If you felt suspicious would you carry on?

27 Mar 2008

When on a 'meet' has anyone ever got that "Oh no, I don't think I/we want to be here feeling? I have. It was totally unfounded and we met and had a great time with this guy. It was a quite while back J, the Mrs didn't have the same feeling of foreboding as I did and on this occasion thank god she was right.
Dont get me wrong the guy had done/said/acted in no way as to make me suspicious but i got nervous. really nervous. The meet went ahead and was good the guy enjoyed we enjoyed in the end totally satisfactory.
On the way home I did explain my fears to Mrs Lost who said next time that I should of said and we would of left it at that. I must admit though it was a well creepy feeling, not nice at all. It really filled me with dread at one point but there was nothing i could put my finger on so the susp[icion was unfounded.
Anyone else ever get THAT feelong ?

27 Mar 2008

Yep. Me and Dai went to meet a lady one evening and although it was just a social, there was something about her that I just didn't like. Couldn't put my finger on it as she seemed really friendly, funny and nice to chat to but something was not quite right.
Needless to say Dai was rather disappointed but he understood.

27 Mar 2008

i had a bad feeling about someone before we met and kept saying no to them but eventually they wore me down and i met them altho still a bit unsure
now i wish id listened to myself in the first place cus it was a very bad mistake that ended up causing me masive problems !

27 Mar 2008

Quote by Sassy-Seren
Yep. Me and Dai went to meet a lady one evening and although it was just a social, there was something about her that I just didn't like. Couldn't put my finger on it as she seemed really friendly, funny and nice to chat to but something was not quite right.
Needless to say Dai was rather disappointed but he understood.

Would it have been better if I'd taken the wig off?
I don't think we've ever experienced this but then we've tended not to meet people 'cold' so far. We prefer to get to know 'em a bit first.
.

27 Mar 2008

I think Mrs Mustard and I are like yourself westerross, we only meet at a club and build up that relashionship and trust, dont think we'd ever meet cold as Mrs Mustard would just not be comfortable with that.
However should we ever be in that situation I'd have to listen to my feelings and get out of there as politely as was possible. Sod taking the risk of having a good time or not, we could meet the 3rd party another time after we're discussed our feelings/concerns about that original meet.

27 Mar 2008

Instincts, feelings, hunches.
They are natures way of protecting you.
My advice is to listen to yourself and share what u sense with your loved ones.

27 Mar 2008

Oh gosh,
I met someone who I did think over the phone was a little bit weird. But was sure my instinct was wrong.
Met in a public place in a town far from mine.
His first words were, 'is it not really risky meeting strangers on your own'
That is the quickest I have drunk a lime and soda. I politely told him that I wouldn't be meeting him again let along having sex with him.
2 days later I get a call at mid-night from him telling me that 'I have my mate here and we were wondering whether we could come round and fuck you together'
my reply 'are you out of your mind?- no'
his response 'you are missing out on the best shag of your life'
my response ' I think I can take that risk' I swiftly hung up.
rolleyes

my attitude now... if it don't feel 100% right then step away.
Our instinct is natures way of protecting us.

27 Mar 2008

If you instinctively feel something is wrong, the probability is that something is wrong. In that case discretion is the better part of valour and your best bet is to make excuses and leave.

27 Mar 2008

Yep we have had that happen too Lost. We always meet in public place, ensuring that the meet is on neutral ground for all.
We met up with a single female, whom I had doubts over, for a chat and it quickly became clear she was playing up to an audience. Her other half was so obviously the man sitting on his own, not reading a newspaper biggrin

, giving us sneaky glances.
We only told her we knew he was there at the end of our meeting. She was sooooooooooooooooo embarrassed but we laughed and said we hoped she enjoyed herself when she got home and Mr Newspaper Man joined her............................

27 Mar 2008

I think if you don't feel right about it, you won't be able to perfrom well either. So one has to trust one's first instincts.
However it would probably be a reasonable encounter if other factors were either in or not in place on the occasion.
The fear of the 'other' person is also felt by that person about you, who may well be drawing the same conclusions about you.
In which case; more often than not opportunites are missed, if it hadn't been due to the circumstances at the time.
I have fled a few encounters, being more worried than frightened. Luckily in some case I got to go back and found that it was quite an enjoyable encounter.
But in other cases, told quite distinctly to sod off for being a timewaster. redface

27 Mar 2008

Yep... funny thing was it was more to do with some of the 'politics' he was espousing rather than anything else - didn't feel comfortable at all in his company, so made me excuses and left.
Not saying that everyone I play with has to be of the same mindset as I am, but I don't normally hang out with folk I consider bigots so saw this as no reason to start doing so!
Maybe it would've been great sex, but hey ho!
Nola x

27 Mar 2008

I went on a meet with a lady a few months ago, and didn't feel quite right about her, but went with it anyway. Because I had a nagging doubt in the back of my mind, I didn't perform as I would have liked and it later turned out she wasn't the person she said she was and I was lucky not to have been caused a lot of problems from her, so I wish I had gone with my instincts.
By the way, it was no one from here biggrin