My wife and I have been together for over 20 years and have sex 2 or 3 times a week during which I usually end up being masturbated by her to orgasm, instead of, or after intercourse. My wife enjoys intercourse, has never achieved orgasm through intercourse alone (either with me or other guys) and I always make sure she is the first to she is not in the mood for sex she is happy for me to masturbate myself while in bed with her. We think we have an adventurous sex life, use sex toys and watch porn.
I would be interested to know if this is normal behaviour for a couple in a steady relationship or do the majority always orgasm during intercourse and how male masturbation fits into other relationships, particularly from the womans perspective.
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Quote by lyonnais
I would be interested to know if this is normal behaviour for a couple in a steady relationship
Normal to who?
If you enjoy and feel comfortable in the way that you do things then it is of course normal, to you. Theres no rights or wrongs just whichever way you like to do it.
Louise xx
ps I said all that without saying the M word
its just one of those words that I dont like. 
Sex God
Quote by louise_and_joe
I would be interested to know if this is normal behaviour for a couple in a steady relationship
Normal to who?
If you enjoy and feel comfortable in the way that you do things then it is of course normal, to you. Theres no rights or wrongs just whichever way you like to do it.
Louise xx
ps I said all that without saying the M word
its just one of those words that I dont like.What Louise you cAn't say MASTURBATION? :grin:
Sex God
Quote by louise_and_joe
I would be interested to know if this is normal behaviour for a couple in a steady relationship
Normal to who?
If you enjoy and feel comfortable in the way that you do things then it is of course normal, to you. Theres no rights or wrongs just whichever way you like to do it.
Louise xx
Couldn't have put it any better :thumbup:
There is no right or wrong way to enjoy your own personal sex life, you can only do what's right for the both of you.
Personally, I wouldn't like Jay to lie beside me masturbating while I wasn't participating - if he did I would 99% of the time end up getting turned on and join him. He does of course do this but only when it's the wrong time of the month for me or if we're going through a particular horny patch and I'm at work - but always alone.
We mutually masturbate each other but nearly always orgasm together in various ways, internally, externally whatever and however the feeling takes us.
I think I have the higher sex drive in any event and have around 2-3 orgasms a day and sometimes video them on my mobile and send them to him while he's at work :grin:
Personally, I wouldn't like Jay to lie beside me masturbating while I wasn't participating - if he did I would 99% of the time end up getting turned on and join him. He does of course do this but only when it's the wrong time of the month for me or if we're going through a particular horny patch and I'm at work - but always alone.
We mutually masturbate each other but nearly always orgasm together in various ways, internally, externally whatever and however the feeling takes us.
I think I have the higher sex drive in any event and have around 2-3 orgasms a day and sometimes video them on my mobile and send them to him while he's at work :grin:
Quote by lyonnais
My wife and I have been together for over 20 years and have sex 2 or 3 times a week during which I usually end up being masturbated by her to orgasm, instead of, or after intercourse.
I've been with Lairdy for nearly 19 years ( :shock: jeez, gave myself a jolt there when I realised how long it was!)and from a woman's point of view, sometimes you just can't be bothered with it running down your leg for the best part of the next day so either use a condom occasionally or wank him off!
Nothing wrong with that I say!
Quote by lyonnais
If she is not in the mood for sex she is happy for me to masturbate myself while in bed with her. We think we have an adventurous sex life, use sex toys and watch porn.
Again, sounds pretty normal to me
Everyone is different and each to their own. As long as you two are both happy then thats all that matters.
Fee
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Quote by jaymar
...have around 2-3 orgasms a day and sometimes video them on my mobile and send them to him while he's at work :grin:
I like your style
I have been known to send Lairdy my knicks in the post (after having let him know that I've worn them while cumming!) when he was working away from home for a few weeks!
If you knew where he'd been working you would see the naughty side of it!
