there is nothing more you can do dunno

22 Apr 2006

OR.....
You could go on the cross trainer in front of her and let out a loud rasping fart...
An ice breaker if ever there was one...
bolt

22 Apr 2006

I can take him anywhere but out :lol2:

22 Apr 2006

Quote by Shireen_Mids
I think maybe you should just go up to her and say I apologise for my stupid behaviour 18months ago, I regret it and it wont happen again. Then just walk away and see what happens..
Then at least you know you have apologised (better late than never) and if she blanks you, there is nothing more you can do

Here, here - don't do anything that fuels an issue that is 18 months old.. Your behaviour was wrong but you seem to realise that and all you can do is apologise. If she chooses not to accept your apology then that's the end of it as far as you are concerned so move on. Don't modify your own behaviour, gym times etc etc as that in itself will continue to 'fuel' the issue.
Oh, and definately DON'T ask her about cock size, how long for sex etc etc either wink

That won't help lol

22 Apr 2006

Ask yourself this, do you honestly beleive that this woman has never done anything in her entire life that she's regretted later?
I think not, tell her to get a live and move on.

22 Apr 2006

Best thing to do is leave it... My guess you could be close to being hauled into human resources to answer a few code of conduct issues?
If you think that might happen then it might be an idea to get your views down on record with your boss...?
dunno

22 Apr 2006

Nah nothing will go further, I will pull her to one side (when i think she in a good mood) and apologise, thats it then.
Pete your right you know. biggrin

feel a bit better now smile

22 Apr 2006

Quote by Steve_Mids
OR.....
You could go on the cross trainer in front of her and let out a loud rasping fart...
An ice breaker if ever there was one...

:giggle: :giggle: :giggle: :giggle: :giggle: :giggle:
coffee all over the monitor now thanx steve!!!!
glad im not the only one with that sense of humour!!!! lol

:lol: :lol:

22 Apr 2006

Quote by redpantherman
Best thing to do is leave it... My guess you could be close to being hauled into human resources to answer a few code of conduct issues?
If you think that might happen then it might be an idea to get your views down on record with your boss...?

I'd agree with this ... with all the political correctness and 'dignity at work' bollox, it's all too easy these days to find yourself hauled in front of HR and having to defend yourself over some imagined act of wrong doing.
I'd steer clear and keep things 'civil and professional' on the occassions you see her as I take it your jobs mean a certain level of interaction that can't be avoided.

22 Apr 2006

Oooo rubbish, what do HR know? Try and slip her one at work behind the photo copier I say rotflmao

22 Apr 2006

But you have broken the cardinal rule, NEVER mix business with pleasure !
Best thing to do, forget everything ! it was 18 months ago ... and pray that she never becomes your boss !

22 Apr 2006

Quote by Bloke2005
Oooo rubbish, what do HR know? Try and slip her one at work behind the photo copier I say

Doesn't matter these days - it's all about covering the comapnies arse from litigation - if someone makes an accusation, regardless of what it is, they have to be seen to be acting ... it's all a kangaroo court and total bollox but not so funny when it happens to you.
Happened to me once, nothing sexual, no bullying or any nastiness from me but the bitch in question took offence over a joke and rather than say anything to me about it, she went to HR !!! All I can say is, what complete and utter bollox the process was and is!
The thing that really pissed me off? She threw a house party a few weeks beforehand and I was literally the ONLY person to show up to it!!!

22 Apr 2006

If you're determind to tell her your side of things then write her a letter/email and say you won't be bothering her in the future but you wanted to apologise all the same

22 Apr 2006

Quote by Sassy-Seren
If you're determind to tell her your side of things then write her a letter/email and say you won't be bothering her in the future but you wanted to apologise all the same

Sort of like signing your own death warrant ? lol

22 Apr 2006

Quote by J3diMast3r
Oooo rubbish, what do HR know? Try and slip her one at work behind the photo copier I say

Doesn't matter these days - it's all about covering the comapnies arse from litigation - if someone makes an accusation, regardless of what it is, they have to be seen to be acting ... it's all a kangaroo court and total bollox but not so funny when it happens to you.
Happened to me once, nothing sexual, no bullying or any nastiness from me but the bitch in question took offence and rather than say anything to me about it, she went to HR !!! All I can say is, what complete and utter bollox the process was and is!
The thing that really pissed me off? She threw a house party a few weeks beforehand and I was literally the ONLY person to show up to it!!!
Yes, I see what you mean - I actually used to be in HR and whilst there's some good reasons for some of the protection, there's some real witch hunts and bollox goes around too... biggrin

22 Apr 2006

Quote by peenut
If you're determind to tell her your side of things then write her a letter/email and say you won't be bothering her in the future but you wanted to apologise all the same

Sort of like signing your own death warrent ? lol

No it means he's out of arms reach if she feels like twatting him :giggle:

22 Apr 2006

:giggle: :giggle: :giggle: :laughabove: :laughabove: :laughabove:

22 Apr 2006

Quote by Sassy-Seren
If you're determind to tell her your side of things then write her a letter/email and say you won't be bothering her in the future but you wanted to apologise all the same

Sort of like signing your own death warrent ? lol

No it means he's out of arms reach if she feels like twatting him :giggle:
rotflmao

! Now how does it go with ladies? Anything I say will be taken down ,completely twisted around and used in evidence against me ( when I least expect it ) at a later date. I have the right to remain silent.........

22 Apr 2006

I'm not entirely sure that you are not taking the piss out of us. But..................................

