I would say yes - provided it is done in a kindly way with explanations as to why and for all the right reasons.
You seem to be doing that but I guess you can never tell how a friend will react to it. You are taking a brave but generous risk I reckon.
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is it bullying? i guess it some ways it is as you are what could be seen as pushing someone into doing something they dont want to, except different to other bullying its what is really in their best interest.
be very carefull, if someone is feeling low, no self worth,negative and even with all the good intentions in the world you are trying to help try and balance it out to not be all nagging, pushing and question asking. it can be seen as constant critisisum and just another reason to bury their heads in the sand.
after all who wants to be told of our errors constantly.
make sure you offer plenty of praise and positives along the way.
you dont want to add to the burden of " ive fucked up and even pissed flower off now aswell, whats the point in carrying on?"
or they shut you out and then no one can get in to help.
true friends are hard to come by, and dont forget your self in all this, you will start feeling the stress.
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look after your self flower xx
can i add the CAB
are a great source of advice and help to anyone whos facing money problems and dont have a friend like flower.
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thats what's called supporting a friend and trying to help sort the mess out,bullying is a very strong word in this case
Sometimes you have to be cruel to be kind. My sister suffers from depression and lazy-itus. When she is really down to get her to do the most simplist of tasks is such a chore, I have to call her daily to make sure things are done, drive her to places to makesure things get done. To some my actions could be seen a bullying but without some interference i'm not quite sure where she would end up!.
Flower I don’t see it as bullying I see it as being a true friend, true friends are one still there when times are hard and every other bugger had disappeared.
But be careful!
I helped a friend once, I helped move her, spent the night packing everything, stay with her the next day, helped sort her out.
Decorated her whole flat every room, gave her a shoulder to cry on when times were hard, and was always there when she needed me.
Because I forgot a meal date with her I have never been forgiven.
So all I would say is be really careful you don’t do it all for nothing.
But I wish you good luck, sounds like a hard task.
flower, i don't think it is bullying, you are just trying to help her out of her problems.
I think she should be glad that she has you as a friend to help work through it with her .
As someone who deals with this sort of situation through work day in day out, i know how bad it can get and your friend is only at the lighter end of the scale.
For anyone who knows someone or wants to help people out there are loads of advices and assistance ranging either, face to face over the telephone from the community legal aid to the citizens advice
to websites such as the consumer action group and martin lewis website money saving expert
It's never right to bully anyone
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