ideas for verifying members as genuine

15 Jan 2009

Quote by Naughty Wigan Couple
OK, I have it.. :twisted:
We can have a Committee that has to 'vet' every new member in person, like an assessment centre. This will consist of Neil, Gem and myself (because I say so)
Neil can test run all the girlies, Gem the guys, me the undecided ones and if it gets too busy on the single guy side of things then Neil can help out - hence my reasons for having these specific people on the panel.

Favouritism, and I think you need some back up incase Gem is busy lol

In that case can I come in and balance up the numbers.
On a more serious note. I am genuine - I don't muck people around - but I will not give my facepic to anyone other than someone I know and trust. So if that was introduced here this site would be minus one genuine member.
And as DG says - I have a mind of my own through which I can decide with whom I want to swing. I can honestly say I have no complaints about opportunities or reliability.
If I was after a quick shag, which seems to be the reason for wanting a verification system, and I didn't get it, then I would put it down to experience and just get on with life.
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15 Jan 2009

Quote by Kff30
verification has nothing to do with trying to get a quick shag genuine members like our selfs would use verification as another aid to help us decide who we meet and to help us know the person we are meeting is who they say they are
every one goes through their own list of want they want to see from a member before they meet them
i would say most peoples list would go some thing like this
1) has this member filled in thier profile
2) has this member got photos
3) does the member go on cam in the chat room
4) does the member talk on msn
5) will the member chat on phone
ok im not saying this is what every one looks for to decide if they think the member they are talking too is genuine but its the sort of thing/things ppl do look for when making their mind up about another member having a verification system on the site would be used as another aid in making our minds up

Interesting to see you using these measures as yardsticks for deciding who you meet. Shows just how different we all are. If I were to judge myself by your criteria, it would go something like this:
1.) Yes - I have a profile.
2.) Yes - but not face pics; not on the site.
3.) I never go on cam.
4.) I hate msn - use it very rarely.
5.) Yes - I will chat on the phone.
If you were looking to meet single females (I have no idea of your preference as haven't looked) then I probably wouldn't stand a chance.
I am, however, 100% genuine. I meet people from this site and have done with some regularity for the two and a half years I've been on the site.
I couldn't care less if folks have a webcam or not. I certainly don't expect them to cam in chatrooms before I would meet them. I'm a do-as-you-would-be-done-by kinda gal and I don't cam for privacy reasons. Yes, I expect to swap pics before a meet and I always speak on the phone. I have my own little 'checklist' that I go through. I am pretty good at spotting the red-flags that suggest bluffers credentials. Sure, I've had my fingers burned in the early days but I just chalked it up to experience.
I certainly wouldn't use verification as part of my decision-making process. It all seems so very subjective and (excuse the analogy - am not linking swinging to criminality! wink

) a bit like CRB checks: only accurate on the same day they were processed, useless and out of date immediately afterwards.
Nola x

16 Jan 2009

Quote by Kff30
On a more serious note. I am genuine - I don't muck people around - but I will not give my facepic to anyone other than someone I know and trust. So if that was introduced here this site would be minus one genuine member.
And as DG says - I have a mind of my own through which I can decide with whom I want to swing. I can honestly say I have no complaints about opportunities or reliability.
If I was after a quick shag, which seems to be the reason for wanting a verification system, and I didn't get it, then I would put it down to experience and just get on with life.
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every one goes through their own list of want they want to see from a member before they meet them
i would say most peoples list would go some thing like this
1) has this member filled in thier profile
2) has this member got photos
3) does the member go on cam in the chat room
4) does the member talk on msn
5) will the member chat on phone

To be honest - no I don't.
It's more likely to be:
1) have I got to know them well enough over a period of time by interacting on the Forum?
2) have I met them at a munch or social?
3) is there any chemistry?
And so I really don't need a verification system. I appreciate that not everybody has the same approach and values, which is why I was acknowledging earlier in the thread that some may want it and therefore why not try it. Frankly though, I don't think it would provide much help without it being unreasonably intrusive into people's privacy.