Quote by m1970
Nah nothing will go further, I will pull her to one side (when i think she in a good mood) and apologise, ...............................

NO NO NO ! ! ! !
With the information we have, this is what I'd be tempted to do.
A letter, rather than email. Preferably hand written if you're handwriting is easily readable.

Helen,
Last year after the Company Xmas party, I acted very much out of character, inappropriately and unprofessionally.
Actions I totally regret.
I have struggled to find a way to apologise to you for my behaviour and settled on this letter.
I feel that bumping into each other is inevitable, we need to interact at work, and I would dearly love for us to be at least civil to each other in those circumstances and for you to be able to tolerate being in my company; both at work, and were we to bump into each other outside work.
Helen, I apologise unreservedly, sincerely, and without condition and hope we can move on from this.
Thank you for taking the time to read my words.
m1970

I might even be tempted to copy in someone I trusted and/or the personnel/your union ( I know - I'm a dinosaur) department.
OR...........................................
Shag her ON the photo-copier :twisted:

22 Apr 2006

Cardinal rule number two...NEVER admit liability !

22 Apr 2006

Quote by dambuster
...OR...........................................
Shag her ON the photo-copier :twisted:

Quote by peenut
Cardinal rule number two...NEVER admit liability !

& make sure the photo copier is on for evidence if it should be needed :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:

22 Apr 2006

Its unfortunate that the initial incident happened. She was obviously offended and won't let you forget it. That's her choice and a bit awkward for you. We've all plonkered ourselves in one way or another.
What you need to do is try and get over it yourself. Once you no longer feel guilty etc. you'll be able to deal with her more confidently and she may be more likely to change as well.
So sort yourself out before trying to 'sort' her out.

22 Apr 2006

Quote by dambuster
Shag her ON the photo-copier :twisted:

just when I thought Dammie was coming up with a sensible answer. :doh: I KNEW it was too good to be true ffs !

22 Apr 2006

Quote by Sassy-Seren

Shag her ON the photo-copier :twisted:

just when I thought Dammie was coming up with a sensible answer. :doh: I KNEW it was too good to be true ffs ! Oi you... Get orf SH &

go :smackbottom: to :smackbottom: work :smackbottom:

22 Apr 2006

Quote by redpantherman

Shag her ON the photo-copier :twisted:

just when I thought Dammie was coming up with a sensible answer. :doh: I KNEW it was too good to be true ffs ! Oi you... Get orf SH &

go :smackbottom: to :smackbottom: work :smackbottom:
Don't start til 11 tonight so flipa

22 Apr 2006

Quote by Sassy-Seren

Shag her ON the photo-copier :twisted:

just when I thought Dammie was coming up with a sensible answer. :doh: I KNEW it was too good to be true ffs ! Oi you... Get orf SH &

go :smackbottom: to :smackbottom: work :smackbottom:
Don't start til 11 tonight so flipa

oooohhh... hang on... I'll bend over so you can take my temp' :twisted:

22 Apr 2006

m1970........
Something isn't right with you matey...... not sure what it is but from the sounds of things you have a problem with women.. This one in this post obviously doesn't like you... your wife doesn't sleep with you...... Mmmmm Ever thought its maybe you with the problem??
Might be wrong buddy but you seem just a tad self assured for most! Or your taking the pis* out of us?? This isn't the place to look for quick shags anyway.... try the 'lets meet up' bit and like you said tidy up your ad.
Mike

22 Apr 2006

Quote by m1970
OK this problem is my own fault, but! >>>>>>>read on
Works xmas party 2004, having great time, about 12 people out enjoying ourselves, me my work mats, chris and helen go on to clubs. Now me tanked up with booze and I mean I was slaughtered and tried to snog helen (30 yrs old) (I cringe thinking about it as it was out of order). I apologised but she is stubborn and quite rightly so. We had to go to birmingham together in january this year and I thought now is my chance to get friendly (and i don't mean touchy touchy friendly), we had a laugh, had a couple of meals on the works cash. Get back from birmingham thinking great at least I can try and talk to her. So I tried conversation a few days later and she was very abrupt, ok I get the hint and haven't tried since, only talk work related, very little.
Now I have joined a gym and guess what she is also a member there, just went into the gym onto the cross trainer and started to work out, now she was on the treadmill in front of me (I wasn't go to talk to her), she gets off the treadmill and basically storms out. Now I feel pretty bad, but should I?
What i done was wrong, but that was 18 months ago.
Any advice?
should i approach her and try and go seperate times to her to the gym, don't bother and carry on going, personally I think she should grow up, what do you think :
I do feel bad but 18 moths

don`t think u have a problem!!!!!!! biggrin

be thankful you`re not married to her!!!!!!!! :twisted:

22 Apr 2006

Quote by mdr2000
m1970........
Something isn't right with you matey...... not sure what it is but from the sounds of things you have a problem with women.. This one in this post obviously doesn't like you... your wife doesn't sleep with you...... Mmmmm Ever thought its maybe you with the problem??
Might be wrong buddy but you seem just a tad self assured for most! Or your taking the pis* out of us?? This isn't the place to look for quick shags anyway.... try the 'lets meet up' bit and like you said tidy up your ad.
Mike

I knew I would get a knee jerk reaction, it does sound like i am a complete tosser, but you have come to the wrong conclusuion, my wife does not and never will like sex, understand. And yes I was a complete twat with this girl, but as others have said, everyone will make a complete tvvat of themselves at some point.
twos_company
Could you imagine!