I have a question.
We all know that there are people we like, either from their posting style, or from the chatrooms or have met at socials and munches, and maybe even intimately.
We also know that there are people we don’t like, that fall within the above categories.
Let’s call them people (A), people we do like, and people (B), people we don’t like.
Would you be put off meeting or becoming involved with people (A) if you knew, suspected or believed, that they (A) were meeting or involved with (B)?
In other words, is the fact that someone you like is having sex with someone you hate, enough to put you off?
I know its none of my business what anyone does, and I have no right to ask or question someone else’s choices, but I think it would matter to me, and I’m not wholly sure how I feel about that.
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I have a question.
i have lots of questions to 
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its ok stormy i aint having sex with no one so u cant be put off by anyone stop making excuises
suppose it depends on the hate factor of B wether i would get involved with A
but what happens when C gets involved :twisted:
ok dont go there its just a little to confusing
but would depend why i dont like then as to what would put me off
If B had upset me loads then it is not As fault If A joined in with this upsetting then A is at fault to
oh im confusing myself now :shock:
: :?: :?: :?: :?: :?: :?: :?: :?: :twisted: its ok stormy i aint having sex with no one so u cant be put off by anyone stop making excuises
suppose it depends on the hate factor of B wether i would get involved with A
but what happens when C gets involved :twisted:
ok dont go there its just a little to confusing
but would depend why i dont like then as to what would put me off
If B had upset me loads then it is not As fault If A joined in with this upsetting then A is at fault to
oh im confusing myself now :shock:
I think it would depend on whether you were seeing this person (A) regularly or if it were just a one off meet. For a regular partner I think it would effect how I felt about them, it's rare for me to take a dislike to someone but when I do it's for a reason. It shouldn't effect me, it would be none of my business but I think it's only human nature that it would.
If person B has upset me but done nothing to person A it's awkward because feel torn between wanting to be fair but wanting some support.
I've now thoroughly confused myself thinking about person B a doing X to person U but not to person A.
H.x
If person B has upset me but done nothing to person A it's awkward because feel torn between wanting to be fair but wanting some support.
I've now thoroughly confused myself thinking about person B a doing X to person U but not to person A.
H.x
Sex God
I think it would depend on why we don't like them really. If it's just not getting on/not liking their posting style, then it shouldn't matter. If it's because of something they've done then it might - I think that might depend on whether you think they will talk about you, or what they have done.
For me, it would make a difference if it was a regular playmate, but then I don't think I'd like someone else telling me not to meet someone because they dislike them. I wouldn't ever put anyone in the position of 'if you play with them, I won't play with you'.
Hate is a very strong word - I can't think of anyone I hate.
For me, it would make a difference if it was a regular playmate, but then I don't think I'd like someone else telling me not to meet someone because they dislike them. I wouldn't ever put anyone in the position of 'if you play with them, I won't play with you'.
Hate is a very strong word - I can't think of anyone I hate.
Sex God
I can't think of anyone I hate so it doesn't really apply to me I guess, but ultimately it wouldn't make any difference to me.
I believe in chemistry between people so as long as I got on with the people I like, I don't think I have the right to tell anyone who they should get on with, even if I hated those people.
Besides there are probably a lot of people who hate me, so I'd hate it if they stopped others from getting on with me because of their personal hatred.
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I believe in chemistry between people so as long as I got on with the people I like, I don't think I have the right to tell anyone who they should get on with, even if I hated those people.
Besides there are probably a lot of people who hate me, so I'd hate it if they stopped others from getting on with me because of their personal hatred.
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I think it would depend on why we don't like them really. If it's just not getting on/not liking their posting style, then it shouldn't matter. If it's because of something they've done then it might - I think that might depend on whether you think they will talk about you, or what they have done.
I think that is what I would have said
My biggest worry would be A talking to B and I would need to know for sure A was meeting for the right reasons :?
Ok hate was probably the wrong word to use, dislike would have been better. If you disliked someone because of things you had seen in their posts or had witnessed, would that make a difference?...
I suppose the thing I’m getting at is, on some level I would be disappointed if someone I liked, liked someone I disliked …..I would feel as if I had somehow failed to read the first person correctly ……I have things on the cooker, so will get back to this later……disregard hate, and substitute dislike……
I suppose the thing I’m getting at is, on some level I would be disappointed if someone I liked, liked someone I disliked …..I would feel as if I had somehow failed to read the first person correctly ……I have things on the cooker, so will get back to this later……disregard hate, and substitute dislike……
Sex God
Sorry Stormy, I wasn't picking you up on that - just saying I don't hate anyone that's all. 