Quote by You also
.....members like our selfs would use verification as another aid to help us decide who we meet and to help us know the person we are meeting is who they say they are

Which, if you apply my criteria, is merely seeking a shortcut to what is usually quite a long period and is therefore wanting to have a shag quicker. wink

Diff'rent strokes, I guess.
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16 Jan 2009

Quote by Kff30
so lets hear some more from those in favour and hear their ideas then if SH do bring in a verification system they might put in to place some of the ideas that members have posted in here

I think a good system would be for the site to introduce a system whereby all members don't have to be verified for 2 years. Within that time they must attend say 2 munches and then after they can get a thingy saying this person is really a person after that they must attend 1 a year every year to retain membership.
What d'ya mean it won't work!!! lol

16 Jan 2009

Thinking along these lines.............

whilst you are playing with the new member simply pop this on the gas ring for a bit and then while having post coital nibbles thwack it in a nice discreet part of the individuals anatomy and hey presto verified for all to see!

16 Jan 2009

Quote by Kff30
so lets hear some more from those in favour and hear their ideas then if SH do bring in a verification system they might put in to place some of the ideas that members have posted in here

I see no reason why ideas should be limited to only those in favour of it, those who don't want it or who will opt out may still have a valid suggestion(I made one, I'm sure others have!)
Interesting that those who want this want to see more ideas from others in favour though - does the fact that these are being asked for yet again say something? perhaps that people who want verification want it to exist but they don't really care how, just as long as ticks or stars start appearing?
Just a thought, but quite a pertinent one I think!

16 Jan 2009

Quote by Silk and Big G
Thinking along these lines.............

whilst you are playing with the new member simply pop this on the gas ring for a bit and then while having post coital nibbles thwack it in a nice discreet part of the individuals anatomy and hey presto verified for all to see!

:notes:

16 Jan 2009

happy to help mate

16 Jan 2009

Quote by Kff30
having verification is all about having a little bit more peace of mind that the person you our talking to is who they say they are

but tell me HOW it gives you peace of mind....
all photo-varification would do is tell you they are who they say they are... up to a point.... doesn't tell you if they are time-wasters or not in any way shape of form....does it tell you if the height is right... what does a body shot tell you......does it tell you that couple is still a couple.... no
so how about feedback.....hmmmmm
okay...its your lucky day and I have decided to varify you this is what I am going to put in your "quickies"
"this couple are a waste of space, didn't bother to show up, didn't even bother let me know, avoid unless you like being taken for an idiot"

I was really tempted to put it up... and I would have said that it is a lie....eventually. I was really keen to see how long it stayed there before you noticed and/or people started talking...or you removed it
a) how would people know that is a lie...it's my word against yours....people know you, but I would hazzard a guess that a ton of people know me! I bet the mods and admin would love to get involved in that!!!
b) would you leave that up if you had the choice? of course not...... so if it was in anyway true, and it had been removed, you'd be none the wiser
c) whos's varifying the varifier... unless we are going down the family tree route,

16 Jan 2009

this is the thing,youd think and hope that only a few would abuse the verufication thing, but its not.
as i said before i foun din a matter of days on another site 60 abusing the verifictions.
i pointed them all out to the admin on that site and not one was dealt with.
if this does come in then i would hope at the very most all we see is a photo id along with voice,stating this person has said they are male,female,couple etc and for that to be date stamped.
i would still not use it,nor trust it. and we will see plenty more threads about how the system is fooked.
xx fem xx

16 Jan 2009

gonna guess , as i cant be arsed to read the thread, that some folk are dead against verification and some think its a good idea...
how about those that dont wish to be verified dont bother and those that do just get on with it... this site could just facilitate that as other sites do..

16 Jan 2009

Quote by wild rose and the stag
gonna guess , as i cant be arsed to read the thread, that some folk are dead against verification and some think its a good idea...
how about those that dont wish to be verified dont bother and those that do just get on with it... this site could just facilitate that as other sites do..

Facilitating Swingers is cool biggrin

though it is too clinical it's been decided - Aiding and abetting is OK though :D
Good to see a Wrats post guys wave

16 Jan 2009

Quote by wild rose and the stag
gonna guess , as i cant be arsed to read the thread, that some folk are dead against verification and some think its a good idea...
how about those that dont wish to be verified dont bother and those that do just get on with it... this site could just facilitate that as other sites do..

