Is it inexperience or an age thing?

25 Jun 2008

I've noticed more recently that when I have attended a club or party with a younger guy (say mid 20s) they don't seem to have a clue how to behave.
There seems to be a pattern forming where they expect me to make all the moves and if I don't they go else where and then return expecting me to want to shag them after, or even worse saying stuff like, 'I didn't realise you were interested'.
Now... I would say that perhaps my methods were wrong, my expectations too high, but when I go out with guys in their 30s+ this doesn't happen. They are more attentive, they make it clear when they fancy me and the chemistry if there soon presents itself resulting in a good night.
So, why is this? Have I been unlucky? Do younger guys geniunley think that because a woman is more mature and knows what she likes, she will rip their clothes off within seconds of meeting them? Or am I doing something wrong? (meeting them you might say!)
Should I give up saying yes to younger men, or are there ones out there that are willing to spend some time with a lady and be confident enough to let them know they are keen?
Personally I am not a forward person and actually prefer it when men do take the lead (mildy subbie even). If the chemistry isn't there I will politely decline without any fuss, but if the chemistry is there then the response is well worth making the effort (well I think so).
What have your experiences been and have they been different from meeting older guys? (you do not have to agree with me to answer as I am interested in all view points, especially that of younger guys).

25 Jun 2008

I think it's partly an age thing, but it's also VERY difficult for men to know what to do and what to expect these days. Younger men lack the confidence and are terrified of making fools of themselves so are reluctant to make the first move until they're sure of what to do.
As you get older you gain the confidence to be more open about what you want, and become a little more used to rejection, so that it doesn't become the end of the world if the woman says 'no'.
I think you just need to be aware of the potential lack of confidence and experience and act accordingly. There's no need to change your preferences. Just be yourself.
kiss

25 Jun 2008

I think you should ditch these young uns and stick with guys around 38-40 ....
Much more reliable ;-)

25 Jun 2008

I would say its a experience thing, I'm 24 and Rich is 42 and my sexual confidence and experience runs rings around his. When going to a club I'm the one to get my kit off first lol

Do you act different with the men in there 20's to the men in there 30's? I find I'm different with people of a certain age.

25 Jun 2008

Quote by Dizzy_DonnaCouple
I would say its a experience thing, I'm 24 and Rich is 42 and my sexual confidence and experience runs rings around his. When going to a club I'm the one to get my kit off first
Do you act different with the men in there 20's to the men in there 30's? I find I'm different with people of a certain age.

Hmmm... self analysis time. Initially no I don't think I do. I am quite chatty and will do what I can to put whoever I am with at ease. I don't make the first move with anyone. Never have done. In my life time I have asked one guy out and I was drunk and my mates egged me on to do it because I kept cooing over him.
I've got to admit at the same party a guy of a similar age who I didn't go with, I did play with because he put his hand on me and stroked my leg. As soon as he did that and I didn't run. I guess he new he was ok to go forward for a kiss which resulted in rather a nice time.
I don't make them jump through hoops lol, just make the first move I guess. I am different with the tried and tested, but then I guess we both know where we stand then.

25 Jun 2008

Was talking to a friend who is on sh but not a full member and she said its prob a age thing she remind me that I'm a very forward person and I alway make the first moves when going with a lad. She said she finds boys in there 20's are quite lazy they expect you to make a move on them.
So maybe its a young bloke thing rolleyes

25 Jun 2008

Quote by Dizzy_DonnaCouple
Was talking to a friend who is on sh but not a full member and she said its prob a age thing she remind me that I'm a very forward person and I alway make the first moves when going with a lad. She said she finds boys in there 20's are quite lazy they expect you to make a move on them.
So maybe its a young bloke thing

This is most definitely a "generational" feature in all areas of life, not just in such circumstances you specify. Confidence indeed comes with age and experience but cockiness can be in abundance. As for manners and decorum, that's down to the parents in my view.

25 Jun 2008

Quote by Steve
I think you should ditch these young uns and stick with guys around 38-40 ....
Much more reliable ;-)

I agree