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do you think the site should have a verification system

Quote by Theladyisaminx
I have read every response and I still do not understand what people mean by a verification system as there seems to be differing opinions, even by those that want it.
Is it
1) a tick in a box to say someone has met you? (Mentioning no names)
2) a tick in a box with comments ( met can confirm their profile is who they say they are)
3) a tick in a box (contact ladyisaminx for further details)
4) a tick in a box with comments (had great time can shag like rabbits)
until it is clear what some want I am still redface
Maybe some could tick my boxes lol

Nice post.
But still is all of this fluffy, filtered, positive replies only, or is the option to negative rate (no names) also a possibility. (As per my previous example from munch organisers to the no shows?)
Ahhh fu*k it lets have it all eh? I'll chat on here and do the odd social/munch etc leave our profile blank and get the meets another way. If we end up being thought of as an unverified/verified timewasting single fem/male so what.
I've changed my mind - bring it on with the rest of the crapolla - as long as we can get into chat easily enough and post on forum f*ck the rest of it - its too difficult lol
I never used to swear much doncha know confused
Quote by Ian
Nice post.
But still is all of this fluffy, filtered, positive replies only, or is the option to negative rate (no names) also a possibility. (As per my previous example from munch organisers to the no shows?)

Ian .......... stop asking questions and get verifying people :rascal: You ONLY have 946358 profiles to check out! :giggle:
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Quote by blonde

Nice post.
But still is all of this fluffy, filtered, positive replies only, or is the option to negative rate (no names) also a possibility. (As per my previous example from munch organisers to the no shows?)

Ian .......... stop asking questions and get verifying people :rascal: You ONLY have 946358 profiles to check out! :giggle:
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

rotflmao :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
Start with this one Ian... she talks about cornflakes too much to be real.
I think she's a crunchy nut! :giggle:
bolt
Quote by Dirtygirlie

Nice post.
But still is all of this fluffy, filtered, positive replies only, or is the option to negative rate (no names) also a possibility. (As per my previous example from munch organisers to the no shows?)

Ian .......... stop asking questions and get verifying people :rascal: You ONLY have 946358 profiles to check out! :giggle:
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

rotflmao :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
Start with this one Ian... she talks about cornflakes too much to be real.
I think she's a crunchy nut! :giggle:
bolt
And no photo, definitely dodgy.
we need a post blondes photo campaign
:bolt:
Quote by blonde
I still don't understand .......... I am sorry. kiss
A couple registers & gets verified by the Mods/Ops.
The couple split up but the male retains the couples profile.
How on earth will a handful of Mods police this?
I really disagree with any sort of verification and it goes against everything that SH used to be.
It makes the site just another sex site IMHO but it will help to sell membership I guess!!
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

members would have to report it and a reverification would have to tke place i guess?
Quote by kentswingers777
I dont look at profiles and think "oh they are free members they are less likely to be genuine or turn up"
If there was a profile without pictures and was verified loads of times I still wouldnt bother because we prefer all contact to be done through site.
If someone had photos on and wasnt verified I would bother with them, just because they dont have verification then it doesnt mean they arnt genuine.
I agree with most of what cossie has said regarding the verification apart from up the rent lol

What are your thoughts on people who have no pictures, and nothing written on their profile?
Does not that lead some to think they may not be genuine?
If someone contacted us and they didnt have any picture and nothing writen on their profile then I would delete it,
If someone contacted us and they didnt have any pictures but their profile was fully filled in then I would delete it.
I wouldnt contact anyone in the above catogories.
I wouldnt think they were any less genuine just not bothered to fill in their profile,,,and to be honest if they get meets then good on em
To us face photos are all important, as I have said before we are a couple who mainly go on looks first before chatting with view to taking things further, this is what works for us
Quote by Dirtygirlie

Nice post.
But still is all of this fluffy, filtered, positive replies only, or is the option to negative rate (no names) also a possibility. (As per my previous example from munch organisers to the no shows?)

Ian .......... stop asking questions and get verifying people :rascal: You ONLY have 946358 profiles to check out! :giggle:
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

rotflmao :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
Start with this one Ian... she talks about cornflakes too much to be real.
I think she's a crunchy nut! :giggle:
bolt
you want me to confirm that Blonde is, as her profile says 2009 years old.
Anybody now how to upload the "hear no evil, speak no evil, see no evil" picture lol
Quote by Ian

Nice post.
But still is all of this fluffy, filtered, positive replies only, or is the option to negative rate (no names) also a possibility. (As per my previous example from munch organisers to the no shows?)