That is just the kind of plain old common sense comment that is just bound to be ignored.
Remember all you (we) people who would happily accept verification that the vast majority on here are normal, ordinary folk who just don't like change. It doesn't matter how it is dressed up, it is change and the general public don't usually get motivated by change.
I personally think you are absolutely spot on with your very succinct suggestion but their are people who will simply refuse to look for the positive in it and simply look to pick holes in your suggestion and find all the reasons that it won't work, instead of taking a more positive outlook and looking at how it could work.

16 Jan 2009

Quote by Kff30
gonna guess , as i cant be arsed to read the thread, that some folk are dead against verification and some think its a good idea...
how about those that dont wish to be verified dont bother and those that do just get on with it... this site could just facilitate that as other sites do..

That is just the kind of plain old common sense comment that is just bound to be ignored.
Remember all you (we) people who would happily accept verification that the vast majority on here are normal, ordinary folk who just don't like change. It doesn't matter how it is dressed up, it is change and the general public don't usually get motivated by change.
I personally think you are absolutely spot on with your very succinct suggestion but their are people who will simply refuse to look for the positive in it and simply look to pick holes in your suggestion and find all the reasons that it won't work, instead of taking a more positive outlook and looking at how it could work.
couldnt agree with you more i started this thread of and have found just that
There are however, some of us who are anti-verification but realise and accept that it probably will be introduced in the not too distant future. No, I don't want it, but I understand that a lot of people do. I've said somewhere earlier that what will be will be, and if you want it then fine, have it. I'll just not be opting in (assuming I have a choice and don't get lots of functions taken away because I'm "not verified")
;)

16 Jan 2009

Quote by Kff30
thank you for proving my point your list of what you look for might be different to the sort of things we look for but you still look for things in a member to help you decide who you meet and that they are who they say they are

Don't think I've 'proved your point at all. Your point is that you think verification would be useful. My point is that I don't need verification and that I think it will be useless to those who think it will be useful.
All I am saying is that some people want it so desperately - let 'em have it - just so long as it doesn't affect my rights - as Angel Chat says - or my privacy.
I've indicated in earlier posts on this thread how I think that can be achieved.
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18 Jan 2009

I'm sorry but as this slipped off page one I felt like i'd lost an old friend :-( so lets get it back up there! Now verification what can we say about that that the inimitable Roy Castle didnt say in his song of the same name
Verifications what you need to be a record breaker yeaaaaaaaaay!
Damn good discussion on the subject mind and i hope we get to discuss it again in depth the year after next biggrin

18 Jan 2009

Quote by Lost
I'm sorry but as this slipped off page one I felt like i'd lost an old friend :-( so lets get it back up there! Now verification what can we say about that that the inimitable Roy Castle didnt say in his song of the same name
Verifications what you need to be a record breaker yeaaaaaaaaay!
Damn good discussion on the subject mind and i hope we get to discuss it again in depth the year after next

Be difficult waiting that long don't you think? I think we should all put it in our diaries for next December. Might take some of the intensity out of the 'Do you like Christmas?' thread.
Mind by then we might all have been downgraded by the verification system. :undecided:
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18 Jan 2009

Quote by westerross
I'm sorry but as this slipped off page one I felt like i'd lost an old friend :-( so lets get it back up there! Now verification what can we say about that that the inimitable Roy Castle didnt say in his song of the same name
Verifications what you need to be a record breaker yeaaaaaaaaay!
Damn good discussion on the subject mind and i hope we get to discuss it again in depth the year after next

Be difficult waiting that long don't you think? I think we should all put it in our diaries for next December. Might take some of the intensity out of the 'Do you like Christmas?' thread.
Mind by then we might all have been downgraded by the verification system. :undecided:
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chortles lol

Oh and to be downgraded eh? Humiliation, i've never tried that before but what the heck

18 Jan 2009

Quote by Lost
Oh and to be downgraded eh? Humiliation, i've never tried that before but what the heck

Verified
Awaiting verification
Handcuffed
Bound hand and foot spread over the bench and whipped
Four new classes of membership.