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I can't think of anyone I hate so it doesn't really apply to me I guess, but ultimately it wouldn't make any difference to me.
I believe in chemistry between people so as long as I got on with the people I like, I don't think I have the right to tell anyone who they should get on with, even if I hated those people.
Besides there are probably a lot of people who hate me, so I'd hate it if they stopped others from getting on with me because of their personal hatred.
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yeah.i think im with you on this.............
I was surprised to find that someone I like very much as a person on here, is very good friends with someone I really do not like. :shock:
But the conclusion I drew, was that the person I DON'T like, must show a different side of themselves to my mate.
I don't intend playing with either of them, so maybe it's not exactly the same scenario.
But the conclusion I drew, was that the person I DON'T like, must show a different side of themselves to my mate.
I don't intend playing with either of them, so maybe it's not exactly the same scenario.
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I was surprised to find that someone I like very much as a person on here, is very good friends with someone I really do not like. :shock:
But the conclusion I drew, was that the person I DON'T like, must show a different side of themselves to my mate.
I don't intend playing with either of them, so maybe it's not exactly the same scenario.
In my other life not the swinging one my best friend is also very good mates with someone who i really do not like hate is prob to strong but there is definately no love lost and i figure she to must show another side to my mate that i just dont see :shock: i generally like all though and people have to hurt me a couple of times before i give up and say enough is enough
Just a quick clarification, I’m not worried about what the two people may discuss, if they talked about me so be it.
It’s more a feeling that I would have failed somehow or perhaps that they would somehow have let me down by liking someone I dislike.
Not making much sense today am I, that’s what happens when I’m left to my own devices for the day…snafu.
I know you didn’t fluffy one….
It’s more a feeling that I would have failed somehow or perhaps that they would somehow have let me down by liking someone I dislike.
Not making much sense today am I, that’s what happens when I’m left to my own devices for the day…snafu.
I know you didn’t fluffy one….
I know what you mean, in the same way that everyone thinks they have good taste, if you dislike something because you think it's tacky and someone you thought had good taste likes it, it makes you wonder how well you know them. I find it makes me doubt my judgement rather than theirs though.
H.x
H.x
Sex God
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Just a quick clarification, I’m not worried about what the two people may discuss, if they talked about me so be it.
It’s more a feeling that I would have failed somehow or perhaps that they would somehow have let me down by liking someone I dislike.
Not making much sense today am I, that’s what happens when I’m left to my own devices for the day…snafu.
I know you didn’t fluffy one….
I can see what you mean, but I wouldn't think of it as a failure on my part - just that another person sees someone differently from me. Even best mates have to agree to disagree about some things, don't they? It can be applied to other friends as much as it can apply to, say, taste in music or books.
I couldn't actually care less... I am not committing to person A or B.
I would be intrigued as to how my view of Person B has developed if I really admire person A's opinion as B must be a different person around A. But I would watch from afar and be fascinated (as I always am) by people and their behaviours.
splendid
I would be intrigued as to how my view of Person B has developed if I really admire person A's opinion as B must be a different person around A. But I would watch from afar and be fascinated (as I always am) by people and their behaviours.
splendid
Sexlightened
I don't give a fig who likes who and who doesn't like who. I never discuss the people I have met with others.
Sexlightened
Then you probably will never know if category A is having sex with category B so it doesn't really matter. Life is too short for such worries, just enjoy it.
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I couldn't actually care less... I am not committing to person A or B.
I would be intrigued as to how my view of Person B has developed if I really admire person A's opinion as B must be a different person around A. But I would watch from afar and be fascinated (as I always am) by people and their behaviours.
splendid
Not necessarily a different person, I have seen things in people Fire has missed and vice versa. It may simply be that A has not seen the things in B that you dislike.
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I know what you mean, in the same way that everyone thinks they have good taste, if you dislike something because you think it's tacky and someone you thought had good taste likes it, it makes you wonder how well you know them. I find it makes me doubt my judgement rather than theirs though.
H.x
Thats it I guess with the added complication that if A liked me back, I would then feel worse knowing that I was in the eyes of A at lest, on the same level as B……
Has anyone worked out how much fuel this train is using btw...once past point g...and on an uphill run?
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I couldn't actually care less... I am not committing to person A or B.
