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if a mans a player and a womens a tart when

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mad dont bite my head off but was wondering if a man who plays the field is a player but a womens a tart redface when or how does it become termed that we are both swinging or swingers :shock: not that im complaining cool its just a thought
you will find too many peeps holding themselves back with labels...
derogitory terms such as the word 'tart' will stay as such until its embraced so as to enhance sexual play between consenting adults.
I cant be arsed to sit down & analyize the fruitier side of the Queens English but I hope you get the jist!
as for 'when' one becomes a swinger or when one is termed to be a swinger just look up the word in a few dictionarys & if you are within the noted definitions then hey presto!
I hope this was a gentle welcome to the nut house kid!
Personally- to me a player is someone pretending (ie playing at, leading people on etc)
A guy who shags a lot is a tart!
A woman that shags a lot is just a lucky bitch :twisted:
When does someone become a swinger..... when/if they discover the right mental attitude (for some that will just never happen)
Quote by PoloLady
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A guy who shags a lot is a tart!
A woman that shags a lot is just a lucky bitch...

OMG!!! That is just so from the dinosour ages :shock:
its pure syxesim... redface I mean sexest... surprisedops: how u spell it now... sexyiest... sixism...
FECK!!!!
:fuckinghell:
It's just plain wrong on so many levels!!!
smackbottom :smackbottom: :smackbottom: :smackbottom:
I was very close to meeting up with a local guy recently. Then during a msn chat he said that he & his mates liked to "share" girls. All well & good until the next sentence when he referred to the girls as slags! I politely suggested that unless he was also referring to his mates as slags for participating, a better term for the girls would be " liberated".
He lost out on a damn good shag (looking for some confirmation here mr redpantherman..)
because he was disrespectful. I have had sex with lots of people. Anyone who wants to call me anything derogatory does not know what theyre missing. Shit, did I really just say that! That is soooo not like me!
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Personally- to me a player is someone pretending (ie playing at, leading people on etc)

You've met him too then PL??? :giggle: :evil2: :giggle: :evil2: :giggle:
Quote by PoloLady
Personally- to me a player is someone pretending (ie playing at, leading people on etc)

You've met him too then PL??? :giggle: :evil2: :giggle: :evil2: :giggle:
Quote by winchwench
He lost out on a damn good shag (looking for some confirmation here mr redpantherman..)

:eeek: a damn good shag dosent do you ANY discriptive justice winchwench :twisted:
Guys... when I stop twicthing :smitten: :smitten: :smitten: I might be able to find some way of explainin what this hunni can do... until then you will have to guess... or if your lucky she will show you!
:twisted: :twisted: :twisted:
Women are slags.....Men are studs!!........this attitude fucking pisses me off!!
At the end of the day women are the one's controlling things its up to them wether they meet a guy and want sex, their word is final.I guess guys don't like that and feel threatend by it....so they label liberal girls as slags!!....when they are nothing more than puppets on strings themselves!!
I personally use the term "Tart" for blokes and women and dont ever mean it as a bad thing. lol
I can think of a number of men from this scene who well deserve the label tart, myself included at times. And certainly a number of ladies for whom tart is a good description and often one they use for themselves.
So I am all in favour of reclaiming Tart as a good word. Can't stand the term "Slag" though and cant ever see myself using it.
Roger cool
Quote by da69ve
Women are slags.....Men are studs!!........this attitude fucking pisses me off!!
At the end of the day women are the one's controlling things its up to them wether they meet a guy and want sex, their word is final.I guess guys don't like that and feel threatend by it....so they label liberal girls as slags!!....when they are nothing more than puppets on strings themselves!!