18 Jan 2009

Quote by vodka_babe22uk

Oh and to be downgraded eh? Humiliation, i've never tried that before but what the heck

Verified insane
Awaiting verification
Handcuffed mmmmmm yes please
Bound hand and foot spread over the bench and whipped mmmmmm only gently tho
Four new classes of membership.
You can't be two - they'll charge you double!!
I think I could manage to combine the two into one fer you though.
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25 Jan 2009

ive been away illfor a few days,and have been catching upon the forums,
have i missed a notice??
ive seen a few comments within various other threads....
hopefully when they get the new system up and running people will have ebay style ratings so you at least know who are genuine and who isn't
Oh, and forgot to say,, even before the new function is introduced. How about couples using the "quickee" message function to let a guy know that their efforts in turning up were appreciated? Again, it's not fool proof but will help.
has there been an announcement at we are haveing a ebay rating system?
xx fem xxx

25 Jan 2009

Quote by fem_4_taboo
ive been away illfor a few days,and have been catching upon the forums,
have i missed a notice??
ive seen a few comments within various other threads....
hopefully when they get the new system up and running people will have ebay style ratings so you at least know who are genuine and who isn't
Oh, and forgot to say,, even before the new function is introduced. How about couples using the "quickee" message function to let a guy know that their efforts in turning up were appreciated? Again, it's not fool proof but will help.
has there been an announcement at we are haveing a ebay rating system?
xx fem xxx

If there has been one, I have missed it!
But don't rely on me I am known as redface

I am sure someone that has their lights fully switched on will know your answer. wink

25 Jan 2009

How the feck will an Ebay ratings system work on here?
"My Swinger-mate turned up a day late and I have to say I wasn't impressed with the rough and shabby packaging. The item was far from "new" and looked like it has suffered very heavy usage, especially around the joints and edges. I can only assume the photograph was taken of another item as it bore no resemblance to the one I received. When I tried the item out I have to say the result was disappointing and nothing like described on the advert. It was a good few inches shorter than stated and as for the two hour guarantee, that is a joke! Barely 15 minutes in the item was starting to go weak at the knees and soften and it finally expired in about twenty minutes in. All in all a total flop and I cannot recommend buying from this e-swinger again."
Yeah, that'll work a treat...

25 Jan 2009

:giggle:
omg now i see it writen like that i see it would work perfectly lol
xxx fem xx

16 May 2009

What you on about Flower - cant see the link personally.
I've changed my mind about verification though! I think we need it, yes I really do, lets have it that everyone can verify themselves by ticking a box when they sign up to this site. Just a once only tick just when they join. Or matbe two boxes one saying yes its really me/us the other saying No this really isn't me/us. Could always put it next to the quickies box.

16 May 2009

Quote by flower411
Seems that some of the people who are most in favour of a verification system are the ones having threads deleted because they can`t stop themselves from slagging other people off when they fall out.
Is that why they want a verification system so much ?
So they can slag people off ? ........I think that`s what some of us suspected in the first place, it`s nice to have suspicions confirmed

Yeah but sickly sweet point-scoring on the forum is almost as bad, Flower :roll:

16 Aug 2009

I have just voted in favour for the introduction of 'verification' on this site as a means of sorting out the wheat from the chaff.
I know I'm genuine; the people I've met via this site know that I am genuine but anyone else I may choose to contact will not. They would have much more confidence were they to see some form of indication on my profile (from people I have already met) that I am single, that the photos on my profile are a true and honest representation of my current physical appearance, that I can and do host/accommodate in my own home and that I did meet as agreed/arranged.
It will not stop some people 'trying to get around the system' for reasons known only to themselves but it will give some help to those who are genuine and trying to arrange a meet with others.

16 Aug 2009

Not interested in having a verification system. I certainly would never use it and would be wary of those who do.
The only verification system I use is my own.
Common sense, realisation that some people are not in the same head space as us and being respectful and mindful of others choices.
I would not be swayed by any kind of approval from another. Quite frankly I dont need another persons opinion on my sex life.
To be clear, I am anti verification
Mistress_39

16 Aug 2009

Quote by Mistress_39
Not interested in having a verification system. I certainly would never use it and would be wary of those who do.
The only verification system I use is my own.
Common sense, realisation that some people are not in the same head space as us and being respectful and mindful of others choices.
I would not be swayed by any kind of approval from another. Quite frankly I dont need another persons opinion on my sex life.
To be clear, I am anti verification
Mistress_39

so, would you say you were for or against. ?

16 Aug 2009

Verification is a good thing and quite easy to impliment, just look at my sig. Proper Job! :mrgreen:

do you think the site should have a verification system