If only they knew

21 May 2004

I was just having a ponder about all this swinging and was just wishing i could sit down with a mte and talk all about it,but unfortunately i can't :cry: :cry:
Unfortunately all our family and friends seem to be extremely opinionated and would never agree with what we do,even though it is our choice and our private life.
In one way its not a bad thing as i can sit at work thinking,"if only you knew" biggrin

:D :D
But still would love to be able to tell someone.
I was wondering if you all have this same problem or if your lucky enough to have friends who are open minded and can talk about anything with,if you are you don't realise how lucky you are lol

:lol: :lol:
Clare,xx

21 May 2004

Natural girlie thought . Women are a lot more consensual than men . This needs them to share feelings and ideas more . However you know that in this case it would only cause arguments and so you cannnot follow your natural inclinations ( so the choice is do what you want , or say what you want , not a difficult decison ). Just enjoy the sex , and share the enjoying with your partner , oh and post me any details you want to !

21 May 2004

I agree with Clare, and maybe it IS a girlie thought, but I'm lucky enough to have a best friend who not only listens to all the rubbish I spout when I'm drunk, but also never judges me for it. She knows that I'm a member on here and that I've been to a swinging club.
I think there's a part of her that would love to be so liberated, maybe she listens because in some way she can live out the fantasy in her head (maybe she even builds her own fantasies around it?)
Whatever the reason, I'm just glad I have such a good non-judgemental friend, and Clare, I DO realise just how lucky I am biggrin

21 May 2004

I don't really give it that much thought to be honest, swinging is just one part of my life. Some of my friends know, some I would never dream of telling. I'm not that fussed if people find out, the worst that can happen is that they'll giggle a bit but it would soon be yesterdays news. I suppose I do sometimes think "if only you knew", but it's in a naughty way - I quite like having secrets cool

21 May 2004

Clare,
I know this may sound silly, but are there any female SH Forum members near you? Maybe talking with them may help.
Just some ramblings from a bloke...

21 May 2004

Quote by JQL
Clare,
I know this may sound silly, but are there any female SH Forum members near you? Maybe talking with them may help.
Just some ramblings from a bloke...

Not that i know of im afraid,ive got some good friends that ive made from SH but just not quite the same as chatting to a mate though.
Thanks for the thought though.
But to tell you the truth i am quite enjoying the fact that only me and steve know about it,especially what we get up to during the w/ends,mmmmmmmmmmmmm wink

:wink: :wink: :wink:

21 May 2004

my best friend is a girl and i can't tell her,not because she would judge me but because i know that we have a different look on i couldn't be doing with the interrogation,but i have a close male friend who i do share stuff with and he is so cool with it.
Personally i think that swinging is the new "gay" thing,i mean being gay was an issue(and still is for some) but as a whole society has now become more relaxed and open about sexuality.i just think as long as people talk about it then myths will be broken and the truth will prevail,that we're not perverts or sexual deviants,but we're regular people who choose to swing. Chin up claire xx

21 May 2004

Quote by daffodilbbw
we're not perverts or sexual deviants,but we're regular people who choose to swing.

Well said

:boink: :boink:

21 May 2004

In a word yes. sad

You know my situation and how I feel about all of this.
It is hard, but at least you have 1 person (Steve) you can share things with.

21 May 2004

I think this idea might be woth another airing confused

:
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/10662.html

22 May 2004

Thanks everyone for your comments on this,its ike having a whole seperate group of friends on here biggrin

:D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D :D

22 May 2004

that we are clare kiss

:kiss: :kiss: :kiss: :kiss: friends x

22 May 2004

Ahem, folks. Please look at my post above and click on the link. The original thread has just had a new lease of life and rightly so. We really ought to see this through :!:

23 May 2004

Thanks westerross,have had a look and its not a bad idea,but would it really work????????????????????????????

23 May 2004

I think it could but it would have to be very carefully thought through and policed. It may be that the badge might have to be changed periodically or something like that.
Besides, I'm what I think they call a Hanger rather than a Swinger (unfortunately) and so I probably wouldn't qualify for one. But I still think it's a good idea for those that do.