No you explained it well.
I've had long term relationship where I felt we could have stayed together long term but I would say it was a case of loving as opposed to being in love with the person and I ended up fancying someone at work and having a fling which caused a breakup. To me that meant something was lacking but obviously I felt very guilty about it, still do.
If we'd stayed together we would have been married by now but I don't regret it as marriage just does not appeal to me - the idea of it is like being buried alive! The expectation that you will have sex with one person for rest of your life fills me with horror!
I just don't think I'm up to it.
Swinging is a way round it but still subverting the essential vows in my opinion and seen as ' '/kept quiet about (not criticising at all, that's just how I see it).
Yes but it's a vow! Lol
You take it and are supposed to stick to it presumably otherwise why bother?
I have decided that Swinging is rule breaking for people who don't really like breaking the rules.
ie it's quite conformist really.
Yes but adultery is the rule breaking part if you're married and people aren't doing that, they have found a safe/sanitised form of adultery in swinging hence it's not really rule breaking.
A real rule breaker would not swing, they'd just go out and shag other people on the quiet.
Though I've no doubt a fair bit of playing away on the sly does in fact go on on the swinging scene - it's inevitable; human nature.
As an active single male some years ago,( i sound like a bloody secret agent, im very much retired now. ) the same thing happened to me with a couple who i met on a regular basis, i actually think the husband activley encouraged it for some reason. it started becoming a bit ott, so i decided enough was enough, i still get the odd text on the work phone now and then.
Oh sorry I thought you were
Well you've got a very understanding partner then!
Bet you've never actually done one each day of the week
Well me and Rich where both swingers when we meet, after about a year I told him I loved him now we are living together so its not always a bad thing when you tell a swinger you love them.
I know I'm weird, I put it down to my unusual childhood, but I have a huge strong burning in me to love, hug, cuddle kiss the face off, feel as if I'm in love with, sexual partners.
Hence I don't meet people very often, for my, and their sanity. :neutral:
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