im new

20 May 2005

hi all im sharron (34) im bi and love sex i do have a partner but hes not in to sex so im here alone without his concent i hope i dont upset anyone on here as im going behind my partners back. im looking for single males or couples for no string fun im from north nottinghamshire area evil

20 May 2005

Believe me, sharron, saying you are a woman who loves sex and is looking for no strings fun is not going to upset many single men! Even couples have trouble finding the "elusive single bi-fem"...... smile

20 May 2005

ello and welcome sharron have fun

20 May 2005

i no im cheating but i have been honist with you guys if you dont want to play then thats up to you but im sure there will be others that do, everyone has there own ruls. I no my boyfriend will be mad if he new but we have tryed talking and nothing gets sorted out the more i moan at him for sex the more we argue. so im on here like i said i dont want to fall out with you guys if your not happy with the way im going about this then just ignore my adverts cool

20 May 2005

Quote by Sexysteph
Maybe so but many will still encourage her to be honest with her partner and maybe put herself in his place and think how he will feel when he finds out she is playing behind his back. Surely she should be looking at that relationship if she feels she needs to play away - it's still cheating when push comes to shove
Please think carefully before Playing Sharron is a rumble in the sack really worth risking your relationship with your partner?
Sorry to be so negative honey but I would be a hypocrite if I said anything else. Cheating is cheating no matter which sex does it and I reckon personally that one needs honesty in a relationship or there is no real relationship.
Best of luck whatever you decide
Steph

Well said Steph smile

If this was a married guy saying the same thing he would be put down at the first hurdle.
It gets me that this, ( I think) is the first time this has been said about fems doing this, and there is a few on here that I know of, but cheating is cheating man or woman and I can't and won't condone it.

20 May 2005

Quote by anothersharron
i no im cheating but i have been honist with you guys if you dont want to play then thats up to you but im sure there will be others that do, everyone has there own ruls. I no my boyfriend will be mad if he new but we have tryed talking and nothing gets sorted out the more i moan at him for sex the more we argue. so im on here like i said i dont want to fall out with you guys if your not happy with the way im going about this then just ignore my adverts

I wish you well :!: wink

20 May 2005

pm sent

20 May 2005

Quote by anothersharron
i no im cheating but i have been honist with you guys if you dont want to play then thats up to you but im sure there will be others that do, everyone has there own ruls. I no my boyfriend will be mad if he new but we have tryed talking and nothing gets sorted out the more i moan at him for sex the more we argue. so im on here like i said i dont want to fall out with you guys if your not happy with the way im going about this then just ignore my adverts

Umm, gonna add my tuppence worth and ask.... why not break up with him? Then you can get all the sex you want, and not offend anyone

20 May 2005

anyway i havent come on here to be judged if you dont like what im doing thats your problem not mine im on here for no strings sex if i wanted to join a church group i would of insted of joining a swinging club so everyone have fun doing what you do and im sure i will have fun doing what im doing wink

20 May 2005

Quote by anothersharron
anyway i havent come on here to be judged if you dont like what im doing thats your problem not mine im on here for no strings sex if i wanted to join a church group i would of insted of joining a swinging club so everyone have fun doing what you do and im sure i will have fun doing what im doing

Well think what you would have said to him if in the earlier days of your marrige when you were content with what you had, only to find out he was screwing behind your back ????

20 May 2005

Quote by anothersharron
if i wanted to join a church group i would of insted of joining a swinging club

How do you know we are not a church group disguised as a swinging site! wink

20 May 2005

Quote by da69ve
if i wanted to join a church group i would of insted of joining a swinging club

How do you know we are not a church group disguised a swinging site! wink

The amount of people here going "Oh Christ!.... Jesus!..... Oh, I'm in Heaven!....." etc should be a dead giveaway lol

20 May 2005

Well think what you would have said to him if in the earlier days of your marrige when you were content with what you had, only to find out he was screwing behind your back ????
if he was into sex that much i wouldnt need to be on here

20 May 2005

Get him on here - he might be interested then!

20 May 2005

who gives a damn whether she's cheating or not !!!! Isn't sleeping with somebody even with the consent of ure partner not cheating??? think about it !!!!

20 May 2005

Ash, stick to glory holes, dont try to get all intellectual!
wink

20 May 2005

Quote by Ash1809
who gives a damn whether she's cheating or not !!!! Isn't sleeping with somebody even with the consent of ure partner not cheating??? think about it !!!!

Total rubbish....like happycats said stick to gloryholes !

20 May 2005

hi you sexybabe you look very sexy in that outfit biggrin

20 May 2005

seems i have only been here a few hours and upset a few people already maybe i should try a different sight where people dont judge you for being honist maybe i should just of not told the truth and said i was single then steph would of slept with me :twisted: evil

20 May 2005

Quote by Sexysteph
. . . . you were very honest and I really applaud you for that but ....