I suppose the label thing does work both ways though.
If a guy instantly labels me a slag/slut/tart/slapper because I happen to enjoy sex, I think I am equally guilty of labelling him a....
moronic, narrow-minded, immature, pathetic c**t!
Quote by rogerthedragon
I personally use the term "Tart" for blokes and women and dont ever mean it as a bad thing. lol
I can think of a number of men from this scene who well deserve the label tart, myself included at times. And certainly a number of ladies for whom tart is a good description and often one they use for themselves.
So I am all in favour of reclaiming Tart as a good word. Can't stand the term "Slag" though and cant ever see myself using it.
Roger cool

It is a good point - it is not really the word - it is what the word implies by the users definition.
I have often used tart as a term of endearment.
It is when it’s use is to clearly imply a derogatory meaning that it reflects the narrow-minded attitude of the user.
Quote by PoloLady
Women are slags.....Men are studs!!........this attitude fucking pisses me off!!
At the end of the day women are the one's controlling things its up to them wether they meet a guy and want sex, their word is final.I guess guys don't like that and feel threatend by it....so they label liberal girls as slags!!....when they are nothing more than puppets on strings themselves!!

I suppose the label thing does work both ways though.
If a guy instantly labels me a slag/slut/tart/slapper because I happen to enjoy sex, I think I am equally guilty of labelling him a....
moronic, narrow-minded, immature, pathetic c**t!
Quote by redpantherman
...derogitory terms such as the word 'tart' will stay as such until its embraced so as to enhance sexual play between consenting adults...

I got off big time giving & recieving consentual verbal abuse during sex - no holds barred!
When the 'label' thing goes both ways it can be a mindblower!
It's not for everbody though
I remember a few years ago b4 we were swingers, we were on a works party and this woman ended up in the toilets with 2 men, everything was consented to, but then in the following weeks the guys started telling everyone at work what went on, she got labeled the "slag/slut" and the guys didnt get called anything,
now maybe the place may not have been the best place to do it, but it doesnt make any of them a bad person for fulfilling their sexual fantasys with consenting adults,
Wot he said. Call me a slut or a whore when im riding ya.....i'll ride faster & harder.
Call me a slut or a whore in a derogatory manner..... :sparring:
Quote by winchwench
Wot he said. Call me a slut or a whore when im riding ya.....i'll ride faster & harder.

Now she tells me :shock:
:beer: cheers for the replys and for going easy on me , all the comments above were great, now i know i can call myself a tart anytime and only call the lady or tv im with a tart or slut as long as im riding her hard :twisted:
I used to work with a guy who shagged around behind his wife's back - he did so frequently (especially when she was expecting their first child) yet called his wife a slag for shagging one guy.
I stopped talking to him in any context that didn't involve work - I couldn't bring myself to be civil to him as his attitude made my fists clench.
Personally, if someone is getting a lot of sex, then yes I am envious, but I'm not into labelling someone for it - if they're having that much fun, then good for them cool
For me the term Slag has one of 2 meanings....
Molten metal or.....

rotflmao :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
(For those of you that dont know me.....yes I am that mad..... wink )
Possibly the way i would look at it as far as labels go is not the actual label itself, but when it's used, how it's used and more importantly why. As mentioned above mainly at a time when people are bragging about experiences with someone or just wanting to be disrespectful - but in the right context, at the right time - a little different. wink
Quote by PoloLady
Women are slags.....Men are studs!!........this attitude fucking pisses me off!!
At the end of the day women are the one's controlling things its up to them wether they meet a guy and want sex, their word is final.I guess guys don't like that and feel threatend by it....so they label liberal girls as slags!!....when they are nothing more than puppets on strings themselves!!

I suppose the label thing does work both ways though.
If a guy instantly labels me a slag/slut/tart/slapper because I happen to enjoy sex, I think I am equally guilty of labelling him a....
moronic, narrow-minded, immature, pathetic c**t!
Spot on !
It's not the words you use, it's the way you use them and what you are trying to do with them that causes the problem. Society has spent generations making sure women were not empowered, and the language developed to support this way of thinking.
Now that things have changed, language will have to adapt too - we should start here.