Im going back to Northumberland and luckily am arranging for K to keep the kids 13 miles a2way.
Thankfully we are talking at the moment but being told by certain parties not to dismiss the fact that there may be another fella on the scene. This gutted me initially but brought about an interesteing point. I was willing to share K in a swinging sense so would i have been so disturbed had it been in a controlled enviroment?
Needless to say i'm still up for the NE munch and meeting you all.
i have moved on a great deal and find myself relishing a single life again.
I am considering a long period of being a male slag but hey that would mean upsetting someone!!! :shock:
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Orgasminator
Good for you Moorhopper.
It's nice that your kids are close too.
I'm sure that you will enjoy your new found freedom and look forward to meeting you at the munch.
Take care.
CA xxx
It's nice that your kids are close too.
I'm sure that you will enjoy your new found freedom and look forward to meeting you at the munch.
Take care.
CA xxx
Orgasminator
Well Db and I have recently split up but are still living in the same house - I know what you mean about feeling ike a naughty teenager - our sex life sex has improved no end :twisted: :twisted: and it feels so good. I think, it's because we aren't a 'couple' anymore and we are seeing each other in a different light!
It's always a shame when relationships break down but if it has to be done - it has to be done.
It's always a shame when relationships break down but if it has to be done - it has to be done.
There may be a chance you 2 get back together?
We aren't having sex at all (her skin crawls at the thought apparently)
I suppose K doesn't need sex so to her its not the be all and end all. Or she is getting it elsewheer!
I shouldn't torture myself.
Funnily enough i am more confident now and for the first time saw her eyebrows raised as i spent £500 on a clothes shopping trip
No No No No I don't want her to change her mind
We aren't having sex at all (her skin crawls at the thought apparently)
I suppose K doesn't need sex so to her its not the be all and end all. Or she is getting it elsewheer!
I shouldn't torture myself.
Funnily enough i am more confident now and for the first time saw her eyebrows raised as i spent £500 on a clothes shopping trip
No No No No I don't want her to change her mind
Orgasminator
DB and I aren't getting back together - we're more like soul mates, we tell each other anything and everything.
Funnily enough we weren't having sex for a good while before we split - I had a hysterectomy a few years ago and I sure the bloody surgeon removed my sex drive when she took my bits
Seem to have found it again now though with a little extra added :lol: :lol: :twisted:
Next time you go shopping, give me a call - if you can spend that much on clothes and have a good time doing it, you sound like a great guy to go shopping with :lol:
CA xxx
Funnily enough we weren't having sex for a good while before we split - I had a hysterectomy a few years ago and I sure the bloody surgeon removed my sex drive when she took my bits
Seem to have found it again now though with a little extra added :lol: :lol: :twisted: Next time you go shopping, give me a call - if you can spend that much on clothes and have a good time doing it, you sound like a great guy to go shopping with :lol:
CA xxx
I spent that much because we have 2 kids under 4 and in 4 years i have spent little on clothes.
I decided one day to go and restock the wardrobe as ive lost over 3 stone since december.
I was looking like a grunge teenager with a 38 yr old face
However i am considering another shpping trip soon so ill let you know.
Ohh btw i made sure they were labels It bugged her as she is Materialiistic
I decided one day to go and restock the wardrobe as ive lost over 3 stone since december.
I was looking like a grunge teenager with a 38 yr old face
However i am considering another shpping trip soon so ill let you know.
Ohh btw i made sure they were labels It bugged her as she is Materialiistic
Orgasminator
Well done you for losing all that weight - although I'm sure the reason for it was not a good one :sad:
I bet you felt really good when she saw all the labels - go on - admit it - you did didn't you!!!!
I bet you felt really good when she saw all the labels - go on - admit it - you did didn't you!!!!
II wasa lil overwight but decided to go on WW and excercise (no sign of marriage problems) Lost the required weight to get lean again but the last few pounds were easy with the news from K
Needless to say im fit and slim so at leat she let me get back into shape before i ended up on the shelf
Needless to say im fit and slim so at leat she let me get back into shape before i ended up on the shelf
Orgasminator
Quote by MOORHOPPER
Needless to say im fit and slim so at leat she let me get back into shape before i ended up on the shelf
Don't think of yourself as 'on the shelf'!!!!!!!!!
