Hi everyone, could do with some advice. Have been introduced to this site by bbw-lover, and has said good things about it!
If I tell you a little about myself, I was married to the same man for 20 years, and bless him didn't want to try anything new. I had to suppress my feelings until he passed away three years ago. I have recently met someone who has encouraged me to explore the feelings that I have. I have always been bi curious, and have had women come on to me in the past, but have been too frightened to do anything about it! And, I suppose, I was TOO married.
The thing is, I still have these feelings, and don't don't whether I have the guts to act on them. I guess its the fear of the unknown, and being frightened of getting into something I can't get out of. I won't lead anyone on - I am always honest with people, ask bbw-lover!
I would really appreciate any advice on this - there must be a number of ladies out there who feel like me. Anyway, hope I get some responses as I am in a real dilemma and feeling very very nervous! :smile2:
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Hiya Kitty,
why not get yourself to some social events where you can meet some likeminded ladies- and see if you develop a mutual attraction with someone? If the chemistrys there, things should develop a little more naturally.
I'd advise against going to a club if you're on your own & really nervous- it could easily be too much too soon.
Good luck! :thumbup:
why not get yourself to some social events where you can meet some likeminded ladies- and see if you develop a mutual attraction with someone? If the chemistrys there, things should develop a little more naturally.
I'd advise against going to a club if you're on your own & really nervous- it could easily be too much too soon.
Good luck! :thumbup:
Sex God
hi and welcom to the site ..... good luck in what you are searching for and the advice i give is take it easy ... take it slow .... take it at your pace dont let others push you into what your not ready for and if you need accompaning to an event or a club or whatever give me a shout and will look out for each other xxx
Sex God
Hiya Misskitty_2008 
:kiss::kiss:
It's great to see you on the site at last.
Very good thread and you've had some great responses already.
I told you there were some really nice people on here.
:kiss::kiss:It's great to see you on the site at last.
Very good thread and you've had some great responses already.
I told you there were some really nice people on here.
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Thanks for all the help so far.. and for the PM's! Will keep in touch with you all.
Just a quick question... how do you put the comments at the bottom of your posts? I'd like to add one to the bottom of mine...
Go to My Settings on the right then click forum at the top of the page. You can add something to your sig in there
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Thanks for all the help so far.. and for the PM's! Will keep in touch with you all.
Just a quick question... how do you put the comments at the bottom of your posts? I'd like to add one to the bottom of mine...
Go to My Settings on the right then click forum at the top of the page. You can add something to your sig in there
Think I have sussed it... hope it appears on my next post!!!!!
Sex God
Hi welcome to Forum and the site 
I really hope you get the fun and rewards your looking for. You have some great advice already. Wishing you the best. Hope to say hi sometime if we see you in the chatrooms :thumbup:
I really hope you get the fun and rewards your looking for. You have some great advice already. Wishing you the best. Hope to say hi sometime if we see you in the chatrooms :thumbup: 
Sex God
Hi and welcome
Join in the fun of the various parts of the site and see what happens.
Get to some social events that are in lets meet up, and I agree about the club bit, I would suggest you give it some more time before to head off to a club on your own.
This is on in your area and might be for interest to you.
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/253611.html
Join in the fun of the various parts of the site and see what happens.
Get to some social events that are in lets meet up, and I agree about the club bit, I would suggest you give it some more time before to head off to a club on your own.
This is on in your area and might be for interest to you.
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/253611.html
Orgasminator
Welcome, most of the people here are very helpful and caring and before you know it you will have a lot of new friends! 
hi and welcome,
think your not that far removed to how most newbies felt when joining, except youve been brave and admitted it lol
the profiles nice, i understand why you say your weary of people who dont have pics in profile, but many people who are lovely dont have pics up.
i dont have face pic, as this is considered non explicit and therefore would go in the public gallery that non memebrs can view.
rather have my moomoo in there as ppl at work wont recognise me from that, ok only a few would lol
alot of people use web cam, social etc to prove who they are.
take care, be safe, follow good advise and your gut instincts.
xxxx fem xxx
think your not that far removed to how most newbies felt when joining, except youve been brave and admitted it lol
the profiles nice, i understand why you say your weary of people who dont have pics in profile, but many people who are lovely dont have pics up.
i dont have face pic, as this is considered non explicit and therefore would go in the public gallery that non memebrs can view.
rather have my moomoo in there as ppl at work wont recognise me from that, ok only a few would lol
alot of people use web cam, social etc to prove who they are.
take care, be safe, follow good advise and your gut instincts.
xxxx fem xxx
Sex God
Hi Kitty and :welcome:
Dont listen to this lot they are all as mad as hatters! :giggle:
Seriously, you will find some lovely, genuine people here as Im sure bbw_lover will have told you already. Stick with his advice and you wont go far wrong. Hes a real gentleman.