Ian .......... stop asking questions and get verifying people :rascal: You ONLY have 946358 profiles to check out! :giggle:
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

rotflmao :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
Start with this one Ian... she talks about cornflakes too much to be real.
I think she's a crunchy nut! :giggle:
bolt
you want me to confirm that Blonde is, as her profile says 2009 years old.
Anybody now how to upload the "hear no evil, speak no evil, see no evil" picture lol
Quote by Ian
you want me to confirm that Blonde is, as her profile says 2009 years old.
Anybody now how to upload the "hear no evil, speak no evil, see no evil" picture lol

:kick: :giggle:
Quote by Dirtygirlie
Start with this one Ian... she talks about cornflakes too much to be real.
I think she's a crunchy nut! :giggle:
bolt

........ and what's wrong with Crunchy nuts? :giggle:
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Quote by Ian

Nice post.
But still is all of this fluffy, filtered, positive replies only, or is the option to negative rate (no names) also a possibility. (As per my previous example from munch organisers to the no shows?)

Ian .......... stop asking questions and get verifying people :rascal: You ONLY have 946358 profiles to check out! :giggle:
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

rotflmao :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
Start with this one Ian... she talks about cornflakes too much to be real.
I think she's a crunchy nut! :giggle:
bolt
you want me to confirm that Blonde is, as her profile says 2009 years old.
Anybody now how to upload the "hear no evil, speak no evil, see no evil" picture lol
Is this it ???
Oi .............. you lot stop ganging up on me!! :giggle:
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Quote by Ian

Nice post.
But still is all of this fluffy, filtered, positive replies only, or is the option to negative rate (no names) also a possibility. (As per my previous example from munch organisers to the no shows?)

Ian .......... stop asking questions and get verifying people :rascal: You ONLY have 946358 profiles to check out! :giggle:
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

rotflmao :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
Start with this one Ian... she talks about cornflakes too much to be real.
I think she's a crunchy nut! :giggle:
bolt
you want me to confirm that Blonde is, as her profile says 2009 years old.
Anybody now how to upload the "hear no evil, speak no evil, see no evil" picture lol
You better watch out Ian, she might just verify that your really a cross dressing schizophrenic known either as Ian or Dawnie depending on your wardrobe choice :lol: :lol: :lol:
Quote by Deviants
we have already stated verifications wont stop timewasters, but it might cut in half the the amount of fake profiles around.
it also helps newer members that haven't yet been known who don't like forums or attending socials.
can't comment on the feedback system as thats not something we agree about, and as you have rightly said, it is too open to abuse and not very discreet.

I'm curious how would it cut down the number of fake profiles?
please explain your reasoning on this, at present if you spot a fake profile you can report it and it will get removed with a verification system it would still take some one to report that it was fake, no different to as it is now really.
Quote by Deviants
You better watch out Ian, she might just verify that your really a cross dressing schizophrenic known either as Ian or Dawnie depending on your wardrobe choice lol :lol: :lol:

That's okay... it'll still be all Dawnie's fault! :giggle:
bolt
Quote by M8-Me
Is this it ???

thats the one.....
Now I would like to verify that I don't actually look like any of these three fine specimens. But then I'm not verifying anybody so I can't.
ok, we cant ever verify that someone is genuine.
a verification could only show that a couple is a couple ( unless they have set up mates to help them fake it,split up in the mean time)
that a man is a man
that a woman is a woman
as with both not if they are single.
im guessing you would have to submit a picture then talk to a answer machine to prove your gender.??
this will all be done by admin, so people cant do each other a favour and verify mates that are not what they say,are set up more than one profile and verify themselves.
there would have to be a date stamp of when verification happened and members willing to report those suspected of cheating that system.
this will take time and money.
or verification happens by other members, open to even more abuse, and if no ones verified and you have to be verified to verify what come first the verification or the verifying?
presuming the above is what were talking about what will you gain??? to know people are male or female?
not if they are really a couple or really a single or really swing.
so we get into the realms of feed back.
cant even be arsed anymore to point out the pit falls of this , the tackyness of this and the sheep rather than leader amongst swinging sites we used to be.
can we please clarify verification or feedback.
i dont like or want either as it proves fook all but causes a divide.
xxx fem xxx
Quote by tricky-dicky

we have already stated verifications wont stop timewasters, but it might cut in half the the amount of fake profiles around.
it also helps newer members that haven't yet been known who don't like forums or attending socials.
can't comment on the feedback system as thats not something we agree about, and as you have rightly said, it is too open to abuse and not very discreet.