You are now:-
Fit, slim and ready for action
CA xxx
I suddenly started getting serious about going the gym about 4 months before I split up with my girlfriend - managed to get fit & slim just as we split. it's the best way in the world to say 'up yours' to your ex. :twisted:
Having said that, I have wondered if we subconsciously know these things are going to happen, and start getting ready for them
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CM
Having said that, I have wondered if we subconsciously know these things are going to happen, and start getting ready for them
: CM
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Hey mate. Good to see you so upbeat and positive. Keep this attitude up and you'll be fine.
Just remember....don't let the b*****ds grind you down. :mrgreen:
Just remember....don't let the b*****ds grind you down. :mrgreen:
I am that upbeat like ascrambled egg in space :shock:
Had a couple viewing the house and it didnt bother me at all.
The place has too many memories.
She is going to Scotland to see her mum and dad with the kids at the weekend.
I asked her who would be looking after her horses as i normally do that.
She looked bemused as i think she assumed i would.
Its great to give her some of her own medicine. Anyway off to book my 4 year olds party.
The chheky cow asked me to stay out on that evening 14th August after the party as her mother and friend were stopping over.
INewcastle are playing pm so i made a comment about being kicked out of my own home but i had intended to stay out anyway.
Time the great healer
Had a couple viewing the house and it didnt bother me at all.
The place has too many memories.
She is going to Scotland to see her mum and dad with the kids at the weekend.
I asked her who would be looking after her horses as i normally do that.
She looked bemused as i think she assumed i would.
Its great to give her some of her own medicine. Anyway off to book my 4 year olds party.
The chheky cow asked me to stay out on that evening 14th August after the party as her mother and friend were stopping over.
INewcastle are playing pm so i made a comment about being kicked out of my own home but i had intended to stay out anyway.
Time the great healer
Sex God
Quote by MOORHOPPER
. Anyway off to book my 4 year olds party.
The chheky cow asked me to stay out on that evening 14th August after the party as her mother and friend were stopping over.
Repay the favour (if you want to get involved in a bit of tit for tat) and ask her to clear off as you're having a lads night in.
*easy stands at the front of the que with a dozen bottles of beer, an extra-large, stuff-crust pizza, a collection of DVDs (
:giggle: ) and the phone numbers of a couple of local strippers*:smug:
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Hope they're male.....
Nope :smug:
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and look like Ewan McGregor or Gavin Hastings???
Hmmmmm not sure about that one. It was very dark at the time.
:shock: :lol: :lol: The games have started a month early
I have had a heart to heart with K and told her i wasnt going to stand in her way but i wanted 1 day one week and 2 the next plus a weekend in two (to see the kids)
she initially accepted but was very forceful about wanting a divorce (to finalise) Then she said she'd adhere if i gave her a divorce
Safter more protracted negotiations she said it would be hard to do 1 and 2 without setting up a calander I agreed but suggested the one day week be staggered as in one fortnite Friday the next Thursday and then Wednesday etc
she said NO as that would mean she not seeing the kids for 3 nites
I said well im not seeing them for 5 nitesa t a time but she said she was there mum and Christopher was her baby and would be affected :shock:
So i argued the point and she threatened again if i didnt give her a divorce then all negotiations were over
Then she said with a parting shot
If we go to court I have a couple of trump cards????????????????????????
ive never been unfaithful So what could it be
I have had a heart to heart with K and told her i wasnt going to stand in her way but i wanted 1 day one week and 2 the next plus a weekend in two (to see the kids)
she initially accepted but was very forceful about wanting a divorce (to finalise) Then she said she'd adhere if i gave her a divorce
Safter more protracted negotiations she said it would be hard to do 1 and 2 without setting up a calander I agreed but suggested the one day week be staggered as in one fortnite Friday the next Thursday and then Wednesday etc
she said NO as that would mean she not seeing the kids for 3 nites
I said well im not seeing them for 5 nitesa t a time but she said she was there mum and Christopher was her baby and would be affected :shock:
So i argued the point and she threatened again if i didnt give her a divorce then all negotiations were over
Then she said with a parting shot
If we go to court I have a couple of trump cards????????????????????????
ive never been unfaithful So what could it be
The courts are to work out the best for the children, not the best for K. How well this works, I have no idea as not dealt with them ........ but unless her 'trump cards' involve anything that can be proved you are a danger to the kids, then they're really not gonna be worth a lot.