Fee
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Quote by robhambledon
I think I have the higher sex drive in any event and have around 2-3 orgasms a day and sometimes video them on my mobile and send them to him while he's at work :grin:
my godyour cruel..sending them and him probably throbbing all day
oh shut up man, i'm being honest about masturbation by saying it's pretty normal to do it as I do..
Sexpert
Hah!
Bunch of wankers!
Erm...
there is nothing abnormal about masturbation - sex drives between two people vary and sometimes one partner is horny when the other is not, or sometimes someone comes first (I'm sorry but I can't spell it as 'cums' without thinking i am writing for a readers wives mag).
i think it is perfectly healthy in a sexual relationship to be considerate of the non-comee as it were and to ensure thier pleasure after the intercourse is done, if that makes any sense at all.
Sometimes the hand is better than anything else and other times other bits are preferable, but so long as the relationship is happy then everything is good.
Bunch of wankers!
Erm...
there is nothing abnormal about masturbation - sex drives between two people vary and sometimes one partner is horny when the other is not, or sometimes someone comes first (I'm sorry but I can't spell it as 'cums' without thinking i am writing for a readers wives mag).
i think it is perfectly healthy in a sexual relationship to be considerate of the non-comee as it were and to ensure thier pleasure after the intercourse is done, if that makes any sense at all.
Sometimes the hand is better than anything else and other times other bits are preferable, but so long as the relationship is happy then everything is good.
Quote by deancannock
I think I have the higher sex drive in any event and have around 2-3 orgasms a day and sometimes video them on my mobile and send them to him while he's at work :grin:
think i could get sent a copy as well.... !!
naughty dean, naughty!
(what have I started?? :shock: ) :lol:
Sexlightened
We really have a mix, but quite often, maybe 40% of the time we will make each other cum through masturbation. For Lene it is easier to cum that way and I reallyenjoy being wanked off.
That is why with our swinging we went for Soft Swing.
That is why with our swinging we went for Soft Swing.
Sex God
Lyonnais, to echo others, it's what's right for you two, we are all different in personality and sexually.
For me wanking is purely for periods alone, love it, not as often as Mar :shock: but nonetheless quite regularly. When with others be it Blue or a swinging partner, I much prefer tongues or cocks, but for shed loads of orgasms singular or multiple it has to be mainly oral for me.
pink x
For me wanking is purely for periods alone, love it, not as often as Mar :shock: but nonetheless quite regularly. When with others be it Blue or a swinging partner, I much prefer tongues or cocks, but for shed loads of orgasms singular or multiple it has to be mainly oral for me.
pink x
Quote by blueandpink
Lyonnais, to echo others, it's what's right for you two, we are all different in personality and sexually.
For me wanking is purely for periods alone, love it, not as often as Mar :shock: but nonetheless quite regularly. When with others be it Blue or a swinging partner, I much prefer tongues or cocks, but for shed loads of orgasms singular or multiple it has to be mainly oral for me.
pink x
maybe I should rephrase - that was an average, I do on my own most days and get more from Jay as a nightcap! There are actually days when I don't. :high-smile: For me, I sometimes find it difficult to orgasm thru masturbation, when done by someone else!
So that kind of used to make me feel like there's something wrong with me, it's the same thru Oral!
I just don't know why?
But, it doesn't stop me from enjoying both.
I have accepted the way that I work etc, and that it is just me, that's the way I'm made!
So, were are all different and I don't see anything as a problem or issue, just try to enjoy whatever activity I try and if I don't, then I won't do it!
But I really believe there is No such thing as normal, we are all different and should enjoy that individuality more than worrying about what someone else can or can't do.
So that kind of used to make me feel like there's something wrong with me, it's the same thru Oral!
I just don't know why?
But, it doesn't stop me from enjoying both.
I have accepted the way that I work etc, and that it is just me, that's the way I'm made!
So, were are all different and I don't see anything as a problem or issue, just try to enjoy whatever activity I try and if I don't, then I won't do it!
But I really believe there is No such thing as normal, we are all different and should enjoy that individuality more than worrying about what someone else can or can't do.