I'm curious how would it cut down the number of fake profiles?
please explain your reasoning on this, at present if you spot a fake profile you can report it and it will get removed with a verification system it would still take some one to report that it was fake, no different to as it is now really.
Had my say on this already, its pretty simple really if a single fem was verified as being a single fem, then it would make it harder for a male prentending to be one, certainly not 100% foolproof but a lot more foolproof than selecting a dropdown box to select your sex when signing up.
Yes theres the couples profile issue that they may break up after being verified but that would be down to being dishonest and nothing to do with a flawed system.
Anyway it will never happen, was just giving our opinion and as far as we're aware there is no plan for any system.
sadely deviants i think there is a plan.
regarding the single fem i understand what you mean, but i wont be verified cuse i dont like it and if some see a verification as a tick to hound me not about to throw my profile into the pot.
when the profiles went to more detail,many didnt complete them as it worked well before. i swing from a filed in one to nothing cuse i get sick of people saying i like your ad??? iTS NOT A AD divvey.
i dont like the speed fuck thing. i think thats different to swinging, its only my outlook, and i know thers have different ones.
if i wanted a quick anonyomus fuck id go in town and trap off. its sex not swinging to me.
xxx fem xxx
i presume that the ad and profile search will have a tick box , only show verified members?
will in show in chat ?
xx fem xx
good bye swinging heaven hello sex hell
Do notchange SH, its still works, but real swingers like us will not be loging in, for the site admin's this will not be a problem they will still get their money, but for us it will not be a swinging site just a networking site.
so change the name to "SOCIAL HEAVEN"
sorry but thats how I feel
but other real swingers will logg in cuse it is different from the other sites.
regarding social heaven, isnt that the way its going , not the way we wanted it,those against verification are typically against news feeds quickies etc. judging from the polls and questionaires its going more like facebook and speed fucking.
speed fucking can be obtained at a club?
xx fem xx
Quote by Cossie
Do notchange SH, its still works, but real swingers like us will not be loging in, for the site admin's this will not be a problem they will still get their money, but for us it will not be a swinging site just a networking site.
so change the name to "SOCIAL HEAVEN"
sorry but thats how I feel

So by the bit in bold, are you saying that the rest of us aren't real swingers because we don't have a little green tick and a testimonial saying we have shagged x, y or z? dunno
Quote by Deviants
Had my say on this already, its pretty simple really if a single fem was verified as being a single fem, then it would make it harder for a male prentending to be one, certainly not 100% foolproof but a lot more foolproof than selecting a dropdown box to select your sex when signing up.

I still don't get it. I must be really thick or something on this point.
A single fem is verified as a single fem (I understand this bit) then this makes it harder for a male pretending to be one (Thats where I get lost)
The man can still double profile and verify himself, get a mate to do it or badger people untill someone does it to stop him complaining. How does it stop it?
Dave_Notts
So by the same token of never having a verification system... is a name and shame policy next on the list?!
bolt
Quote by Cossie
Do notchange SH, its still works, :thumbup:
but real swingers like us will not be loging in,dunno R U the only real swingers on here, you think?
Dont you think there maybe some real swingers who don't want to advertise what they do or don't do to the world?
for the site admin's this will not be a problem they will still get their money, but for us it will not be a swinging site just a networking site. Just because you cant see who shags & how often they shag &/or who they have shagged?
so change the name to "SOCIAL HEAVEN" NO ....... leave it exactly as it is :thumbup:
sorry but thats how I feel
OK kiss
Quote by Dirtygirlie
So by the same token of never having a verification system... is a name and shame policy next on the list?!
bolt

It was Dirtygirlie
Dave_Notts
Quote by Dave__Notts
So by the same token of never having a verification system... is a name and shame policy next on the list?!
bolt

It was Dirtygirlie
Dave_Notts
It was Dirtygirlie & Dave_Notts actually :smug:
Sam xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Quote by Cossie
Do notchange SH, its still works, but real swingers like us will not be loging in, for the site admin's this will not be a problem they will still get their money, but for us it will not be a swinging site just a networking site.
so change the name to "SOCIAL HEAVEN"
sorry but thats how I feel

So people that swing without having some other people telling them that the people they want to swing with are ok and verified are not real swingers?
Ok then. I am glad that I have now found out that we have been doing it wrong wink
Dave_Notts
Quote by Dave__Notts

Had my say on this already, its pretty simple really if a single fem was verified as being a single fem, then it would make it harder for a male prentending to be one, certainly not 100% foolproof but a lot more foolproof than selecting a dropdown box to select your sex when signing up.

I still don't get it. I must be really thick or something on this point.
A single fem is verified as a single fem (I understand this bit) then this makes it harder for a male pretending to be one (Thats where I get lost)
The man can still double profile and verify himself, get a mate to do it or badger people untill someone does it to stop him complaining. How does it stop it?
Dave_Notts
Dave, i'm not sure where your getting lost, the system we were talking about, and thats all it was just talking, is a system that people are verified by site admin, hence the reason it would make it harder to pretend to be something other than yourself.
thats our idea of verification, all the rest is just feedback systems and in our opinion is open to abuse and not very discreet either.