I absolutely detest people that hold their kids in front of them and use the poor dots as bargaining tools. There's a friend of a friend doing exactly that at the moment who I know, poor bloke is having a hard time trying to work out access.
you will probably also find that you will both have to attend mediation before things go to court. Just make sure you fight your kids corner .......at the end of the day their stability and security is the most important thing of all. If you allow yourself to be drawn into slanging matches with her, then it will not do either of you any good, or make either of you look particularly good to the mediators.
The thing with mediation is that you will be able to see things as she is looking at them and she can see them from your point of view. It's very easy to get the wrong end of the stick when embroiled in bitter arguments .... people tend to focus on getting the other person to see their point of view, without looking at their partners.
So if you have to, note down her arguments, go away, think about them, then discuss them with her. Putting her at ease is important too - she's gotta know that you're not doing anything out of spite or to be awkward. Most people think that the other one is just doing something to be nasty, then you end up in a vicious circle.
Like I said, I've not gone through any of this ....... my ex just never has the kids
...... so could be talking out my arse there. It's just my thoughts from the outside looking in, which sometimes can be helpful 
Good luck anyway hunny
I absolutely detest people that hold their kids in front of them and use the poor dots as bargaining tools. There's a friend of a friend doing exactly that at the moment who I know, poor bloke is having a hard time trying to work out access.
you will probably also find that you will both have to attend mediation before things go to court. Just make sure you fight your kids corner .......at the end of the day their stability and security is the most important thing of all. If you allow yourself to be drawn into slanging matches with her, then it will not do either of you any good, or make either of you look particularly good to the mediators.
The thing with mediation is that you will be able to see things as she is looking at them and she can see them from your point of view. It's very easy to get the wrong end of the stick when embroiled in bitter arguments .... people tend to focus on getting the other person to see their point of view, without looking at their partners.
So if you have to, note down her arguments, go away, think about them, then discuss them with her. Putting her at ease is important too - she's gotta know that you're not doing anything out of spite or to be awkward. Most people think that the other one is just doing something to be nasty, then you end up in a vicious circle.
Like I said, I've not gone through any of this ....... my ex just never has the kids
...... so could be talking out my arse there. It's just my thoughts from the outside looking in, which sometimes can be helpful Good luck anyway hunny
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Quote by MISSCHIEF
The courts are to work out the best for the children, not the best for K. How well this works, I have no idea as not dealt with them ........ but unless her 'trump cards' involve anything that can be proved you are a danger to the kids, then they're really not gonna be worth a lot.
I absolutely detest people that hold their kids in front of them and use the poor dots as bargaining tools. There's a friend of a friend doing exactly that at the moment who I know, poor bloke is having a hard time trying to work out access.
you will probably also find that you will both have to attend mediation before things go to court. Just make sure you fight your kids corner ....... at the end of the day their stability and security is the most important thing of all. If you allow yourself to be drawn into slanging matches with her, then it will not do either of you any good, or make either of you look particularly good to the mediators.
The thing with mediation is that you will be able to see things as she is looking at them and she can see them from your point of view. It's very easy to get the wrong end of the stick when embroiled in bitter arguments .... people tend to focus on getting the other person to see their point of view, without looking at their partners.
So if you have to, note down her arguments, go away, think about them, then discuss them with her. Putting her at ease is important too - she's gotta know that you're not doing anything out of spite or to be awkward. Most people think that the other one is just doing something to be nasty, then you end up in a vicious circle.
Like I said, I've not gone through any of this ....... my ex just never has the kids
Good luck anyway hunny
Well said Heather.
MOORHOPPER PM sent
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