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Quote by firelizard
Personally speaking (and Stormy and I differ on this blink OMG!! does that mean divorce lol)

can we make babies now then..... rolleyes
Quote by splendid_
'same level' that would suggest that you are judging person B and classing yourself as above them.
That goes against what I believe in that disliking person B just makes me dislike them. It doesn't make me better than them. Different maybe, better looking cool perhaps. Definitely not better. (or worse)
Perhaps that is why it doesn't matter to me. confused:

No I didn't. Person B may have personality traits which differ from mine and which I don't like - that wouldn't be me thinking myself better than them, just different.
H.x
Quote by splendid_
Ffs!! I can't leave Stormy alone with a keyboard for 5 minutes can I ?
Personally speaking (and Stormy and I differ on this blink OMG!! does that mean divorce lol) If I want to have sex with someone and they have sex with or like someone that I intensely dislike it wouldn't cause me a problem as I am having sex with the person I like not the one I dislike. However if the person I disliked had done something that I found unforgiveable (especially if it was sex related) that would put me off. Also if the person I disliked were not taking care of themselves hygenically speaking that would put me off having sex with someone who was in intimate contact with them.
Obviously all this relies on me actually knowing that intimate relations were going on in the first place which is highly unlikely in here. So if we are talking purely a dislike because of posting style and perceptions then no it would not be a problem to me.
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Fire x

This is about me and wor lass isn't it ?? rolleyes
Yup, just can't see what wor-lass sees in you....
well ok then, I can...:rose:
There is an old saying
Everyone is judge by their friends.

I have to agree. If someone I like is hanging out with a real piece of sh*t, then yes I would take another look at my friend. That would not hold true if I just did not like person B.
Travis
Forgive me if I’ve missed the point here, not slept for days so easily confused (more so than usual anyway)
If I am playing with Millie, who I fancy like hell and get on really well with, and she tells me that she is playing with Molly who in my opinion is a detestable cow, would it stop me playing with her, and send me running into Mandy’s arms, that’s the question right?
The complicated answer is yes, not because it would make me feel that I have failed in summing Millie up, or misjudged her character, but simply because she told me in the first place, talking about who I / we play with to a third party is a very strict for me.
However, if I found out by some other means, no it would make no difference to me what so ever, after all who am I to even have a requirement, unspoken or otherwise, to expect a swing buddy not to play with someone just because I don’t like that person? dunno
Now should this question pertain to a permanent relationship partner, that’s a whole new can of swirms, I would expect my partner to respect my point of view, even if I couldn’t explain the reasons fully, and would of course respect her wishes about who I play or don’t play with.
Ffs I’m more confused now than when I started, nice one Stormy rolleyes of to find the Nurophen <sp>
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Quote by H-x
'same level' that would suggest that you are judging person B and classing yourself as above them.
That goes against what I believe in that disliking person B just makes me dislike them. It doesn't make me better than them. Different maybe, better looking cool perhaps. Definitely not better. (or worse)
Perhaps that is why it doesn't matter to me. confused:

No I didn't. Person B may have personality traits which differ from mine and which I don't like - that wouldn't be me thinking myself better than them, just different.
H.x
I was saying that Stormy had used the term 'same level' not you.
In answer No
How a person conducts themselves in my company is what I use to make any judgements I may have to make..
Who they socialise/meet/play with is none of my business and wouldnt affect my choice at all...
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In answer No
How a person conducts themselves in my company is what I use to make any judgements I may have to make..
But do you not also judge how people conduct themselves when not in your company; do you not also judge them on how they conduct themselves with others?
“Bill is a great bloke always gets me a pint in the pub, salt of the earth…The fact that he beats his wife is not my concern because he does not do it in my company”
Who they socialise/meet/play with is none of my business and wouldnt affect my choice at all...

Agreed to the highlighted(red) part, but it would affect my choice dramatically.
Simple example, Sexy sally is a stunner, she ticks all my boxes, but has expressed extreme racist views I’m unhappy with, I would not meet her. Sexy Mindy also a stunner, flirts outrageously with Sally and never comments on Sally’s views. I do not know, but suspect Sally and Mindy meet. Would I meet Mindy? By not commenting on Sally’s views is Mindy condoning them or perhaps more likely ignoring them for the sake of a shag, and if that is the case what does that say about her..and me if I choose to meet her?
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Who they socialise/meet/play with is none of my business and wouldnt affect my choice at all...

Agreed to the highlighted(red) part, but it would affect my choice dramatically.
Simple example, Sexy sally is a stunner, she ticks all my boxes, but has expressed extreme racist views I’m unhappy with, I would not meet her. Sexy Mindy also a stunner, flirts outrageously with Sally and never comments on Sally’s views. I do not know, but suspect Sally and Mindy meet. Would I meet Mindy? By not commenting on Sally’s views is Mindy condoning them or perhaps more likely ignoring them for the sake of a shag, and if that is the case what does that say about her..and me if I choose to meet her?
oh gosh... now you put it like that.
No, I wouldn't meet either of them. I would also say why not, not that I am normally outspoken about bigotry you understand rolleyes .. but just so everyone is clear. It wouldn't be because it would say anything about me. it would be because I think that any challenge to behaviour that is offensive, however small t hat challenge, is a good stand and will perhaps make a difference to how people view the world.
splendid
Erm, I am a bit confused on this one. rolleyes Part of me thinks that if feelings are getting involved then its become heavy and not fun. :cry:
But then the other part of me says if the reason why I didnt like 'B' was because of personal hygiene issues or something along those lines then, No I wouldnt want to play With 'A' even if I liked them.
But if it was just cus 'B' was a different sort of swinger to us or had different ideas then, no its not up to us to try and instil our feelings onto others. Everyone has a opinion and is entitled to it.