I would be intrigued as to how my view of Person B has developed if I really admire person A's opinion as B must be a different person around A. But I would watch from afar and be fascinated (as I always am) by people and their behaviours.
splendid
Not necessarily a different person, I have seen things in people Fire has missed and vice versa. It may simply be that A has not seen the things in B that you dislike.
I can't do the multi-quote thingiemebob (bone idle me)
mmm I generalised and I do see your point that it could be a facet of their personality that I saw and person A didn't I understand that. But I still wouldn't care.
In a response to H-x you said 'same level' that would suggest that you are judging person B and classing yourself as above them.
That goes against what I believe in that disliking person B just makes me dislike them. It doesn't make me better than them. Different maybe, better looking
perhaps. Definitely not better. (or worse)Perhaps that is why it doesn't matter to me.
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Sex God
It would definately matter. Shallow it maybe. I would definately stay away in the A does B thing.
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I have a question.
We all know that there are people we like, either from their posting style, or from the chatrooms or have met at socials and munches, and maybe even intimately.
We also know that there are people we don’t like, that fall within the above categories.
Let’s call them people (A), people we do like, and people (B), people we don’t like.
Would you be put off meeting or becoming involved with people (A) if you knew, suspected or believed, that they (A) were meeting or involved with (B)?
In other words, is the fact that someone you like is having sex with someone you hate, enough to put you off?
I know its none of my business what anyone does, and I have no right to ask or question someone else’s choices, but I think it would matter to me, and I’m not wholly sure how I feel about that.
Lol... I'm trying to get my head round this too...
Ok... I see it as this, could we have sex with someone we didn't like?? Answer No lol.. Not even if I fancied the pants of them.. I'd rather like them than fancy them.. honest lol..
Ahhh I see.... Oooerrr good question.. so If I liked someone who was seeing someone I didn't like would I still want to see them?
Err... yeah suppose so .. So long as didn't mention the nasty ugly arsed gits to me lol.. No, we all see things differently after all.. I can't judge someone for who THEY like..
Is that it??
Mike
Sex God
I suppose it depends on wether all were expected to play together. In that case if someone felt they really couldnt stand me then I would stay out of it.
Personally, I dont dislike anyone but if I actually came across someone I didnt like and someone I intended or was already playing with, was 'doing the do'with that person then I dont think its for me to say who can play with whom. If its a case of, never the twain shall meet, I cant see the problem.
Sorry did that make sense? Ive had a very long day
Personally, I dont dislike anyone but if I actually came across someone I didnt like and someone I intended or was already playing with, was 'doing the do'with that person then I dont think its for me to say who can play with whom. If its a case of, never the twain shall meet, I cant see the problem.
Sorry did that make sense? Ive had a very long day
Sex God
Ffs!! I can't leave Stormy alone with a keyboard for 5 minutes can I ?
Personally speaking (and Stormy and I differ on this
OMG!! does that mean divorce 
) If I want to have sex with someone and they have sex with or like someone that I intensely dislike it wouldn't cause me a problem as I am having sex with the person I like not the one I dislike. However if the person I disliked had done something that I found unforgiveable (especially if it was sex related) that would put me off. Also if the person I disliked were not taking care of themselves hygenically speaking that would put me off having sex with someone who was in intimate contact with them.
Obviously all this relies on me actually knowing that intimate relations were going on in the first place which is highly unlikely in here. So if we are talking purely a dislike because of posting style and perceptions then no it would not be a problem to me.
Love
Fire x
Personally speaking (and Stormy and I differ on this
OMG!! does that mean divorce ) If I want to have sex with someone and they have sex with or like someone that I intensely dislike it wouldn't cause me a problem as I am having sex with the person I like not the one I dislike. However if the person I disliked had done something that I found unforgiveable (especially if it was sex related) that would put me off. Also if the person I disliked were not taking care of themselves hygenically speaking that would put me off having sex with someone who was in intimate contact with them. Obviously all this relies on me actually knowing that intimate relations were going on in the first place which is highly unlikely in here. So if we are talking purely a dislike because of posting style and perceptions then no it would not be a problem to me.
Love
Fire x
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Ffs!! I can't leave Stormy alone with a keyboard for 5 minutes can I ?
Personally speaking (and Stormy and I differ on this
Obviously all this relies on me actually knowing that intimate relations were going on in the first place which is highly unlikely in here. So if we are talking purely a dislike because of posting style and perceptions then no it would not be a problem to me.
Love
Fire x
This is about me and wor lass isn't it ??