Iv just looked at your profile and noticed it says you are wary of people who dont have photo's on theirs. Can I just say, please dont be. Lots of people, for lots of different reasons, cant put face photos on profiles and some, like myself, dont trust the private gallery either. Im sure you will find as you go along, people will be only too happy to show their mugshots when they get to know you.
Cant really offer any more advice than has already been given.
Hope you enjoy the site and have lots of fun.
Dont listen to this lot they are all as mad as hatters! :giggle:
Seriously, you will find some lovely, genuine people here as Im sure bbw_lover will have told you already. Stick with his advice and you wont go far wrong. Hes a real gentleman.
Iv just looked at your profile and noticed it says you are wary of people who dont have photo's on theirs. Can I just say, please dont be. Lots of people, for lots of different reasons, cant put face photos on profiles and some, like myself, dont trust the private gallery either. Im sure you will find as you go along, people will be only too happy to show their mugshots when they get to know you.
Cant really offer any more advice than has already been given.
Hope you enjoy the site and have lots of fun.
Sex God
Hello and... as that lot up there have already said :welcome:
Great first post!
I think you should just explore the site, sign up for some socials, get chatting to people and take things from there.
There are some FAB people on here and, as people often say, you get out of SH what you put in!
Have fun.
Nola x
Great first post!
I think you should just explore the site, sign up for some socials, get chatting to people and take things from there.
There are some FAB people on here and, as people often say, you get out of SH what you put in!
Have fun.
Nola x
Sex God
Hello and welcome to the site. Hope you have loads of fun on here.
I cant really give you any more advise than what has already been said, but remember, there is no rush to do anything (apart from chatting with us lot) and sometimes the scenic route is the best way to get to the destination Take your time and enjoy.
I cant really give you any more advise than what has already been said, but remember, there is no rush to do anything (apart from chatting with us lot) and sometimes the scenic route is the best way to get to the destination
Take your time and enjoy. Sex God
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Hi Kitty and :welcome:
Dont listen to this lot they are all as mad as hatters! :giggle:
Seriously, you will find some lovely, genuine people here as Im sure bbw_lover will have told you already. Stick with his advice and you wont go far wrong. Hes a real gentleman.
Iv just looked at your profile and noticed it says you are wary of people who dont have photo's on theirs. Can I just say, please dont be. Lots of people, for lots of different reasons, cant put face photos on profiles and some, like myself, dont trust the private gallery either. Im sure you will find as you go along, people will be only too happy to show their mugshots when they get to know you.
Cant really offer any more advice than has already been given.
Hope you enjoy the site and have lots of fun.
Thanks for that hun. That's really kind of you to say.
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Hi Kitty and :welcome:
Dont listen to this lot they are all as mad as hatters! :giggle:
Seriously, you will find some lovely, genuine people here as Im sure bbw_lover will have told you already. Stick with his advice and you wont go far wrong. Hes a real gentleman.
Iv just looked at your profile and noticed it says you are wary of people who dont have photo's on theirs. Can I just say, please dont be. Lots of people, for lots of different reasons, cant put face photos on profiles and some, like myself, dont trust the private gallery either. Im sure you will find as you go along, people will be only too happy to show their mugshots when they get to know you.
Cant really offer any more advice than has already been given.
Hope you enjoy the site and have lots of fun.
Thanks for that hun. That's really kind of you to say.
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He is a true gentleman.... I totally agree with you there!! bet you're blushing now squidgy.....
Thanks for that hun. That's really kind of you to say.
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I speak as I find :oops: :oops: :oops: :oops: :oops: :oops: :oops: :oops: :oops:
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Hi Kitty and :welcome:
Dont listen to this lot they are all as mad as hatters! :giggle:
Seriously, you will find some lovely, genuine people here as Im sure bbw_lover will have told you already. Stick with his advice and you wont go far wrong. Hes a real gentleman.
Iv just looked at your profile and noticed it says you are wary of people who dont have photo's on theirs. Can I just say, please dont be. Lots of people, for lots of different reasons, cant put face photos on profiles and some, like myself, dont trust the private gallery either. Im sure you will find as you go along, people will be only too happy to show their mugshots when they get to know you.
Cant really offer any more advice than has already been given.
Hope you enjoy the site and have lots of fun.
Thanks for that hun. That's really kind of you to say.
ops: :oops:I speak as I find
:oops: :oops: :oops: :oops: :oops: :oops: :oops: :oops: :oops: Sex God
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He is a true gentleman.... bet you're blushing now squidgy.....
:shock:
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: Squidgy?? :rotflmao:
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He is a true gentleman.... bet you're blushing now squidgy.....
:shock:
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: Thought that might make you smile.... helnheaven.. but it is true! honest! I wouldn't have come on SH if he hadn't been so nice about it! (sorry hun... it's true!)
Squidgy?? :rotflmao:
Sex God
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Thought that might make you smile.... helnheaven.. but it is true! honest! I wouldn't have come on SH if he hadn't been so nice about it! (sorry hun... it's true!)
