Sex God
Lets be honest here who thinks its normal to swing? I mean to go about shagging other peoples partners who they love and who love them forever willy nilly I try as I might I dont understand it I think its weird and peverse.
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I have answered yes in the poll, but if you had asked me 2-3yrs ago I would have said no, but swinging has spiced up our relationship so much and added a new twinkle to our eyes...
Don't get me wrong no one in the vanilla world knows what we do!!!! It is our little secret
Which we love indulging in with certain people on this site :D :D
Don't get me wrong no one in the vanilla world knows what we do!!!! It is our little secret
Which we love indulging in with certain people on this site :D :D
I have no idea who is in a position to answer that definitively. From my perspective it is normal. Just like my being queer/bi/lesbian. As with all the labels I use I accept that others may not feel the same and I choose whom I speak to about it. Their understanding of normal is different because everyone is unique.
My measure is whether I am hurting anyone and the answer is no, so yes. It is normal
My measure is whether I am hurting anyone and the answer is no, so yes. It is normal
Why do people keep asking what's normal? 
it's such a grey area to even begin to describe. What's normal to me may be bizarre to another.
As for swinging, don't know about it being 'normal' but it's kind of 'forbidden', 'horny', 'naughty', 'sexy' and very very enjoyable..... maybe that is normal? :haha:
it's such a grey area to even begin to describe. What's normal to me may be bizarre to another.As for swinging, don't know about it being 'normal' but it's kind of 'forbidden', 'horny', 'naughty', 'sexy' and very very enjoyable..... maybe that is normal? :haha:
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Lets be honest here who thinks its normal to swing? I mean to go about shagging other peoples partners who they love and who love them forever willy nilly I try as I might I dont understand it I think its weird and peverse.
Your comment above does raise a question in my mind about you and why your here, but I will leave the airing of the actual question to others who have been around on Swinging Heaven longer than me.
I think in a way Lost's question is a bit 'tongue in cheek', 'cos he abs loves it, doncha Lost?
Master of Sex
absolutely outside the norm in society in general,which is why the media love a juicy titillates the masses or offends the holier than thou ones.
in our little community here it`s normal to the point of being the reason most of us are here.
in our little community here it`s normal to the point of being the reason most of us are here.
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I have no idea who is in a position to answer that definitively. From my perspective it is normal. Just like my being queer/bi/lesbian. As with all the labels I use I accept that others may not feel the same and I choose whom I speak to about it. Their understanding of normal is different because everyone is unique.
My measure is whether I am hurting anyone and the answer is no, so yes. It is normal
ffs :doh: to say yes or no wud be nice!
I mean friends! Sex God
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Lets be honest here who thinks its normal to swing? I mean to go about shagging other peoples partners who they love and who love them forever willy nilly I try as I might I dont understand it I think its weird and peverse.
Your comment above does raise a question in my mind about you and why your here, but I will leave the airing of the actual question to others who have been around on Swinging Heaven longer than me.
I think in a way Lost's question is a bit 'tongue in cheek', 'cos he abs loves it, doncha Lost?
Don't know what you mean :shock: But the term 'normal' is delightfully ambiguous isn't it
What is normal?
This a part of our lives now that we enjoy so I put yes!
If you had asked me about a year ago my answer would have been no!
Just shows what a year in the life of SH can do for you!
So all you people that read the forums and haven't come through the door. You don't know what you are missing until you try it!
Mind you that is just my opinion! :lol:
This a part of our lives now that we enjoy so I put yes!
If you had asked me about a year ago my answer would have been no!
Just shows what a year in the life of SH can do for you!
So all you people that read the forums and haven't come through the door. You don't know what you are missing until you try it!
Mind you that is just my opinion! :lol:
Sex God
It isnt normal imo if it was we wouldnt keep it a secret would we
Sex God
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Lets be honest here who thinks its normal to swing? I mean to go about shagging other peoples partners
By your definition, meeting with a single person isn't swinging, or isn't normal?
Ian
meeting single people!! god no Ian how awful would that be
I was thinking of us as a couple meeting other couples if i'm honest
Admittedly not very inclusive really and very very bad of me im ashamed and apalled at my lack of sensitivity - to the singles out there I know there is one or two Ian your right though i am sorry honest i am
Sex God
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If it was normal you'd be bumping into your parents 'doing' the neighbours in Tesco's.
Yeah but would I laugh
I think I might
Sex God
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Yes it is normal to swing...
...if one goes commando :P
If more than one go commando do they call it going squad?
Sex God
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If it was normal you'd be bumping into your parents 'doing' the neighbours in Tesco's.
I did my neighbor over the freezer and got banned from tesco :shock:
Is it normal? errrrrm, nope :lol2: Not if you are using the term normal in the 'socially acceptable' meaning.
Is it normal in this community? well yeah
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It isnt normal imo if it was we wouldnt keep it a secret would we
thats what i thought, to me swinging is normal, i know i couldnt be in a relationship where by i wasnt still swinging to some extent. its who i am , not just what i do.
but normal to the general census then no, cuse if it was i would be even more open about it.
i do tend to be open, but when i am some vanila people think im joking lol
i have met people over the years that have been doing swinging for a while, then stopped, thats fine. i dont constantly swing day and night lol but when im not doing the deed(eddited as i typed dead first ) as such, i still consider myself to be a swinger.
i find a lot of singles swing till they meet another single swinger , then they stop cuse they say they have found their love lol im not sure i understand that on all levels. but i still dont judge.
sometimes i feel like people drift in here ( not just the site but swinging in general) and drift back out.
some have said maybe i should stop this and settle down lol if i did that i would be denying who i am.
im not slating anyone whos married and playing away, but i couldnt do that. so if needs must i will stay single but stay true to myself and remain happy.
so is it normal to me yes, to general society nope.
sorry long winded reply
xx fem xx
Sex God
:shock: Fem, you been inside my head again? :shock:
Sex God
Define normal? :mrgreen:
Is normal normal? Is it not normal to be different in some way?
If people are general not normal, that is like others, then we being abnormal must therefore be normal.
Therefore swinging must be normal, and anyone who thinks they are normal, ie. like everyone else must be abnormal.
Is that clearer now?
If people are general not normal, that is like others, then we being abnormal must therefore be normal.
Therefore swinging must be normal, and anyone who thinks they are normal, ie. like everyone else must be abnormal.
Is that clearer now?
Sex God
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Is normal normal? Is it not normal to be different in some way?
If people are general not normal, that is like others, then we being abnormal must therefore be normal.
Therefore swinging must be normal, and anyone who thinks they are normal, ie. like everyone else must be abnormal.
Is that clearer now?
As mud! Thank you!
Oh... and I'm definitely not normal! :mrgreen:
