Im new to this....any suggestions

22 Oct 2005

Hi, I am a mature female in a awesome relationship with a man I adore. He was a swinger with his x wife for 25 years. We have a great sex life, but he has encouraged me toward a more sexually open relationship. We are both very honest people, I would like to begin to move toward this new experience with him. I want it to work and be a positive experience for both of us. Does any one have any suggestions that would help me facilitate this happening? Thanks, Patience.

22 Oct 2005

Patience?
Sorry I couldn't resist. redface

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Welcome to SH. wave

I'm sure you're gonna get lots of helpful replies smile

:)

22 Oct 2005

you make sure you know the boundaries your comfortable with and stick to them, no matter what.
but if your not comfy with the idea say so now b4 it's too late :cry:

22 Oct 2005

:welcome: hope all go's well for you. I will leave the advice part to more experienced forum members smile

22 Oct 2005

Quote by patience
Hi, I am a mature female in a awesome relationship with a man I adore. He was a swinger with his x wife for 25 years. We have a great sex life, but he has encouraged me toward a more sexually open relationship. We are both very honest people, I would like to begin to move toward this new experience with him. I want it to work and be a positive experience for both of us. Does any one have any suggestions that would help me facilitate this happening? Thanks, Patience.

Are you doing this because it is what YOU want to do, in your own right? Or is there , maybe, and I am not saying this is the case, you are exploring swinging because you think it may please the man you adore?
If it is the latter, then you may find that swinging isn't for you. (though you may be surprised biggrin

)
Here are a couple of questions: Had you thought about swinging before you met this fella?
Would it make your relationship better if you saw him with another woman?
Do you feel pushed into this? ( you said he'd encouraged.....)