Well now you are here, make the most of it
Sex God
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Thought that might make you smile.... helnheaven.. but it is true! honest! I wouldn't have come on SH if he hadn't been so nice about it! (sorry hun... it's true!)
Well now you are here, make the most of it
You're all making me blush!
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You're all making me blush!
ALL 2 of us?
Just had a thought,all 2 of us and bbw = 3
ooer
I don't think he could handle both of us at the same time honey!!!! (hehe)
You blush... squidgy? I don't think so.... think hand massage..... then you might.... ;-)
ALL 2 of us?
Just had a thought,all 2 of us and bbw = 3
ooer :wink: :wink: :twisted:
You blush... squidgy? I don't think so.... think hand massage..... then you might.... ;-)
Quote by helnheaven
You're all making me blush!
ALL 2 of us?
Just had a thought,all 2 of us and bbw = 3
ooer
:wink: :wink: :twisted: Sex God
I don't think he could handle both of us at the same time honey!!!! (hehe)
Now Im wondering if this is worth placing a bet on :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
Now Im wondering if this is worth placing a bet on
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: 
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hi kitty
sorry to hear of your loss but i lost my husband 3 years ago an like you he wasnt into fun but life has to go on i myself meet a great bloke been with him for 12 months now
hes been into swingin for years so listening to him talk it sounded like fun so i took the jump and had a great night with mmf now next its ffm make your list of what you want to do and just go for it and have fun xxxx
sorry to hear of your loss but i lost my husband 3 years ago an like you he wasnt into fun but life has to go on i myself meet a great bloke been with him for 12 months now
hes been into swingin for years so listening to him talk it sounded like fun so i took the jump and had a great night with mmf now next its ffm make your list of what you want to do and just go for it and have fun xxxx
I have to confess this, and I don't think it will win me many friends...
Finding a sexual partner of any gender is always a very personal experience, so it's almost impossible to give advice that is perfect (or even close)... but...
I'd say time is a great aid. So take your time. A swinging site has pros and cons. There are lots of like minded females on sites like this, but for the large part, the motive is consenting, pleasurable, adult fun. All good so far.
But, folks can sometimes be hasty, and eager to want to show you how good a time you could have, but might not always have your interests at heart. That doesn't mean they are bad folks; just wanting to introduce you to a bifem experience in a hurry might not be right for you.
I agree with a number of folks who've said get out and meet a few people at a munch (social gathering), not one to one. Just see the wide range of folks out there, all ages, all shapes and sizes, all classes of people, and how you're certainly not alone. But temper this with the knowledge that most swingers by their very nature like to swap partners (on a grand scale, or in a very limited manner). You may or may not prefer a less complicated bifem, who just likes one on one, and with a degree of emotional engagement with you too. Those types are harder to find, since less websites exist for them, and many are in your situation, not wanting to shout about it from the hilltops!
So...take your time, and remember the nature of swingers!... bare that in mind when you meet them. But there are some fabulous swingers around, truly lovely people, if you find the lady you feel comfortable to have your first experience with, I'm sure you'll recognise her deep down.
Good luck lady!
/TheKid
Finding a sexual partner of any gender is always a very personal experience, so it's almost impossible to give advice that is perfect (or even close)... but...
I'd say time is a great aid. So take your time. A swinging site has pros and cons. There are lots of like minded females on sites like this, but for the large part, the motive is consenting, pleasurable, adult fun. All good so far.
But, folks can sometimes be hasty, and eager to want to show you how good a time you could have, but might not always have your interests at heart. That doesn't mean they are bad folks; just wanting to introduce you to a bifem experience in a hurry might not be right for you.
I agree with a number of folks who've said get out and meet a few people at a munch (social gathering), not one to one. Just see the wide range of folks out there, all ages, all shapes and sizes, all classes of people, and how you're certainly not alone. But temper this with the knowledge that most swingers by their very nature like to swap partners (on a grand scale, or in a very limited manner). You may or may not prefer a less complicated bifem, who just likes one on one, and with a degree of emotional engagement with you too. Those types are harder to find, since less websites exist for them, and many are in your situation, not wanting to shout about it from the hilltops!
So...take your time, and remember the nature of swingers!... bare that in mind when you meet them. But there are some fabulous swingers around, truly lovely people, if you find the lady you feel comfortable to have your first experience with, I'm sure you'll recognise her deep down.
Good luck lady!
/TheKid
Thanks Angel and The Kid... been on a little while now, and just easing myself into the scene... not been to any munches yet, though should be going to the Oxford social.. looking forward to it!
My other half is not pushing me to do anything I don't want to, and that makes things a lot easier, I will do things when I'm ready!
Thanks for your input xx
My other half is not pushing me to do anything I don't want to, and that makes things a lot easier, I will do things when I'm ready!
Thanks for your input xx
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