One of the nice things that we find with swinging is that as its such a socially 'iffy' thing to do we have to keep it secret and totally seperate from our day to day lives. We think this is a good thing. If it was an accepted peactice and just another thing adults did it wouldn't be half so interesting.
Keep swinging secret let us keep the nudge nudge wink wink part of it. :thumbup:
Yes.
I like the 'otherness' of recreational-sex, and what may be considered by some as 'perversion'
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I wish it was all out in the open, and as accepted as any other way of life.
If you dont feel comfortable with people knowing you swing then fair enough, keep it secret.
Personally I dont mind who knows
my life, my choices.
I don't really see it as being a secret more just that people have no reason to know what i get upto sexually, its my buisness noone elses, not only that you have to think of more than yourself when telling people about such things, it only takes someone you have told to tell someone else and to have been over heard by their kids and before you know it its all round the school and your children are being bullied for it.
I have told people who are very close to me that i 100% trust, ie my sister and my mother found out and confronted me so i had to admit it, but they are people i know would never let it get back to my children etc, besides that i wouldn't nor do i feel the need to tell people.
I enjoy the naughtiness of keeping our sexy secrets but the odd hint thrown into a convesation is good - can get an exceptionlly favourable reaction too.
Problem if it's too secret you don't get the fun of people suspecting but not knowing - but if not secret enough back to the kids being bullied. A fine line to walk.
I wouldn't dare tell my Mum!!! :eeek:
One keeps a secret usually because one has to, for whatever reasons. There must be some times when it is 'good' to keep a secret, but genrally its a bit of a burden in terms of not being able to unload it or share it; and forever watching what you say because of it.
Ideally it would be better that one did not need secrets. But secrets are usually what makes life 'fun', or at least they are when exposed.
We're with you on this Naughty. For ourselves we're not too bothered if anyone found out but we keep it secret so that it doesn't have an adverse effect on our children.
dunno ifts good to keep it a secret or not.. im only just finding out how to work this site.. most probably depends on how well u can keep a secret.. but its better than lying to yourself eh..
you obviously havent heard about the lady who slipped on a wet floor of a swingclub and broke her foot,all the details of the scene of incident had to be filled on both medical and insuarance reports....at least my friends know what am up to
What I like about swinging is that you can have a fantastic weekend of it, then go into work on the Monday. someone says hi, did you have a good weekend, you can say yeah definitely, and they don't even know the half of it ;)
Swinging is not a secret, but me doing it is.
Save all of you.
Too right it is a good idea to keep it a secret. We do not live in the village yet.
Besides I would have a black eye every time a woman said 'Not tonight Dear, I am...'
I'm a "fuck 'em" kind of guy so I don't keep my sex related activities a secret, at least not any more. Whilst I was with the missus I had to keep 'her' secret, but I'm a great believer in total honesty. I really don't care who knows. If they have a problem with it then ultimately it's their problem not mine.
If friends don't understand then basically they aren't the sort of friends I'd want anyway.
And yes my kids do know of my 'hobby' though obviously I don't share the details... they're old enough to fill the gaps themselves :shock: and it's always handy for embarrassing them them from time to time. Thing is I've always been open that way so it was no real shock when they found out... mind you finding out about their mother and the ex's reaction was worth the cost of the divorce twice over :twisted:
We are very big believers that whatever goes on between consenting adults is fine as long as people don't try force there views onto others.
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