Me too.
I'm not going to get into any debate about morality or Sharron's own relationship or situation, but I do applaud and appreciate her honesty.
Avatar's quite horny too wink

20 May 2005

...continuing the biblical theme......
Surely this should be a non-judgemental forum? What people do with their own lives is up to them- no outsider can know the drivers and situations.
After all, many people in the big wide world would be happy to judge anyone in here as "bad" just by nature of their very presence in such a forum, no?
mad

? Nah.... not worth it. cool

21 May 2005

hi there. i dont judge, were all just people out to get the most from life. welcome aboard hon

21 May 2005

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21 May 2005

well your honest & open sharon & if your've upset people on here well they dont have to contact you or meet up .
I think its the right thing to do tell the truth & stand by the courage of your convictions its not as though your in the pub pulling the 1st stranger you see ,at least here you can weed out the fools ,time wasters & undesirables so good luck to you in your quest for fun. wink

I must say though your outfit is quite stunning .
hope you dont mind but I have sent you a pm as well x.

21 May 2005

well thank you every one i will be staying i hope to meet up with some of you very soon till then have fun and dont do anything that i wouldnt do wink

21 May 2005

lol don't u just love cheaters who come on here saying.....i'm being honest with u?
its not us u need to be honest with wink

you know what pees me off and i know i say this a lot, there are married and cheating sites and as swingers we are not welcome to join as we are not classed as what their site is all about, so why can cheaters come into swinging sites, i personally feel they give genuine swingers a bad name, suggesting we have no morrals and will 'shag' anything which most genuine swingers wont, heres a question to all u guys out there who seem to think this is ok......is swinging not about openess and honesty? about mutual respect to others and enhancing ur sex life without hurting others? well tell me how playing away is any of the above and if u convince me i for one will welcome cheaters with open arms, and legs come to that lol :wink:
ok off my soap box now
Alison biggrin

P.S kinda spooky ur 34 and from mansfield? didn't got to queen elizabeths did u, hope u wasn't in my class lol

21 May 2005

no i didnt alison but i have been to chams a few times though (with my partner)
its just a shame it wasnt for him xxx

21 May 2005

Quote by naughtynymphos1
lol don't u just love cheaters who come on here saying.....i'm being honest with u?
its not us u need to be honest with
you know what pees me off and i know i say this a lot, there are married and cheating sites and as swingers we are not welcome to join as we are not classed as what their site is all about, so why can cheaters come into swinging sites, i personally feel they give genuine swingers a bad name, suggesting we have no morrals and will 'shag' anything which most genuine swingers wont, heres a question to all u guys out there who seem to think this is ok......is swinging not about openess and honesty? about mutual respect to others and enhancing ur sex life without hurting others? well tell me how playing away is any of the above and if u convince me i for one will welcome cheaters with open arms, and legs come to that lol :wink:
ok off my soap box now
Alison
P.S kinda spooky ur 34 and from mansfield? didn't got to queen elizabeths did u, hope u wasn't in my class lol

This is a tricky one Alison. I think it is wrong to judge, but ok to share non-judgemental opinions.
I applaud new steph's honesty on here and am sad that she doesn't feel able to be honest with her partner.
When I was a naive teen watching hollywood romantic bollocks for my education about relationships (I won't betray my age by naming any actors, you'll have to read my ad :wink: ) I had these weird ideals about falling in love and being able to be totally honest with my partner. And I mean totally honest. Then I grew up and got married, thought I had real love, but was never able to share my every thought, feeling, fantasy etc. The norm I guess. :cry:
Then divorce, and before long the relationship I dreamed of. The "norm" at first, but our trust built and built. Bit by bit I shared my real self, and now even though we are not together any more I have one person that I can and do share absolutely anything with and it is wonderful. I hope in the future I never have to settle for a rel with anything less than this.
So it is possible to be totallyhonest with the right person. All it takes (ha ha) is total non-judgemental acceptance of each other no matter what. Easy huh!? :wink: But it does exist.
Good luck and keep trying to be accepting and expect to be accepted, exactly as you are! Of all the places to find people into this kind of honesty and acceptance I expected to find it here, although I have seen quite a lot of judgement and intolerance too in my first couple of months here. Just the "norm" :wink:
Mark

21 May 2005

I just love people who judge others for a situation they probably aren't in & possibly never have been in!!!
I think there are lots of men & (shock, horror) women too on this site that are not quite as open & honest with their partners as they could be.
But that is their business & they will have their reasons for it.
If I condoned your behaviour I'd probably be PMing you trying to get to know you a little better wink

If I didn't condone it then I would keep my trap shut & give you the benefit of the doubt that deceit wasn't your first option to resolve your relationship problems & try to understand why you have to do what you do.
Sometimes I think it would be nice if others kept a little more quiet when they disagree with someone elses lifestyle choices/decisions. We don't all live in a happy, open relationship despite our best endeavours and sometimes we have to make the most of the cards we have been dealt.
Good luck to you Sharron & anyone that finds themselves in a similar situation.

21 May 2005

Totally agree with you littlemee. Every time someone says they are playing away they get castigated for it. It's no one's business but the people concerned. If you don't want to play with people that are playing away then don't...but don't judge them. By society's standards we are all cheaters.